A woman who experienced a seemingly endless orgasm after sex says it was a “physically, emotionally and mentally exhausting” experience.
Lisa and her partner Eric shared an unusual story on a TV show – as soon as they started the “morning things”, Lisa reached an orgasm that just didn’t want to end. After some time, the couple was scared – after an hour and a half Lisa had already tried everything to make it go away, but nothing helped.
“I started jumping up and down thinking it might help,” Lisa said. – “But nothing helped – not a big glass of red wine, not antihistamines. I had to call work and tell my boss I wasn’t coming because I wasn’t feeling well. I ended up calling every doctor I had ever seen to see if any of them could help me.”
Eric says they ended up going to the hospital. The doctors there gave her a sedative and the orgasm finally ended – more than four hours had passed since it started.
Lisa says: “At first I couldn’t believe what was happening. I was afraid it would start all over again.”
Unfortunately, that’s exactly what happened – Lisa now has to take medication every day to prevent an uncontrollable orgasm, which causes great discomfort, especially in public places.
The woman explains: “At first these orgasms happened only after sex, but then I started having orgasms anytime – watching TV, just walking down the street. I can orgasm anytime out of nowhere. I can have up to 12 long orgasms a day.” Liz says, “At first the uncontrollable orgasm was once a day, then every other day, then about once a week, and now it’s only about once a month.”
Female orgasms have always been a difficult subject, and many men still do not understand how to help achieve them. But it seems men with a good sense of humor can win this race.
Who doesn’t love a good laugh? Who doesn’t like people who make you cry with laughter in the middle of a conversation? A recent study published in the journal Socioaffective Neuroscience & Psychology notes that men who are purposeful, creative and loyal tend to make excellent partners in bed. 103 single women aged 20 to 69 participated in the study. Women in ongoing relationships did not participate in the survey because the authors believed that “those in relationships may feel obligated to rate their current partner more favorably.”
The purpose of the survey was to find out which men give women the most pleasant orgasms. Attraction was one of the factors that help to achieve a perfect orgasm. This suggests that the attractiveness of a partner allows women to experience intimacy at a much higher level.
However, the publication also emphasized that attractiveness is not just about looks.
“The pattern found in our results suggests that women’s orgasms depended more on traits that might reflect relationship investment and attention (eg, loyalty, emotional warmth) than on classic markers of good genes and masculinity,” the study said.
According to the study, women had the best experiences with men who had positive qualities. “Men who produced the most pleasurable orgasms were described as funnier, more creative, warmer, more loyal, and better smelling than partners who put more effort into their partner’s orgasm and thus reduced it,” the study said.
The team noted some obstacles to their study, including the difficulty of analyzing which characteristic most contributes to women’s orgasms. “For example, higher levels of humor and creativity may simply increase attractiveness ratings, which in turn increase the likelihood of orgasm,” the study said. But one thing is clear – a good sense of humor and a warm personality never hurt.
Probably many of us have read an article or thought about the fact that orgasm is sometimes considered to be the whole essence of sex. And while we shouldn’t really think that climaxing is the main purpose of sex, we probably shouldn’t say that orgasm is completely unimportant either. Perhaps that is why we feel confused when in some cases it is possible to reach orgasm when you are alone, sometimes it’s faster, sometimes slower, and sometimes it cannot be reached at all.
Very often, a woman masturbates easily to orgasm, but when making love to her partner(s), the whole experience becomes an inextricable maze that makes orgasm impossible. According to sex therapist Vanessa Merin, it is quite often more difficult to achieve orgasm with a partner than when masturbating. It can be caused by various reasons: inability to relax, inadequate stimulation, stress, emotional state, hormones and many other ‘problems’.
Why do I only reach orgasm when I’m alone?
First of all, you have to remember that each time an orgasm can be experienced differently, depending on factors such as: emotional and physical state, sexual activity, type of stimulation, our energy level, degree of arousal and even the menstrual cycle.
Our bodies are very different. Some women experience orgasm during vaginal intercourse, others feel pleasure from external stimulation of the clitoris, caressing of the nipples. Still others experience an orgasm just by using a vibrator – and that’s completely normal.
