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  • I’m shure that working in the sex industry is my calling: 5 stories about how women get into it

    I’m shure that working in the sex industry is my calling: 5 stories about how women get into it

    Confessions of intimate service providers, apparently, can find answers to the question of how people come to the step, get involved in the sex industry, where to look for clients and what to become after such drastic changes.

    Story No. 1

    When I was 15, I lived with my family, but the atmosphere at home was like a nightmare. I wanted to earn money and start an independent life as soon as possible. I grew up in the Bronx (an area of New York with a bad reputation). Most of my friends were older than me. They introduced me to it. We were taken to various bars whose owners paid a fixed hourly rate for the time we spent there. If strangers paid for our cocktails, the reward went up.

    I looked at such activities as a kind of entertainment. To be honest, I didn’t think I was a prostitute, although I sometimes agreed to fulfill men’s fantasies, so I basically made a living with my body. I think this was the first step towards a systematic surrender to finding clients who can pay for sex. I worked as a go-go dancer for a while, and by the time I was in the senior classes, I was already supported by older fans.

    “Now, looking back and thinking about the work, I somehow started to understand that the sex industry is nothing more than our society as a whole. Likewise, someone will always treat you like a sex object, whether you like it or not.”

    I have also worked on camera, I have tried role playing games, I have provided escort services. I am shure that being in the sex industry is my calling.

    I believe the sex industry should be decriminalized, although I don’t think it should be legalized. I would hate for the government to have the power to decide what I can do with my body. Working in this industry allows us to remain independent (obviously because we do it voluntarily and not by force).

    I'm shure that working in the sex industry is my calling

    Story No. 2

    When I was a freshman, I was raped in the university dormitories. This event destroyed me. In order to regain the ground under my feet, which was slowly slipping away, and the ability to regain control over my life, I decided to take on an artistic project in which I gave myself the role of a dominatrix (a woman who takes the dominating role in BDSM sexual activities). So I took on the role of a woman who “kills” her classmates in front of the building where he raped me. Doing so made me feel strong and beautiful like never before. I enjoyed the knowledge that my nightmare was slowly turning into my power territory.

    I’ve always been impressed by dominatrices in general. I looked up to them as goddesses. At first I took on their role just for fun. Everything changed when the other dominatrix women explained to me that the men I was having fun with were clients and therefore had to pay me. “Your acting is worth the money,” she said. And it has been almost a year since this is my profession.

    Working in the sex industry forced me to change. I’m happy about that. The most important thing that my current job has helped me realize is that no one else has the right to decide how to use my body but myself.

    As a dark-skinned woman, I often have to face manifestations of objectification and fetishization. However, it was only because I got into the sex industry that I was able to feel sexy again. And if someone wants to use me or my time, let them pay for it.

    Of course, the sex industry has its downsides. For example, I get upset when other women want to shame me for what I do. They try to argue, to explain to me what they don’t like. They all resemble men trying to discuss feminist ideas. Why do they talk about what they do not understand at all?

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    Story No. 3

    I got involved in the sex industry while still studying at university. I had to pay for education, housing and everything I needed for my studies (I studied fashion design). It is probably already clear that I needed money and a lot of it. I started selling my underwear online. Unfortunately, income continued to decline, and the choice of the sex industry seemed quite attractive.

    I identify as non-binary (one who does not identify with one of the two traditional genders of male or female) because I have never tended to identify with my physical characteristics. That’s why online sex services are perfect for me.

    This kind of work gives me pleasure – I like to communicate, contact people and sell my services in such a way that I do not face risk, but at the same time I am able to meet the needs of clients.

    I think the beauty of the sex industry is that you can make your own rules and boundaries. I know a lot of people who do cam-work, sexting or selling their underwear for money.

    The provision of sexual services covers much more areas than many imagine. It is possible to make up your own mind about fetishes and what seems acceptable, and to share your experiences with others. Communication doesn’t have to be all about sex. Clients can be found on various portals – Instagram, FetLife, Seeking Arrangements, Kiek, Twitter, Tumblr. Their ages range from college students to men in their seventies. I mostly sell underwear and engage in sexting, taking on the role of a virtual lover.

    My clients include single guys, newly divorced men and even transgender people. As you can see, you have to work with different people and be in different niches. It’s amazing because I basically offer the same services, but each person is interested in them for their own reasons. The Internet can satisfy any desire, making it the perfect tool for those working in the sex industry.

    Story No. 4

    I knew very early on that I wanted to work in the sex industry. I started going to strip clubs when I was only 12-13 years old. I was always impressed by striptease dancers, so I was going to do something similar, only without allowing physical contact with other people. So I chose a cam-work. The work is similar to striptease, but everything happens on the Internet.

