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  • Psychological factors that prevent sexual fulfillment

    Psychological factors that prevent sexual fulfillment

    What blocks orgasm and causes sexual dissatisfaction? Lack of self-confidence, lack of foreplay, lack of tenderness, performance errors… Discover what psychological factors can affect your sexual fulfillment.

    • Lack of tenderness, dignity and listening: There is a lot of talk about how important communication really is in sexual relationship. It only seems logical that we want to find someone with whom we have rich and fluid conversations, not someone with whom we have difficulty understanding. Good communication and simple well-being with someone is one of the factors that gets you to orgasm. So be nice, understand and listen to your partner – that’s the basis!
    • Sexual education; traumatic, complex sexual experiences, agitation or violent fantasies: Any moral judgment and/or psychological disorder will affect the ability to reach orgasm. For example, if you think that your partner’s private body parts are dirty and smell bad, you will have a hard time reaching the climax. Also, if there is a lack of sexual education, fear or if there has been a traumatic sexual experience. All of this damages your relationship with sexuality. You need to be aware of these problems and work with them before you can get to the seventh heaven.
    • Lack of self-esteem: The feelings or resentments you have towards yourself or your partner have a huge impact on your enjoyment. For example, if you are depressed, have a low self-esteem, or are very tired, you may have difficulty reaching orgasm.
    • Will this or that be okay? Any such pressure will inevitably block the orgasm. You have to make love to get pleasure, not to go from point A to point B. To reach orgasm, you have to go the path of pleasure, not the other way around.
    • Too much control; “spectator” effect: This is a logical continuation of the previous advice. To enjoy, you have to be able to indulge in the senses. This is what the American sexologists William Masters and Virginia Johnson, who did the first research on orgasm, call the phenomenon of “spectator”: during sex, we focus too much and judge the situation “from the side.” However, if you feel good with each other, if you feel respected and cared for, it will be easier to indulge in pleasure. So be sure to follow advice #1!
    • Do you really need a foreplay? We know that the complete absence of foreplay can lead to an inability to enjoy orgasm, as it prevents the mind from relaxing and enjoying itself. But it is also the other way around: in the case of endless foreplay, the resources of arousal are exhausted and seemingly dispels the enjoyment. So, as always, a balance must be found!
    • Rough, fast and/or uncoordinated actions of a partner: Nothing is worse than mechanical love! Sensuality goes through gentle, intimate caresses. So avoid too sharp and inappropriate gestures.

    These small frustrations can lead to various types of compensatory behaviors in the long run, such as hypersexuality, nymphomania, exhibitionist and sadomasochistic problems, or even general resistance to any intimate relationship.

  • What is a good orgasm? And how to reach it?

    What is a good orgasm? And how to reach it?

    Everyone wants to have and experience the best possible orgasm. How to achieve it? And first of all, what exactly is a good orgasm? What effect does orgasm have on the human body?

    What is an orgasm?

    Orgasm is an intense feeling of physical pleasure and relief from tension accompanied by uncontrolled, rhythmic contractions of the pelvic floor muscles. The feeling of orgasm is different for women, and in fact it can be different for each of us. Orgasm is the culmination of a cycle of sexual reaction that includes lust, arousal and release. It is the shortest of the phases and usually lasts only a few seconds.

    What is a good orgasm?

    The general characteristics of good orgasm are:

    • It is beginning with uncontrolled muscle contractions.
    • Increased blood pressure, heart rate and breathing.
    • Foot muscle spasms.
    • There is a sudden, strong release of sexual tension.
    • Women experience vaginal muscle contractions.
    • Rhythmic contractions can also occur in the uterus.
    • Men experience rhythmic contractions of the base muscles of their penis which causes ejaculation.
    • A rash or ‘sex flush’ may occur all over the body.

    The most common types of orgasm are clitoral, vaginal, anal, clitoral and vaginal orgasms, and orgasm can even be caused by stimulation of several erogenous zones. Very sensitive people can get orgasms from irritating their ears, neck, nipples, elbows and even knees.

    Female orgasm

    It is inaccurate to say that sex always ends in orgasm because there are women that are unable to experience it. And more importantly, sex does not end when the partner orgasms. Also, keep in mind that orgasm does not always mean that sex is great.

    Many women try to fake orgasm. There is a perception that women fake orgasms for three reasons: they want to show their partner how good he is in bed; they try to end the not-so-pleasant sex act sooner; or because they feel ashamed of not being able to reach orgasm. Our recommendation: it is better to talk to your partner about this topic, as well as not to rely only on classic sex (you can also use sex toys, masturbation or something else that you’re comfortable with).

    Women may reach one orgasm or even several smaller orgasms, which may occur several times in a row. Because the bodies are so different, the orgasms are too.

    Men versus women

    Male orgasms are associated with ejaculation, which promotes reproduction. In contrast, female orgasms can be very variable – they do not have a reproductive need. There is even a theory that a woman’s orgasm is just a “fantastic bonus”. Elizabeth Lloyd, a historian of science at Indiana University Bloomington, says that only about 8% of women are able to orgasm without vaginal intercourse. On the other hand, practically all men can do it.

    Of course, orgasm is a great way to get rid of the tension. It is good for both body and mind, as the climax comes in a bonus with pleasant relaxation. Although many believe that orgasm is a sex destination, it is not always the case.

    When we ask – What is a good orgasm? – then we can answer that it involves pleasant muscle spasms, increased blood pressure and heart rate, as well as a strong release of sexual tension.

    Although ejaculation is a good sign that a man has reached orgasm, more sensitive people will also enjoy stimulating various other parts of the body. Understanding these differences and open communication with your partner is important to get the best orgasm.