We ourselves know our bodies best, so you shouldn’t expect your partner to know in the first minutes of sex which body “buttons” will bring you the most pleasure. During masturbation, we perfectly know when and where to touch ourselves, what stimulation, what movements are most pleasant to us. That’s why it’s much easier to orgasm alone than with another person who doesn’t know what you like the most.
One of the reasons may also be the inability to relax. When we are alone, we don’t think about how we look – we just close our eyes and enjoy ourselves. When we are in love with another person, we can have many unwanted thoughts. “How do I look from that side?”, “Oh no, now he’s going to see my stomach”, “Am I doing everything right?” and others. Self-doubt can prevent us from relaxing, and if we are stressed, it will be very difficult to achieve pleasure.
What can help you experience an orgasm while making love with your partner?
There are even some methods that can be tried if it is difficult to reach orgasm while making love with your partner(s).
Open conversation before sex
In more than one article, we have emphasized the power of conversation not only for better relationships, but also for ensuring quality sex. Expressing your needs and listening to your partner can help you create the intimate life you’ve been dreaming of.
First, be honest with yourself. Think about your needs: maybe you have some fantasies that you would like to realize? Maybe you only like clitoral stimulation and nipple stimulation gives you unpleasant sensations? What touches from your partner do you enjoy the most, and which ones would you like to eliminate from your sex routine?
Once you have a “plan” in mind, try to start a conversation. Express your needs and encourage your partner to open up – listen carefully to his observations and suggestions. We recommend that you get interested in this topic – read books, watch movies, listen to podcasts about sex, and then discuss all the information together. Don’t try to adapt to someone else’s sex norms or laws – adapt them to your relationship.
During the conversation, try to stay positive and never blame each other – let praise and good emotions take a bigger place in the conversation than negative thoughts and complaints.
External clitoral stimulation
Sometimes it also happens that during sex the partner forgets (or does not know) how much influence the external stimulation of the clitoris has on a woman’s pleasure. All orgasms: vaginal, external, and anal, originate from the clitoris.
Include oral sex in your sex routine and don’t forget clitoral stimulation (both you and your partner can do this). It is also very useful to consider buying sex toys. Couple vibrators, clitoral massagers, vibrating penis rings or G-spot vibrators can become a real revolution in your sex life. They are designed to provide much more intense stimulation than a person can give to themselves or another. Why should you refrain from such pleasure?
Relaxation during sex
Another important step towards pleasure is complete relaxation during sex. The more relaxed we are, the easier it is to reach orgasm (and the more intense it becomes).
Some simple tips for a better relaxation:
Add massage to your sex routine. Gentle touches will warm and relax tense muscles, while the fragrant massage oil will help you forget all negative emotions and fully surrender to what is happening here and now. (Erotic massage – tips on how to do it perfectly)
Enjoy longer intros. Not only will they help you relax, but they will also make you more excited. Kisses, caresses, and touches are a very important part of sex, so we recommend you enjoy it a little longer.
Accept your body. When we are insecure about our appearance, ashamed of our body and hiding it, there is no question of relaxation or intimacy. Although finding a connection with your body is a lifelong process, it is very important to start now.
Don’t forget to breathe. Deep! Give it time – it will help you calm down.
It takes 20 to 30 minutes of proper clitoral stimulation for a woman to reach orgasm and flood her vulva with blood. The most important word here is ‘correct’, and its meaning will change with each woman. Therefore, we wish you patience, fun experiments and successful orgasm searches!
We have written more than once about the advantages of vibrators and not for nothing – they have many of them and vibrators benefit both our sex life and well-being in general. Greater sexual pleasure, the opportunity to get to know your body even better and find out what you like, more arousal, less stress, better sexual health and much more.
We believe that every woman should try a sex toy at least once in her life. When, if not now? Today we are going to share vibrators that will help you experience orgasm.
12 vibrators that will help you experience orgasm
Although there are many different sex toys in intimate goods stores, in this article we will share the TOP 12 best and most popular vibrators. What are the best vibrators for a crazy orgasm?