    When I became a cam model, I became interested in fetishism and everything related to it. My work has everything. Customers sometimes even call me brownie. Sitting on a cake without panties and enjoying it sexually is also one of the sexual practices classified as fetishism. During virtual conversations, I often hear requests to sit on some objects to flatten them.

    I’m interested in the balance between something really beautiful, delicate and clean and at the same time sexy and exciting. By doing this kind of work, I started to feel my body differently. I know every inch of it. I know exactly how I look because I spend most of my days in front of the camera. Working in the sex industry actually only helped to increase self-confidence, deepened the understanding of how to use your body when interacting with people. Now I know very well who I really am and I always try to be myself. I’m not trying to hide or embellish anything. Honestly, since being in the sex industry became my day job, I haven’t met any of my clients in real life.

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    Story No. 5

    I find clients in nightclubs. I usually go to the tables where top-class French champagne is standing or ask the waiters to show the most generous orders of the guests and choose the table with the biggest bill.

    The lives of sex workers can be very varied. For example, I am surrounded by glamor – designer handbags, trips in the most luxurious cars (I never use public transport). I manage to get what I want. And get it fast.

    Since we are perceived as a fantasy, it is not worth taking anything to heart. I get paid and I make their dreams come true. This image is especially impressive for wealthy older men and people looking for escort services. The more pronounced the ethnic features, the more beautiful the figure and face, the greater the demand. Of course, you have to know how to use it.

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  • Confession of an escort girl: “I do not envy these men’s wives”

    Confession of an escort girl: “I do not envy these men’s wives”

    Continuing the series of stories of our escort girls, one more woman shared her experience – let’s call her Lola. The interview with her makes you wonder why men buy escort girls. There is neither love nor commitment in this relationship. He pays – she provides confidentiality, sex and a nice time.

    Since there are no dates or love here, I get the feeling that escort girls have seen the side of men that most women never see. In addition, I can say almost clearly that she knows men better than most women ever will. This time more about what sex workers think about their male clients, dating and sex.

    Tell me, what do most men want when they order escort girls?

    Guys who buy escort girls are just looking for a fantasy. Yes, some are looking for sex, while others just want the company of a girl who, to be honest, wouldn’t even pay him attention if there were no money.

    Can you explain what you mean by “fantasy”?

    Most of the men I serve are married or in a relationship. Office staff, lawyers, men with three children at home. Even if they are rich, they seem stressful and unhappy. At home, they have a pile of dirty diapers, an annoyed wife, and a stressful job – a million things.

    From what I have seen, men often want to escape from it. They want to spend time with a nice woman who behaves as if they are the center of the universe, even if it’s only for an hour. They want to feel attractive.

    Another thing they like about escort girls is the illusion of control. They have control over their imagination. They decide what we will do, and they know I will not reject him. They know I will be ready to do what they want.

    What do you wear as an escort girl?

    Not what most women would expect. I dress in classic clothes. I usually dress like an ordinary woman attending a social event. Men are not particularly fond of fishnet stockings or leather clothes. They usually want a beautiful, tidy and intelligent girl.

    I think it is because they are frightened by the idea of ​​a shady girl who has obviously been with many others.

    Men become very insecure when they are with a girl who has had more sex than themselves. If you dress in classic clothes, men at least have the illusion that you are “innocent and clean.”

    You said that these men are often in a relationship. Have you ever wondered why they cheat?

    That is obvious. Some men, let me be direct, are complete jerks. There is no other way to say it. These men will never be loyal, even if they are with a supermodel. They want more, more and more. They think they deserve more because they have more money. They don’t care about their wives, just themselves.

    Others feel that they have dedicated their whole lives to others, so he now has the right to have fun with an escort girl.

    Some men are just unhappy. Many wives simply ignore or underestimate their husbands. Sometimes their wives just stop caring for themselves and lose their beauty. Other times, wives stop having sex or even touching their men. In such cases, I feel sorry for these men.

    There is often such sadness in their eyes. Sometimes after sex men just cry in my arms because they want to be able to get the same from their wives.

    That sounds awful!

    Yes it is! It messes with their minds. It makes them feel insecure about themselves!

    Let’s talk about the lack of self-confidence. What insecurities about men have you noticed that most women might not have noticed?

    Well, first of all, you won’t really buy sex if you’re completely confident. Most guys are aware that sleeping with an attractive woman will boost his self-esteem.

