The Ways bija gravīru grāmata, kurā attēlotas sešpadsmit seksuālās pozīcijas. Padomājiet par to kā par “kamasutra” renesanses laikā. Grāmatu, kas pazīstama arī kā Sešpadsmit prieki, 1524. gadā izdeva gravieris Markantonio Raimondi. Raimondi savas izteiksmīgās ilustrācijas balstīja uz virkni erotisku, privātīpašumā esošo Džulio Romano gleznu. Grāmata tika plaši izplatīta. Tā rezultātā katoļu baznīca pirmo reizi ierosināja apsūdzību par pornogrāfiju. Raimondi ieslodzīja pāvests Klements VII. Visi grāmatas eksemplāri tika iznīcināti.
Mūsu stāsts ar to nebeidzas, jo dzejnieks un satīriķis Pjetro Aretino dzirdēja par grāmatu un vēlējās redzēt Romano oriģinālās gleznas. Interesanti, ka pāvests nesūdzēja Romano, jo viņa gleznas (atšķirībā no Raimondi grāmatas) nebija paredzētas publiskam patēriņam. Aretino nolēma uzrakstīt virkni erotisku sonetu, kas papildinātu gleznas. Viņš arī veiksmīgi aģitēja, lai Raimondi atbrīvotu no cietuma.
1527 gadā tika izdots otrais I Modi izdevums ar Aretino sonetiem. Pāvests vēlreiz aizliedz grāmatu, un visi eksemplāri tikai iznīcināti — ir saglabājušies tikai daži nelieli I Modi vai Aretino pozu fragmenti, kas glabājas Britu muzejā. 1627 gadā Francijā tika izdota pilnīgi jauna I Modi versija ar nosaukumu L’Arétin d’Augustin Carrache ou Recueil de Postures Érotiques, d’Après les Gravures à l’Eau-Forte par cet Artiste Célèbre, Avec le Texte Publicētais Explicatif Tika. Karači “Aretīno” jeb erotisku pozu kolekcija pēc Karači gravīrām, kuras autors ir šis slavenais mākslinieks ar skaidriem tekstiem par šo tēmu), kas balstīta uz baroka laika gleznotāja Agostini Karači gravējumiem.
Šīs 18. gadsimta gravīras sajauca klasisko mītu un vēsturi mūsdienu vidē, lai gan to nolūks joprojām ir tāds pats, lai pamudinātu un “izglītotu” lietotājus par seksa priekiem
Grāmatas priekšpuse – mīlestības, seksa, skaistuma un auglības dieviete Venera, kas nolaižas ratos.Vīrs un sieva Parisa un Oenone izmēģina seksu viens otram blakus.Satīrs un Nimfa demonstrē misionāra pozīciju.Andželika un Medors — divi varoņi no operas “Rolands” – izpilda “reverse cowgirl”, lai gan tolaik viņiem, iespējams, bija cits nosaukums.Džūlija ar kādu sportistu nodarbojas ar kaislīgu reverse cowgirl variāciju.Pandora atver savu lādi?
A bed is good for two things: sleep and sex (although both of these activities can happen in other places as well). The bedroom is the location of these two activities, and it turns out that sex and sleep are closely related. A new study suggests that poor sleep quality can lead to problems in the bedroom, namely sexual dysfunction in women.
Mayo Clinic researchers surveyed more than 3,400 women in the United States about their sleep habits and sexual behavior. The study measured sexual desire, arousal, wetness, orgasm, satisfaction and pain during sex.
It was found that women who slept poorly were more likely to have unhappy sex lives. 63.3 percent of women who reported getting less than 5 hours of sleep each night had higher levels of sexual dysfunction, and scores on the Sexual Functioning Index were significantly lower than women who slept 7 or more hours a night. Sexually active women were more likely to report good sleep quality compared to sexually inactive women.
“This study highlights the link between poor sleep quality and sexual dysfunction. These are two common problems in middle-aged women that can be addressed to improve quality of life,” said study author Dr. Stephanie Fabion.
The researchers did not look for a specific explanation for this connection between a good sex life and good sleep. They found correlation, not causation. In addition, the study has several limitations that should be considered. Its participants were predominantly light-skinned, educated and in relationships, so the findings may not reflect the general population. The study also did not mention the sexual orientation of the participants.