Since vibrators appeared on this world, this one takes the first place – it is the most bought vibrator in the world. We recommend The Billionaire to women looking for their first vibrator.
Why? First of all, it can be used for both internal and external stimulation, so every opportunity is created to enjoy the games that you like the most. Second, it’s very gentle, so it’s great for beginners.
This vibrator is a solid step towards getting to know your body.
G-spot vibrator “THE TENNIS PRO”
G-spot vibrator “The Tennis Pro” – to discover deeper pleasure
This vibrator allows you to take your pursuit of pleasure to the next level – where the mysterious G-spot is.
Who is Tennis Pro for? The round head of the vibrator allows you to stimulate a larger area (the G-spot is not just a point in the literal sense of the word – it is a larger part of the front wall of the vagina), and the curvature helps to reach the deepest corners of pleasure.
Clitoral massager “Lelo Sona 2”
Clitoral massager “Lelo Sona 2” – stimulation with sound waves
This clitoris stimulator differs from other vibrators in that the clitoris is not stimulated by vibrations, but by sound waves – direct contact with the skin is not necessary! You can choose from 12 different intensity levels, so the massager will suit both the most sensitive and those who need extremely intense stimulation to reach orgasm. The unique design of the massager makes it easy to use and looks very nice!
Universal vibrator “Heat Wave” – with a warming effect
The main feature of the vibrator is the heating mode! Properly set, the vibrator heats up to a safe temperature, relaxes the pelvic floor muscles, stimulates blood circulation and helps you reach orgasm more easily.
In addition, the “Heat Wave” shape is adapted for double pleasure – the G-spot, clitoris and labia are stimulated at the same time.
This sex toy is best suited for those who like to experiment. Thanks to its unique design, this vibrator can be used in more than 11 different ways to stimulate nipples, G-spot, clitoris, labia, penis, testicles and other favorite places. It is extremely convenient to use for a couple who wants to bring more heat to their sex life and of course more orgasms!
“LELO Soraya 2” luxury vibrator
Luxury vibrator “Lelo Soraya 2” – for exclusive pleasure
For those for whom internal stimulation alone is not enough to achieve orgasm, the Lelo Soraya 2, which exudes luxury and the highest quality, will be perfect. The vibrator has a small prong that, while enjoying G-spot stimulation, also penetrates the clitoris with vibrations. This beauty is for those who love luxurious pleasure and those who do not compromise at the expense of their pleasure.
Remote control vibrator “Elva”
Remote controlled vibrator “Elva” – for those who want innovative pleasure
This innovative vibrator will allow you to relax even more and indulge in the sensations of powerful internal vibrations. The vibrator is controlled by a remote control – your phone. Different vibration modes can help restore the full intensity of sex! The stimulation starts with a calm mode, moving to a more passionate, faster one, until finally reaching the most intense mode, which is sure to deliver an orgasm that will knock you off your feet. This vibrator can also be used for Kegel exercises.
“Air Pump Bunny 5” universal inflatable vibrator
Universal inflatable vibrator “Air Pump Bunny 5” – for new sensation seekers
Do you want pleasure that cannot be compared to other sensations? We recommend trying the inflatable vibrator! The Air Pump Bunny 5 is made of super soft and flexible silicone and the tip inflates up to 15mm at the push of a button!
The vibrator can be controlled with a mobile app and you can enjoy both G-spot and clitoral stimulation. This is a great choice for those looking for an innovative vibrator with the ability to increase the size of their sex toy.
Massager “Le Wand Plug-In”
Vibrating massager “Le Wand Plug-In” – adapts to all body curves
Classic stylish vibrating massager with unmatched quality and award-winning design. The massager has as many as 10 different speeds and 6 vibration modes. Its soft handle and flexible “neck” adapt to the curves of the body and allow you to reach all pleasure-seeking places. It can be used both as a simple massager and as a sex toy.
Clitoral vibrator “THE SURFER”
Clitoral vibrator “The Surfer” – for those who like to travel
If you’re looking for a compact, effective orgasm-inducing sex toy at an affordable price, The Surfer is the most popular choice. It is intended only for external stimulation, clitoris, labia, nipples.
