Unfortunately, not all men want to give women oral pleasure or in other words – cunnilingus. There are many reasons for this, from a lack of experience and the fear that the intended result will not be achieved, to the principle of “this is not for me”. Here are the most common reasons why men don’t want to do it.
He finds it unpleasant
Some men find that licking a woman’s vagina is simply not pleasant. Just as some women do not want to orally satisfy their partner, they do not want to do cunnilingus.
She does not ask for it
There are many reasons why women do not express their wishes: some are shy to admit what they like, others do not want to put pressure on their partner, while others simply do not know what they like.
Man is not sure about his skills
Some men may be intimidated by the complexity of cunnilingus. After all, we’ve mentioned in previous articles that every woman’s vagina is different, and a woman’s anatomy is much more complex than a man’s. Moreover, even if a man has theoretically mastered everything, he can do so in a way that the woman will not like. After all, women so often fake orgasms and apparent arousal that men often have no opportunity to learn from mistakes. If you are unsure of your skills, take a look here (Cunnilingus Guide – Things Beginners Need to Know) and here (Cunnilingus guide – techniques and best poses).
Some men are selfish
Sometimes there is nothing left in the mind of an aroused man but one thought – his own orgasm.
5 Most Common Mistakes Men Make while giving cunnilingus
They believe that every woman’s body is the same
It is easy to assume that what one woman likes will be liked by another. However, each woman’s intimate areas are different, so do not think that what your ex liked will appeal to the next.
Lack of interest in what the partner likes
Communication is the key in every aspect of a relationship. Before you start kissing her, tell her what you will do with her and ask her what she thinks about it.
The belief that he already knows everything
Men often think that women will get orgasm from simple penetration. Therefore, they tend to believe that the tongue should be used just like the fingers or the penis. Of course, deeper penetration of the tongue into the vagina is pleasing, but by doing this one technique alone, she will definitely not experience an orgasm. Your mission is to stimulate the clitoris, and penetrating the vagina can only be an additional aid in this process.
Too fast
Cunnilingus is an amazing journey in which all parts are equally important. Enjoy it, take your time and immerse yourself with your partner. Oral sex is a marathon, not a sprint.
Too short
You probably wouldn’t last more than 5 minutes if a particularly talented partner gave you oral sex. Remember that women are different. Women need a lot more time to warm up properly, so be patient. On average, a woman experiences an orgasm in 20 minutes, so be prepared to sweat. Giving a woman an orgasm during oral sex will definitely reward you – it’s a really hard, time-consuming job. Cunnilingus art is also a great way to show a woman that you know what you’re doing, trust yourself and that you can be a great lover. When you master this art, your partner will look at you with different eyes, so go ahead, gentlemen!