However, many aspects of well-being and health are closely related to the quality of sleep we enjoy every day. Other studies have linked sleep deprivation to depression, neurodegeneration and Alzheimer’s disease. Additional research shows that poor sleep can also affect men’s sexual function. A 2011 study found that sleep deprivation led to lower levels of testosterone, the hormone responsible for most of our sex drive, in young, healthy men.
Another study found that men suffering from sleep apnea (a sleep disorder in which breathing stops for a while) were more likely to have erectile dysfunction and a general decrease in sexual activity.
A good sex life is obviously a complex thing that varies from person to person and from relationship to relationship. This also applies to everything else, from health and wellness to personal choices and lifestyle. However, if you want to improve your sex life, we recommend that you get a good night sleep more often.
“I was on my way to work and I was listening to a podcast where hosts told how nine years ago they decided to experiment with sex – making love every day for two months – and how it improved their marriage. I listened and wondered if it would be possible to conduct such an experiment with my husband John.
At the time, we had sex about once a week, not as much as we thought married couples should have sex. But it wasn’t because we didn’t want more sex.
We have four children, ages 1, 5, 7, and 9, we both work full-time, and are completely exhausted by the evening. Also, I take anti-depressants which reduce my sex drive. I thought about all this and wondered if I wanted to participate in a two-month experiment of daily sex. If I offered John an experiment, there would be no going back,” says Jessica Migal, author of womenshealthmag.com.
“I finally decided that this kind of experiment would really strengthen our marriage, and I texted my husband after I left for work. This intrigued him, and he proposed to begin the experiment that very evening.
We decided to make simple rules – we will have sex every day for two months, except for days when one of us is sick, one of us is on a business trip or I have my period.
At first it was very unusual to discuss sex in such a practical way. The first night, after my husband put the kids to bed, I climbed into bed and undressed. Usually before sex, we did a little preparation – we went to dinner, I put on something nice. But even without this it was fun. This experience was relaxing. There were no more questions about whether we were going to make love or not, no more tension, no need to dress for the occasion, no need to plan anything.
After a few days of the experiment, an interesting thing happened – John became more relaxed and playful when he put the children to bed. When I told him that, he said that no matter how long it takes to put the kids to bed, it doesn’t stress him anymore because he knows there’s going to be sex afterwards.
As the sex experiment, as we both called it, continued, I noticed that John was becoming more relaxed in all areas of his life. For example, anxiety about money matters decreased. We continued to discuss the budget, only these talks were less tense.
During sex, hormones of happiness are produced – dopamine and oxytocin, maybe they helped to keep calm. Whatever the reason, one thing was clear: sex helped him relax and brought us both closer together.
For me, daily sex quickly became a way to relax and bond with my husband. In fact, after a while, I noticed that my libido increased.
I think the feeling of being wanted every day increased my sex drive.
On a daily basis, planned sex may not seem as romantic or passionate as spontaneous sex, but in reality, we just lacked romance and spiciness. We no longer had to prove something to the other person or make a special effort just to get sex in the evening. We both knew there was going to be sex, so we took our time, sometimes including massage, listening to music, because we both wanted to please the other.
I’ll admit, when we started making love almost every day, sometimes I looked at other couples and thought to myself, “We make love much more often than you do.”
When the experiment was over, none of us wanted to break the established rhythm, so we decided to continue. Now we make love at least six times a week, John initiates sex three days a week, I initiate the other three days, and one day a week each of us can initiate. Role reversal is very important because my husband also wants to feel wanted. If he initiates sex more often than I do, he thinks I don’t want to have sex with him, even though I do. In fact, the anti-depressants I take make me not want to have sex until I consciously think about it, so our plan works for both of us.
We’ve been married 15 years, both about to turn 40, and made love almost every day for five months. A new habit of having sex is often an investment in ourselves, and I truly believe that it will pay off in the future. This habit strengthens our connection, makes us more relaxed. For this reason, John and I agreed to continue the sex experiment in the near future. It goes without saying that obstacles may arise, someone may get sick, you may have to go on a business trip – that’s life. If our new rhythm falls apart, I know we’ll still want to start it up again as soon as we get a chance. After all, we already understood – this new habit gives and will give many benefits.”