The uniqueness of the vibrator is the small curves on its surface, which make the stimulation even more effective and interesting. Plus, its small size makes this vibrator a common choice for travelers.
This is the world’s first hands-free vibrator! This little vibrator is a real pleasure bomb – whether it’s solo masturbation or sex with a partner. During sex, this vibrator stimulates the clitoris and does not need to be held by hand, as Eva II is attached under the labia majora. The vibrator is small but very powerful.
Clitoral vibrator “FRENCH LOVER”
“French Lover” clitoral vibrator – resembles oral sex
Do you dream about oral sex? This vibrator is just for you. With a delicate design, it resembles the flexible and soft tongue of a skilled lover, so it will help you achieve the pleasure experienced during oral sex. All it takes is a drop of lubricant for an ultra-realistic experience.
Come to think of it, it’s not for nothing that the French call orgasm ‘the little death’ (la petite mort). These brief moments hang somewhere between existence and non-existence, the world seems to stop and everything around becomes insignificant. Women who have already experienced this joy will definitely agree with me – life can really be divided into BEFORE and AFTER. It’s just a pity that so much women have to live the life without an orgasm.
I used to have trouble getting THAT feeling with my partner. It would have been easier if a more experienced friend had told me what I was getting myself into. So, how to catch the joy of sex by the tail? Let’s start!
RULE No. 1: KNOW YOUR BODY
The first golden and perhaps even banal rule related to sex – until you get to know your body and understand where and what “touch points” are located on it, it will be extremely difficult to experience an orgasm with your partner. Even if he has a lot of experience, good hands (and a good ‘organ’ between the legs), you have to admit that he is not a psychic. Therefore, in parallel with sex with your lover, let’s not put aside sex with your most loved person in this world, i.e. with yourself. And thanks to the times we live in, many different things can help us. Therefore, don’t forget to update the contents of the nightstand drawer from time to time – such an investment brings no less joy than new shoes, believe me.
RULE No. 2: SPEAK
Remember, we are not sleeping with psychics who have the ability to read minds, so from here we will move on to the second step – talk to your partner about your desires and feelings in bed. By doing this, you will forget the feeling of shame. I understand that it can be nerve wracking to think about how your partner will react when you say “I want you to choke me” or something similar. But on the other hand, why have such a relationship if you have to play bliss (in every way) and suppress yourself? For example, it was not easy for me to “break through” myself and clearly ask for what I want, but, you know, I will tell you a secret. After listening to my sometimes not the most traditional wishes, my partner was glad that sex would not be a politely boring activity, reminiscent of the Viennese waltz at a banquet.
RULE No. 3: DO NOT FAKE YOUR PLEASURE
Every man who respects and cares for himself and his partner will definitely agree with this point. Dammit, ladies, let’s stop faking orgasms! I understand, it often seems easier to show off your acting skills for a minute than to listen to the disappointed sighs after the phrase, “Oh, you know, I’m not done yet.” But do you realize that by faking pleasure, you are doing yourself a disservice? A partner who thinks he’s doing everything perfectly, when in reality it’s far from perfect. Do we really want to cheat on our lover like this, and as soon as he goes to sleep, you go looking for a vibrator for a solo party? Sure, there’s nothing wrong with a solo party, but it’s more fun together, right?
RULE No. 4: THE SEX STARTS BEFORE IT EVEN BEGINS
Another thing I’ve noticed a long time ago is that for us girls, body sensations are often related to processes going on in our heads. I even read somewhere that a woman’s pleasure depends on everything that happens 24 hours before intercourse. Can you imagine the length of foreplay?
If you and your partner growl at each other all day, constantly feel the tension hanging in the air because of the relationship, yell at each other on the phone in the afternoon, then it is unlikely that you will be able to magically relax in the evening. In general, I have experienced this on my own skin more than once: when you don’t really feel trust in your partner, your body simply tenses up and remains stiff even during caresses. In this case, the best thing to ask yourself is, are you sleeping with someone who doesn’t give you much reason to trust them? In that case, the solution is probably obvious, right?
