“Why can’t I get a good ”Tinder date?” Maybe you also have this question in mind more than once, dragging profiles to the left that you don’t like. The answer lies with the founder of RAW Secret Men’s Club, who describes himself as a 40+-year-old, medium-sized beer belly owner with a hairline moving away from his forehead. He can’t be proud of his great wealth or impressive achievements, but he has managed to go on more than 200 dates, 50 of which in the last three months.
DATING PORTALS – THE ART OF READING BETWEEN THE LINES
Nowadays, when most social life has moved to virtual platforms, finding couples through apps or online is not only much more convenient, but also has a much greater choice. The public believes that if you are looking for a relationship in such an application, you will not find anything good there. However, people often look not only for the other party, but also just friends, like-minded people with whom they can have fun, go on a date or make connections.
“Finding a couple in dating apps has long been a common occurrence and much simpler than, for example, talking to girls on the street, but you need to know how to do it right,” says a man who finds a large part of dating on Tinder. According to him, even 80% of dates do not happen because they are not coordinated with the right people. It all depends on what profile you create and how you present yourself. In most cases, people decide whether to meet each other at a glance, so in order to attract specific people, it is necessary to highlight the relevant features, hobbies and qualities.
There is a very wide range of different situations and needs, so people with similar interests and communication skills need to be ‘sifted’ first. There have been three great loves in my life – a relationship that simply “broke the roof”. I asked one of my former lovers to show her Tinder profile and after looking at it I realized that I was not really interested in this profile. The way I know her and how she presents herself on a dating platform are two completely different people. Many great people don’t even meet because they just show themselves badly, ”says the man.
The founder of the secret men’s club says that the easiest step in achieving the right “Match” is to pass on your profile to friends of the opposite sex. But they need to be close friends who will really sincerely express their opinion and help you see your profile the way the opposite sex sees it, because everyone knows that the text between the lines is quite important.
MEETING CAN BE FUN
Regular visitors to online dating sites are likely to agree that over time, a date routine develops that is not pleasant for either party. However, the most important thing is not the number of dates, but how much meaningful time is spent together during them. Going on many dates helps you understand what kind of person you are looking for and with whom you will be most interesting.
“When you often go on dates, you really ‘get stuck’, constantly talking about the same topics that are inevitable.”
“During dating, I started talking to women about what they didn’t like during dating or correspondence. I noticed that most things annoy both men and women, so I came up with several strategies to have fun together and not feel dislike or boredom at all, and enjoy dating, ”says the man.
BREAKING STEREOTYPES
There are significant errors of attitude that often recur. For example, if a woman is interested in a man’s livelihood, the man immediately interprets that she only needs his money. But in reality, most women are just looking for financial security, stability, and knowledge that a man will be able to take care of, so this topic is important to them.
Meanwhile, if a man tries to flirt or be gentle – for a woman it creates associations with sex. And most likely, he just can’t find the right words to express the attention he wants to show.
Meanwhile, if a man tries to flirt or be gentle – for a woman it creates associations with sex. And most likely, he just can’t find the right words to express the attention he wants to show.
Many dates do not take place due to very small but significant misunderstandings.
A woman expects a man to write first and show interest in masculinity. However, men take this step so often, even dozens of times a day, and sometimes they simply give up, leaving the initiative to the woman. And then you both end up in a situation where the wrong conclusions are drawn and don’t even try to meet in person.
DESIRE TO UNITE THE COMMUNITY
Men often do not know where to look for advice, so the idea arose to create a “RAW Secret Men’s Club”, where men can learn various dating subtleties from each other. (By the way, such a club would not be bad for Latvian men).
It is a community where men learn from each other’s mistakes and can talk openly because meetings are anonymous. Men share dating experiences and how to properly present themselves on social networks – what first impression should be made, what topics should be discussed and which should be avoided, what it should look like during a date and many other things.
The creator of the club thinks that the most important thing for men is not to be afraid to be themselves and to be able to present their best qualities, not to pretend to do something else or distort the truth.
In social dating networks, it is very important to understand what others will think of you and how women understand the words, actions or images they present. “Everyone knows that social dating networks are used by many people, but there is little talk about how to communicate properly, especially about how to behave on Tinder’s dates. Knowing the basics of dating is fun, the process itself is fun, whether you are looking for a person for one night or a lifetime.
The biggest mistake is that everyone wants to make a good first impression, so often a lot is exaggerated and the message is no longer received after the meeting.