The positive side effects of sex are quite surprising, but the conclusions of scientists do not lie – if you make love more, you will be healthier and look younger. What are the signs that you are not having enough sex?
You constantly catch viruses
People who have regular sex have 30% more antibodies in their blood, so they are less likely to get the flu and other colds and infections.
You are not satisfied with your breast size
It’s unbelievable, but a fact: regular sex increases breast size. Everything is very simple: sex improves blood circulation.
Your memory is getting worse
With each orgasm, new neurons are born in the human brain, and cognitive function is improved, which helps to think more clearly. During orgasm, blood circulates in the body at maximum speed.
Oxygenated blood reaches all organs, including the brain.
You suffer from insomnia
After all, it’s so sweet to fall asleep after a hot night… The increased level of the hormone oxytocin during intercourse has a strong calming effect.
Sex is excellent natural sleeping pill.
You don’t like the way your skin looks
During sex, all muscles are trained, including the pelvis, hips, abdominal press, etc. In addition, during sex, the hormone testosterone increases in the blood, which has a good effect on the musculoskeletal system.
Sex also improves posture. 20 minutes of sex can be compared to half an hour of exercise in the morning.
You notice more and more signs of aging on your face
By regularly having sex, collagen, which is very important for women, increases in the body, which is known to make the skin smoother.
And the progesterone produced during sex reduces acne on the face.
The same Americans, based on research, found that couples who make love at least 3 times a week, after 30 years, always look two to three years younger than peers who practice abstinence.
You are constantly dissatisfied with yourself
Admit it: photos of fit people make you cringe. And only passionate love can save you from this unpleasant feeling.
When someone really wants you, it is much easier to believe that you are great and beautiful!
A group of sexologists at the University of Chicago surveyed 5,000 young Americans to find out what they find most annoying during sex. Here are the results.
1. Selfishness (34%)
Selfish expressions during sex are not pleasant at all, but let’s face it, it is quite a common phenomenon among men. Women really don’t like it when a man, after releasing his “genetic material”, thinks that he has done his duty and then just selfishly falls asleep.
2. Searching for the mythical G-spot (31%)
Here’s the agony women go through trying to coolly endure all-night G-spot pursuits by her partners: “My ex-boyfriend used to drive me crazy by groping inside me for hours, trying to induce super-orgasms. And each of our nights began with this search. With that, any desire to make love disappeared. I suffered, but one fine night I got tired of it…” said one of the interviewees. By the way, women aged 21-35 mostly suffer from “G-spot search”.
Some overworked individuals continue to think about work even during sex, answering calls or pretending to have forgotten to call a business associate. Many of the girls surveyed believe that such “entrepreneurs” should simply cut off all their “assets” and leave the phone behind the bedroom door.
3. Unnecessary voice activity (22%)
Respondents of both sexes unanimously agreed that moaning and roaring cause not only laughter, but also the most genuine irritation. Expressions from porn movies are especially annoying: “Ooo, ja, ja, das ist fantastisish” or “Fuck me, fuck me, harder, harder!!!”, “Oh, baby, I’m already inside you!!!” or “Yes! Feel my little friend!!!”.
4. Going to the toilet at the most interesting moment (19%)
Such behavior is so annoying that it remains without comment.
5. “Sucking” a woman’s breasts (16%)
Women don’t like it when a man makes “sucking” sounds (“chmok, chmok”) during breast curessing, and this is only because making love to an inexperienced young man requires a particularly perverted fantasy.
6. “Hey, let’s do it quickly” (9%)
Sex does not like sprinters. At least from a female perspective.
7. Manifestations of “Machismo” (7%)
Behaving like a real “beast” in bed seems more attractive to men than to women, for whom sex in the style of “I’m a sexy animal” means more rudeness than passion. Evidence that such “machismo” is widespread in the United States is that the majority of women surveyed said they lack the tenderness of men.
8. “Rude” sex (5%)
Obnoxious cursing in bed attracts only a minority, especially when it is understood in our society that partners should be nice to each other.