RULE No. 5: LET’S GET RID OF MYTHS
When it comes to mistrust, it is often caused by another devastating phenomenon: the stereotypes of “decent girls” instilled in childhood. A part of society still tries to convince us that a virtuous woman does not want sex and gives it to her man as a reward for being together, and orgasm is usually a fantasy altogether. The idiocy of these myths is immeasurable.
Those who subconsciously (and sometimes consciously) believe that girls can be divided into ‘respectable women’ and ‘dirty whores’ based on their clothes, number of sexual partners, hobbies and initiative in bed, can go to hell.
If you feel that maybe this story is about you, I give you advice from the bottom of my heart – throw all the hateful fools out of your life and, if necessary, find an appropriate therapist. And not only because of your sex life.
RULE No. 6: SURRENDER TO THE PROCESS
If you have already applied all these points in your life, but you still cannot experience bliss in bed, I will share one more of my trump cards, acquired in practice. I once heard a friend joke that insomnia is like not being able to reach orgasm during sex – the more you think about it, the harder it is to succeed. But when you stop thinking so hard and just surrender to the process instead of worrying about the outcome, miracles often happen. By the way, this is advice that applies to almost all areas of life.
I will be very happy if at least one girl who reads this will sincerely enjoy every moment of sex. Believe me, orgasm is a pleasure that can hardly be compared with anything else, and it takes the relationship to a completely different level. So ladies, fear not. Let’s enjoy the orgasms. They benefit not only us and our partners, but also the whole world. After all, people with flushed cheeks are so beautiful.
A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior shows that heterosexual women experience fewer orgasms during sex with their partners than all others.
The study was conducted by researchers from several American universities, they analyzed the sexual habits of 52,588 adults. The study group included 26,032 heterosexual men, 24,102 heterosexual women, 452 gay men, 550 bisexual men, 340 lesbians and 112 bisexual women.
There were no significant difference between men. 95 percent of heterosexual men reported experiencing orgasm every time. 89 percent of homosexual men reported that they too had an orgasm every time they had sex. 88% of bisexuals said the same.
But the women’s responses varied widely. Homosexual women reported experiencing orgasm 86 percent of the time, while heterosexual women and bisexual women reported experiencing orgasm 65 and 66 percent of the time, respectively.
So why the big difference?
Researchers believe there could be several reasons for this. The first reason is that lesbians have a better understanding of female anatomy and the importance of clitoral stimulation than men. It is believed that lesbians are more likely than men to switch roles with their partners to satisfy each other.
The researchers also found that women who experience orgasm more often practice oral sex more often, say what makes them happy in bed, are satisfied with their relationship, wear sexy underwear, try new positions, try anal sex, do not avoid sexual language and expressions of love during sex.
And it sounds quite logical – after all, many women do not say what they want in the bedroom, and those who do, are more likely to talk about orgasm.
Another observation the researchers made was that women who experienced orgasm were more likely to report engaging in oral sex, had longer intercourse, and were generally more satisfied with their relationships. For women, it is especially important to include oral sex during sex.
What is the biggest discovery of the authors of this study?
It turns out that the “so difficult to experience” female orgasm is not so difficult to experience after all. The fact that so many lesbians regularly experience orgasms suggests that heterosexual women can enjoy the same.
The authors of the study emphasized that the orgasm gap can be closed by taking advantage of sociocultural factors and encouraging men and women to try more things during sexual intimacy.
In other words, if you suspect that your partner is faking an orgasm, or if she says that she did not experience an orgasm during sex, this clearly indicates a problem.
Tips? If you’re a straight man, you might want to ask your girlfriend or wife what she thinks about your sex life. Even if everything is fine, it never hurts to experiment, to try something new.
Sometimes an orgasm is more like the culmination of romantic, passionate intimacy than the pursuit of an elusive unicorn. Everyone knows that it is easier for men to experience orgasm than for women, so these findings and observations of researchers and scientists will be relevant for the women.
According to scientists, the frequency and intensity of orgasm depends on factors that do not seem related to the bedroom at first glance – from anatomy to the ability to write sexy text messages.