    I think men never feel completely satisfied with who they are. Of course, most men want to hear that they are great in bed. They want to see lust in a woman’s eyes. Some just want to feel nice and cared about.

    The others? All they want to hear is the excitement of their success.

    Lonely people tend to be much more insecure and depressed than married men.

    It sounds like you have to talk alot with them.

    Completely agree! 100%. You see, one thing women don’t understand is how often guys just want to let out their emotions. The problem is that they are worried that the girls will condemn them. They are afraid to ask for compliments and are afraid of being considered “too weak”, which makes them close in.

    Most men crave women who do not judge them. Every time they hear the phrase about his penis that is too small, his body that is not fit enough, or that he is doing something wrong, they close in.

    The thing is, they can’t keap it all in for a long time and hope that everything will be fine – they need to let it out somehow. It is enough for other men to chat with me because they know I will not judge them.

    Let’s talk about sex. Do they ask crazy things?

    No. Most men really just want a blowjob and simple gentle sex. You’d be surprised how many men hire an escort because they don’t have sex at home. Most men aren’t really that weird, even with escort girls. And most men who like strange things usually choose professional dominant women.

    Would you say that most of them have a happy marriage?

    That’s hard to say. Some just want to have some fun. I doubt their wives are happy if they find out. But it seems that these guys are generally happy with their lives. Others just don’t get enough from their ladies, so they come to me. They do not want to leave their wives because they feel comfortable in their marriage.

    Who are really unhappy? Those whose marriage is already dead – no lust, no sex, no love, no kind words… I don’t blame them.

    How has working in the sex industry changed your view of men?

    I feel disappointed in them. I feel sad that they can’t obtain approval in any other way. But at the same time, I feel a little distrust. So many married men! How can I expect a man to be loyal after seeing it all?

    I can’t understand why men can’t openly talk to their wives – tell them about their needs and feelings. If they did, there would be no such thing as escort girls.

    What about single guys?

    Many of the lonely guys I meet are inexperienced. They do not know how to meet girls and are very nervous about sex. They often just need to raise their self-esteem. Many of them come to me only once, which means I take their virginity, and then they have enough confidence to meet a girl. However, most single boys who meet escort girls are very depressed.

    Do you have any advice for men?

    We have a saying: “If a man treated his wife like his whore, it would be the best marriage in the world.” Seriously! Many have given me gifts, taken me shopping, tried to propose, mostly everyone is very kind and polite. Only a small portion of men are rude.

    Most clients treat me better than my partners did when I was in a relationship. From what I’ve seen, my clients treat me better than their wives too. I feel sorry for their wives. Very sorry. For this reason, I no longer have a serious relationship.

    I really want more men to try to talk to their wives. About everything! Or better yet, meet girls who accept them for who they really are.

    Honestly, I think this is a big problem in today’s society. I cannot name how many men have offered to leave their wives for me.

    From what they have told me, I can tell you that many of my clients are married because they felt they just had to. But then the girl judges him, ignores him and can’t fully accept him. This is terrible, and it is a foolish mistake. I mean, who really wants to be married to someone who judges him so much?

    Do you have any advice for women?

    YES! First of all, if you have a relationship, don’t take your man for granted. Invest in making everyday life exciting and sexy. And most importantly – take care of yourself! Otherwise, he will want to feel lust elsewhere, or he will just get up and leave.

    Next, if I were you, I would really try to force my man to speak openly and directly about his desires, feelings and everything else. Don’t judge what he sais, just accept it! Boys often have no one to talk to.

    Third, you must understand that monogamy is not for everyone, but double standards are good for none. If he cheats on you and expects you to be loyal, you have to walk away! It’s not fair to you! If you want, try an open relationship, but still stop settling for these things. I’ve seen what cheating does to women, you don’t want that.

    And finally, I really want you to know how many men are really unsure of themselves. Believe me, encouraging conversation, compliments and admiration for men can never be too much. Do it and he will melt in your hands.

  • Celebrities who have worked in the sex industry

    Celebrities who have worked in the sex industry

    Channing Tatum isn’t the only celebrity to make money working in the sex industry – and we’re not talking about the movie Magic Mike. As it turns out, many other actors and musicians used to make money by undressing. From Brad Pitt to Lady Gaga and Mark Consuelos of Riverdale, you’ll be surprised to see some very unexpected words on this list.

    Whether it was a one-time job or a career that lasted several years, some of our favorite Hollywood stars, danced exotic dances, strip teased, or even did prostitution before the big show, and were not ashamed of their past. In fact, Cardi B gained fame by talking directly about her career as a stripper in a Vine video.