It should be noted that in this survey, most of the claims were made against men, and there is a reason for this, but from a methodological point of view, this is not correct, because, very likely, men are also not always satisfied with the behavior of women during sex…
Everyone knows that sunlight provides a good mood and warmth relaxes. But there’s another benefit that’s better than all the others: it makes your body produce vitamin D, and more vitamin D means better sex.
According to several studies, even some sunlight replenishes the stores of this important vitamin.
Aly Dilks, a health expert practicing in the UK, says: “We know that people can suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) in the winter, so the sun is hugely important for our well-being.” She says that when it comes to the sun’s positive effects on chemicals, “testosterone is the one most responsible for our sex drive and studies show that the sun is a great factor in its production.”
Dilks uses “caveman times” to illustrate her point. “Those men catching animals out in the sun all day still needed the energy to come back and procreate to save their race,” Dilks said, “This is nature at its rawest.”
“We have regular sex, which is very nice, but it is too short and only for him – oriented only to his needs and desires. This means that he is the main one in sex, which is usually a quick act and that’s it. I’m not satisfied with this, what can I do about it?” asks the reader of “The Guardian”.
She continues: “At first we talked about it and he asked me to explain what I wanted. But when I tried it, he insisted that he loved what he was doing and didn’t want anything new. This goes on too long. I want a shared sex life, not one that’s just for him. Can you help me deal with this?”
This question is answered by Pamela Stephenson, a psychotherapist who specializes in the therapy of sexual disorders.
“Some people are very concerned about their ‘imagined’ role in a sexual relationship, which is to help their partner experience pleasure and orgasm, and this may be why your partner has become stubborn because he feels that he will never be able to meet your needs.
He may just be selfish, but thinking that way won’t get you what you want! Try to approach this problem from a different angle – maybe he needs a different approach because he may be afraid of disappointment.
Many women have found that taking 100% responsibility for their own pleasure also results in mutual satisfaction. Try to find ways to increase your pleasure and joy during lovemaking. One technique involves masturbating with a hand or sex toy during intercourse. In fact, many partners find it particularly arousing and as a result want to give their partner more.
Be patient and be sure to support your partner! Be clear about what you want and be sure to reward him if you feel he has made an effort.
Above all, remember that you have the right to be heard and the right to provide yourself with quality sex!”
Do you think that after 40 your sex life goes into oblivion? Unlikely. Experts say that sex, like other areas of life, is only getting better. What should you know about it? Psychologists and clinical sex therapists explain what can help in the bedroom.
Let’s start with the fact that some hormones can decrease at this age. Both men and women experience hormonal changes in their forties that can cause changes in sexual arousal, desire, and overall physical comfort during sexual activity. Hormonal changes may require more sexual stimulation.
Even more pleasure
Do you think that intimate life will become more and more boring in a long-term relationship? Think again – this is just one of the popular myths about aging.
40-year-old couples experience the best sex of their lives – they have more opportunities and motivation to explore different aspects of sexuality. At this age, couples are more open to exploring sexual confidence, stronger sexual self-confidence, a desire for more playful sex, or a deeper emotional connection to make sex more meaningful and passionate.
Caring for heart health
The cardiovascular system is the key to a successful sex life. This means that both cardio and strength training are necessary. Feeling good gives you more energy and confidence, which is definitely sexy.
When trying to conceive, sex can become an obligation
As a woman ages, the quantity and quality of her eggs decreases, which can make it difficult to get pregnant. So if you want to start or grow a family, talk openly with your partner so you’re both willing to understand that sometimes sex can feel like an obligation.
It doesn’t mean you don’t love each other – you share a mission to create a bigger family.
Women can enjoy orgasm more
You may come across myths that women lose their ability to orgasm as they age, but experts say that women over 40 can experience more pleasure during sex than ever before.
Some women reach orgasm more easily because they have gained more experience, self-confidence and feel comfortable.
Men can last longer
This decade’s decline in hormone levels also has a positive side: men after 40 are able to last longer during sex.