To keep the passion going in the bedroom, read about these 7 factors that increase your chances of enjoying a sexual climax.
1. Flirting with sexy text messages
Texting can have a significant effect on orgasm. The authors of the large-scale study surveyed 52,000 men and women. It turned out that women who experience orgasm are more likely to write sexual emails, call, flirt and tell dirty jokes to their partners. Another important conclusion of the study is that women who talk about what they like in the bedroom are more likely to experience orgasm.
2. Ability to communicate
In order to experience orgasm more often, not only flirting is important, but also communication between partners in general, according to a study. This conclusion was emphasized by the leader of the said study. And to be precise, three short words greatly increase the likelihood of experiencing pleasure. Hearing “I love you” during sex greatly increases the likelihood of orgasm.
3. Sexual self-esteem
It may seem like your orgasm is your partner’s responsibility (well, let’s be honest—certain movements really do matter), but researchers note that sexual self-esteem and body satisfaction are just as important.
In 2016, the authors of a study published in the journal “Socioaffective Neuroscience and Psychology” concluded that sexual self-esteem has a much greater influence on the ability to experience orgasm than other, seemingly more important things – for example, how many partners you have had or how often you masturbate.
Practice saying something nice about your body – then the chance of experiencing a dizzying orgasm will increase significantly. Instead of criticizing your naked body, buy some nice, flattering underwear or wear something that makes you feel so sexy that you’ll want to make love without the lights off.
4. Concentrating
From the scenes of romantic movies, it seems that one passionate look or a gentle touch is enough to experience an orgasm. In real life, it requires much more attention. But it turns out you can learn it! Women who experience frequent orgasms have learned to focus and devote themselves to love. Before sex, spend a few minutes relaxing, away from the worries of the day. Was the boss’s criticism unpleasant? Forget about it for now. Focus on the present moment with your partner and you will definitely increase your chances of feeling the O.
5. The power of relationships
The strength and certainty of the relationship has a great impact on the quality of intimate life. At least that’s what science says. How well you know your partner and a certain technique are important variables in the orgasm equation, but no less important is the durability of the relationship. Research shows that the more satisfied people are with their relationship and feel they have met their soulmate, the more often they experience climax. In other words, the strength of the relationship is another important factor. If you don’t feel happy in your relationship, it will affect your sex life.
6. Anatomy
Some factors that affect orgasm frequency are within our control, others are not. A 2011 study published in the journal “Hormones and Behavior” found that the distance between the clitoris and the opening of the urethra can affect the ability to experience orgasm, at least during vaginal intercourse. If the distance is less than 2 cm, the probability of orgasm is much higher than if the distance is almost 3 cm. If physiology isn’t for you, manual stimulation can help.
7. Age
The ability to experience orgasm is like fine wine – according to scientists, as years go by, women experience orgasm more easily. According to research, middle-aged women report that they experience orgasm more often than in their younger years. Perhaps this is because many factors are important – trust, communication, which also improves over the years.
Too often the talk is about how a woman can satisfy a man. Such conversations emphasize how to bring pleasure to a man, while how to experience it for a woman is often left unsaid. Fortunately, society is moving away from this outdated, patriarchal view and is beginning to understand that a woman’s orgasm is just as important a part of sex and should become a priority. In this article, we will look at 10 orgasm techniques for women.
The gap between men’s and women’s orgasms persists even today: data from a 2017 study published in the “Journal of Sexual Behavior” shows that only 65% of heterosexual women experience an orgasm during each intercourse, while among men this figure reaches as high as 95%, writes womenshealthmag com . Whether this has anything to do with the historically dominant view of sex is the subject of a separate article, because the time has finally come for women to bridge these differences and reclaim the orgasm.
The good news is that female erogenous tissue is spread over a larger area, which means there are more erogenous zones that can be pleasurable and more ways to climax. However, if you want to add different types of orgasms to your list of experiences, it’s worth explaining that there aren’t as many different types of orgasms as there are different ways to induce them.
“Most researchers tend to believe that there is really only one type of orgasm that can be achieved with different parts of the body,” explains Vanessa Marin, a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in sex therapy and is the founder of the online “Finishing School”.