    CELEBRITIES WHO HAVE WORKED IN SEX INDUSTRY.

    Cardi B

    Cardi B climbed the career ladder from dancing on dollar bills to making a million. The hit song ”Bodak Yellow” author began her career as an exotic dancer at the age of 18. The job helped her pay her bills, but the rapper said she stopped stripping in 2015 after seeing her career go a different way.


    Chris Pratt

    Chris Pratt turned out to be a sexy superhero from a nerd in the series ”Parks and Recreation”, but did you know that he worked as a stripper before gaining fame? During a 2015 ”Buzzfeed” interview, the actor revealed that he used to undress for money while living in a van in Hawaii. “I always enjoyed undressing. I was a freethinker, so I thought – I can get money for it too”. However, he admitted that he was not the best dancer, so it was difficult to get an invitation to dance in a real club.


    Lady Gaga
    Before Lady Gaga became an award-winning singer we know and love, she was a burlesque dancer in Manhattan. Although the pop star has been very secretive about her past over the years, she has only recently confirmed that she has made money in the past by stripping. “I made more money than a waitress,” she told Andy Cohen in an interview on Watch What Happens Live.

    Mark Consuelos
    Mark Consuelos is probably one of Riverdale’s sexiest fathers, but in reality, he also earned money by stripping. In his 2012 interview with Vanity Fair, his wife, Kelly Rip, revealed the actor’s stripper’s past, saying, “Many Hollywood hot guys have done it.” At first, he was a fellow of a group of guys, and in that time, he was persuaded to undress himself to earn money.

    Blac Chyna
    Before becoming a reality star and entrepreneur, Blac Chyna worked as a stripper at Miami’s famous King of Diamonds Club. While working there, she also met her son’s father and ex-fiancé, Tyga. During a 2016 Facebook Live video, Chyna said she would probably still be a stripper if she hadn’t been to Hollywood.

    Brad Pitt
    This might come as a surprise to many, but it turns out that Brad Pitt used to be naked during college at the University of Missouri. The actor was part of a club called Dancing Bares who performed on students’ birthdays. One of Pete’s friends even discovered that at a girl’s 21st birthday party, they were dancing completely naked – with pillowcases on their heads.

    Channing Tatum
    Channing Tatum is Magic Mike in real life as well. Although the actor has admitted that he did not enjoy his days as a stripper, his story resulted in a huge Hollywood hit. “I made $ 150 a good night. On a bad night, $ 70 – sometimes as much as $ 50,” he told The Hollywood Reporter in 2014.

    Carmen Electra
    Before her Baywatch fame, Carmen Electra was a stripper in the early 1990s. But she never forgot her roots. The actress later released her striptease bar brand and a collection of striptease fitness videos.

    Amber Rose
    Model Amber Rose says that her strip days were one of the best in her life. In 2015, she told ”Cosmopolitan” that she first started undressing when she was only 15 years old, but soon realized that it was not going to continue. She tried again when she was 18 and continued to make money with it until she was 25. “Oh, my God, I had so much fun. I really did,” she told the magazine. “I was young, beautiful, I was on stage, I wasn’t really ashamed of my body. “

    Mike ‘The Situation’ Sorrentino
    Jersey Shore star Mike “The Situation” Sorrentino was a stripper during college. The star of the reality show, who showed his movements during the MTV show, was named Vito Durado during his career.

    Eve
    Just two years before gaining fame, Eve danced at the Bronx Strip Club. It was there that she met Mase, who helped her start, her music career. She told Rolling Stone in 1999: “I don’t regret it – I was eighteen and confused about personal problems. I did it for about a month and I was glad I did. It helped me find Eve, it helped me get serious.”

    Dee Dee Ramone
    According to the 2013 Vice profile, Ramone singer Dee Dee Ramone was addicted to heroin and eventually turned to prostitution to pay for drugs.

    Azealia Banks
    Just before the debut single “212” hit the charts, Azealia Banks tried their hand at stripping. However, in a 2014 interview with The Daily Beast, she admitted that dancing naked is not quite her thing. “I worked at this little strip club and it was a low point in my life, but I wanted some quick money,” she told the site. “I was so inexperienced. That was not my thing at all. I was only there for two weekends, and then I left because “212” became popular.”

    Rozanna Barra
    Rozanna Barra discovered that she had previously worked as a prostitute to earn money. She told Vanity Fair that she was not ashamed of being a sex worker and that she believed prostitution should be legal. “Prostitution is a business,” she said. “It’s not about medieval joy daughters. It’s a great way to make money. ”