Increased risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases
Sexually transmitted infections may seem like a problem for 20-year-olds, but data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention shows that the number of people over 40 with STDs is steadily increasing. Experts say this is partly because there is more demand for erectile dysfunction drugs, the need for contraception is decreasing and vaginal tissue is aging, which can make women more susceptible to infections. So even if the chance of pregnancy is very low, using condoms when you are with a new partner is very important for your health.
Measures that prevent erectile dysfunction
After reaching the age of 40, men may experience erectile problems.
It’s worth exploring lifestyle changes that can improve sexual health. Research shows that exercise or a diet rich in flavonoids (blueberries, cherries, radishes, etc.) helps reduce the risk of erectile dysfunction. Visiting a sports club can also have a positive effect.
Other types of intimacy
Physical intimacy is wonderful, but there are other forms of pleasure. Too much focus on intercourse can make sex mundane and unsatisfying. Learn to focus on pleasure and connection with your partner.
Relationship with partner in the first place
Many 40-year-olds have moved past the family and work-focused phase of their lives, so they can spend more time with their partners. They have more emotional energy to focus on their partner because they are not exhausted from taking care of children or building a career.
Married life without sex is quite common. For what reasons does sexual intercourse become less frequent or disappear altogether?
The belief that sexual desire should arise spontaneously
The phrase “Honey, why don’t we make love?” cuts a woman’s libido like a knife. Since the time of Z. Freud, there is an opinion that there is only one type of sexual desire – spontaneous. A person realizes that they want to have sex, and from this thought alone they are ready to go to bed in an instant. It’s just that the reality is that this is usually attributed to men. Women, hearing such a phrase from a man, usually freeze. They start to blame themselves and fear that there is something wrong with them, because they cannot “get it going” even though they love their partner.
Women’s libidos are different. Emotional, psychological, energetic and physical stimulation is important for them.
However, often the couple’s expressions of tenderness are limited to a short foreplay that helps the woman to turn on… just a little. Lust must be awakened, not demanded to be ignited with one blow of the pin.
Women who do not understand the mechanism of sexual desire think that a little pleasant excitement is enough to start them having sex. They have no idea that it is possible to achieve complete arousal and that then sex will bring satisfaction and pleasure, and true intimacy will be born between partners. When women understand how to achieve maximum arousal and deep sexual satisfaction, their libido becomes more spontaneous.
Efforts to experience orgasm
At the beginning of a relationship, sex is passionate because we are open and curious. But with time, partners stop studying each other: we start to think that we already know each other well enough and know what makes the other happy. It kills passion, especially in women. During intercourse, the feeling of unity disappears and only the final goal remains – to achieve orgasm. By reviving curiosity and pleasurable excitement, it is possible to make the relationship passionate again.
Lack of emotional intimacy
Family life without sex is not only about lack of intimacy in the relationship. Your sex life can suffer if emotional intimacy is also lacking. If you feel emotionally detached from your partner, it can be difficult to connect or enjoy sex. This is not just for women; men also crave emotional intimacy.
Spending quality time together can help build emotional intimacy and eventually restore physical intimacy as well. It is important for couples to understand why sex is important and that sex and intimacy can be used as the glue to keep a loving bond together.
When was the last time you curled up in your partner’s arms full of passion, but didn’t get the response you were hoping for, because he wasn’t in the mood for sex? A survey conducted in Great Britain helped to find out why this is happening.
Researchers who conducted the survey asked people what hours of the day they experience the most passion. Collecting 2.3 thousand answers, it became clear that what men say is significantly different from women’s answers.
70 percent of the women surveyed admitted that their sexual clocks ticked completely differently than their partners. For men, the erotic mood usually occurs in the morning – approximately from 6:00 to 9:00. However, women recharge more easily in the evening: from 11:00 p.m. to 2:00 a.m.
If we had to talk about the most ideal time for love games, then it would be 7:54 AM for men and 11:21 PM for women. “It’s important to understand that women’s erotic mood or libido is very complex and largely determined by psychological factors,” said study author Alison Hill. “It may not have much to do with the partner. The most important thing is for a woman to be satisfied with herself, to feel sexy,” she explains.
And when does a woman feel that way? Around midnight, according to the survey. So if you want to catch your partner when she is most aroused, set an alarm.