Whatever helps you reach orgasm, know that maximum pleasure is possible. Try these 10 ways to experience bliss and close the orgasm gap.
1. Orgasm Techniques for Women: clitoral orgasm
The clitoris is a small, nerve-rich structure located at the top of the vaginal opening that performs the sole function of sexual pleasure. “If you have never experienced an orgasm before, you should start with the clitoris,” says V. Marin.
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2. G-spot orgasm
The G-spot is a hypothetical, highly erogenous area of spongy urethral tissue in the anterior vaginal wall that can be stimulated during sexual activity. It is the female equivalent of the prostate.
3. Mixed orgasm
A mixed orgasm is a combination of clitoral and other types of stimulation that, once you’ve mastered clitoral orgasm, can show you which other parts of your body are sensitive. In theory, a mixed orgasm can be achieved by stimulating the nipples and the clitoris at the same time, but the most common combination is the clitoris and the G-spot.
4. Orgasm Techniques for Women: Anal Orgasm
There are common nerves that run from the anterior wall of the rectum to the vagina. So women can also get sexually aroused from rectal stimulation. In addition, the legs of the clitoris extend all the way to the anus, so “back door” stimulation can also excite the clitoris.
5. C-spot (cervical) orgasm
The C point is the cervix, where the nerve endings are located, which are located in the cervix itself and around the uterus. Achieving orgasm and experiencing pleasant rather than painful cervical sensations is more likely when a woman is highly aroused. So save the deep penetration for the very end and when you feel an orgasm approaching, ask your partner (or use a sex toy or fingers) to stimulate your cervix.
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6. Nipple orgasm
You probably already know what nipples are and where they are, but you may not know that some people can orgasm just from their stimulation. Touching the nipples releases oxytocin, which causes the same uterine and vaginal contractions as an orgasm. This causes more blood flow to the genitals, which can lead to orgasm.
7. Skin orgasm
Skin orgasms are also called tingling, and they are similar to the process that takes over a person’s limbs when they hear a really pleasant song. Maybe your skin will tingle, your hair will stand up, or maybe you’ll start to shake a little. Research shows that skin orgasms are most often triggered by music, but thrills can also be triggered by exciting movie scenes, impressive works of art, or even other people with whom you feel a special connection.
8. Orgasm from breathing
“Sex is often thought of as a physical activity involving the genitals, but in reality, the most passionate sex happens between the ears and is enhanced by how we use our breath and lungs,” says Jessica O’Reilly, sexologist and author of “The New Sex Bible” . “Breathing affects the interpretation of sensations and helps you imagine a state in your mind that promotes pleasure. This means you can really ‘breathe’ until you climax and at the same time let go of intrusive thoughts that can distract you from the pleasure,” adds O’Reilly.
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9. Orgasm through imagination
“The mind controls our sexuality so strongly that some people can reach orgasm through imagination,” notes O’Reilly. In this case, everything is quite clear: a person is indulging in fantasies, do not touch their body, but only strains the muscles of the mind, which are trained to climax. Imagination often goes hand in hand with breathing – your imagination and body response may work best when breathing exercises are included.
10. Orgasm while sleeping
“Members of both sexes can experience orgasm during sleep. An orgasm takes place in the brain, and the brain is quite active at night,” says V. Marin. “Unfortunately, there are no methods that will make you orgasm while you sleep. When it happens, it’s fun, but we can’t control anything to create pleasure in all sleeping times,” she emphasizes.
She’s on the verge of ecstasy, and then you do something that ruins her pleasure, derails her, and ruins the rest of the night. Some of the maneuvers may seem harmless, but they actually distract her from the ultimate goal: reaching orgasm. We recommend that you avoid these six actions at all costs, or you will not see her orgasm like your own ears.
The start is too intense
Full power early on is a classic rookie mistake that can end her O before it has a chance to arrive. It might seem controversial, but if you’re fingering her clit right from the start or applying too much pressure on it before she’s properly warmed up, I swear she won’t orgasm.
In other words, make sure you tease her a little before you hit her hot spot, and when you do, start slowly: work slowly and gently around her clit first, then gradually increase the pace.
Investing a little time in foreplay will make her orgasm even better at the end.
Want to kill her orgasm? Constantly ask: “Are you close?”
If she’s close, trust me, you’ll know – so keep quiet and let her get to that magical moment.
While you might want to encourage her by asking if she’s getting close to her destination yet, this can make her feel rushed.
In short, trying too hard to have an orgasm can kill you. Instead, focus on signs that she’s almost there, such as rapid breathing and moaning, and let her go at her own pace.
Change of speed
When a woman is close to orgasm, she needs the pressure and rhythm to remain constant for a while.
If you suddenly decide to increase the intensity or increase the speed, it can reduce the momentum she has been building to reach her orgasm. And when she says, “Right there! Don’t stop!” then really – DON’T CHANGE ANYTHING and for God’s sake, DON’T STOP! If you decide to be extra creative at this point, she will most likely not reach orgasm.
Don’t make it a show
Of course, she likes to see you get sexy undressed, and she appreciates that you took all our sex tips into consideration. But don’t get too carried away with making a show.
Sometimes men take cues from porn about what sex should be like, how long it should last, how many orgasms a woman should have, etc. You should take your cues from your partner, not from what you saw in some 20-minute video.
Want to kill her orgasm? Keep the TV on
Getting an orgasm can take some focus, so don’t spoil her chances with distractions. This means turning off the TV and making sure you’re in an intimate and private setting, but it can also mean letting her focus on her orgasm without worrying about yours.
I honestly don’t understand how anyone manages to cum in the 69 position. It seems more engaging to divide attention so that everyone can focus on their own pleasure.
If you finish well before her, let her know that the next round is all about her, and don’t put any pressure on both of you to orgasm at the same time.
Lots of sweet compliments
Women can be subject to the phenomenon of “watching from the outside” – basically, it’s like an out-of-body experience where she thinks about what your sex looks like from the side. (It’s something she uses to orgasm faster). And even something as innocent as a compliment can take her out of the present moment.
Many women admit that men are too complimentary. Even a seemingly innocuous comment can make her think about what her ass looks like at that particular moment, and it can go off the rails. But that doesn’t mean you should be completely silent during sex.
Female orgasms can last more than 20 seconds, while male orgasms last between 3 and 10 seconds on average. “Men’s orgasms are thought to be more sudden and intense, while women’s orgasms are long-lasting and less intense,” say researchers at the American Psychological Association.
According to the latest research, women experience three types of orgasms. They are called “wave”, “volcano” and “avalanche”. While studying the orgasms of female volunteers, the researchers came to this conclusion and found that different types of orgasms affect different muscles of the pelvic floor, writes mirror.co.uk.
Based on the different names and models, James Pfauss, professor of neurology at Charles University in Prague, said the categories were defined by “how the pelvic floor muscles work during and after orgasm.”
He added: “A wave-like orgasm was characterized by slow wave-like movements or continuous muscle contractions and relaxation during orgasm. Avalanche orgasms are characterized by tighter upper pelvic floor muscles that contract during orgasm and send tension downward. Volcano-type orgasm is manifested by the fact that the muscles of the lower part of the pelvis are more tense, but during orgasm all the muscles become very tense and then relax.”
Wave type orgasm
This orgasm manifests itself in waves or successive contractions.
Avalanche orgasm
The location of this type of orgasm is in the upper pelvic floor muscle. The contractions that occur during it reduce the tension.
Volcanic orgasm
During this type of orgasm, the tension is in the lower pelvic floor muscles, but during orgasm, all muscles tense and relax.
Professor J. Pfaus’s team, whose findings were published in the “Journal of Sexual Medicine”, have now focused on how women feel during these three types of orgasm. “We’re doing a long-term study of women using The Lioness (a super-smart vibrator that measures pelvic floor muscle contractions in real time) to find out how these different types are subjectively experienced as orgasms, measuring the level of pleasure, investigating what stimulation is needed , to induce a certain type of orgasm,” the professor added.
