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Do You Think He’s Faking an Orgasm? You Are Probably Right
Many probably remember the famous scene from the movie “When Harry Met Sally” in which Meg Ryan fakes an orgasm to show that men don’t realize when women do it. But it turns out that not only women, but also men sometimes fake an orgasm. A study on sexual habits found that as many as 39% of men do it once in a while.

If a man makes love with a condom, faking an orgasm is not that difficult. But, of course, sex is not just about orgasm – even without ejaculation, you can have an amazing sexual experience. On the other hand, we have to agree – for most people, the goal of sex is orgasm, so let’s give some tips.

Why does he sometimes fake an orgasm?

Men play orgasm for the same reason as women – they are aware that they will not feel the greatest pleasure this time, but they want to give their partner the impression that everything is as good as possible.

It is easier for men to fake an orgasm than to admit what is happening and talk to their partner.

What prevents men from reaching orgasm?

The reasons tend to be different – medications, sexual trauma, too frequent masturbation. A man may be tired or simply not in the mood for sex. He may avoid orgasm for fear of unwanted pregnancy; being too drunk also prevents it from being achieved.

What can be done to increase the chances of reaching an orgasm?

Tell your partner that sometimes it’s hard for you to reach the peak of pleasure (if you don’t tell her about it, she will most likely think that it’s her fault, that you don’t find her attractive).

When there are no such high expectations, there will be no pressure to necessarily reach orgasm and no need to pretend.

Then you will be able to relax and enjoy sex, and without feeling tension, you are more likely to experience an orgasm. But don’t exaggerate – tell it like it is, for example: “I take antidepressants and it’s harder for me to reach orgasm. This is in no way related to you. You are very beautiful and sexy.”

No need to invent fairy tales. If there is no specific reason for the lack of orgasm, say: “You are so sexy, I am very into you, but I am terribly nervous.”

Compliments and jokes will relax both of you. Consider not watching porn and refraining from masturbation on the day you plan to have sex. But take into account – what can help one, not another.

Some abstain from masturbation and pornography in order to feel a stronger sexual desire for a partner. Often, such people think about sex during the day, create sexual fantasies in order to feel lust during sexual intercourse and achieve an orgasm more easily.

On the other hand, to some abstaining from masturbation and pornography only reduces sex drive, so it becomes more difficult to experience orgasm. Experiment and see if abstaining from the above mentioned things will help you achieve orgasm during sex with your partner.

How to increase sensitivity when making love with a condom?

It’s no secret that a condom is a barrier between you and your partner that reduces sensitivity. There is no doubt that it is necessary to use condoms even if you have sex with a regular partner (to protect against unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases).

To increase sensitivity, it is preferable to buy thinner condoms, they are more expensive, but worth the investment. Second, you will need a lubricant.

We recommend putting a few drops of lubricant on the tip of the condom. This increases stimulation – the head of the penis is wetter, so the sensitivity of the entire penis increases.

Don’t limit yourself to vaginal or anal penetration

28 percent of the men who took part in the already mentioned study said that it was difficult or even impossible for them to achieve orgasm only during vaginal or anal sex. In this case, you can try oral sex, nipple stimulation, stroking with your hands.

Various role-playing games also promote sexual tension and passion, so the possibility of reaching orgasm increases. Also remember that many women don’t orgasm just from having your penis inserted into their vagina, so they’ll likely want to try other methods of sexual arousal.

Mutual masturbation also guarantees that both partners will experience pleasure. You can touch both yourself and your partner’s erogenous zones – neck, thighs, anus. You can watch porn while masturbating.

Uses sex toys

30 percent of men found that they had difficulty reaching orgasm without sex toys (or masturbation). We definitely recommend trying sex toys because they increase your chances of reaching orgasm, no to mention the range of sex toys is very wide.

Don’t be afraid of anal stimulation

It is probably clear to everyone now that anal stimulation does not make a man homosexual or bisexual. Do not forget about prostate stimulation, which is achieved by touching the area between the testicles and the anus or directly through the anus. The prostate is very sensitive, its stimulation leads to prostate orgasm with or without ejaculation.

Here are some tips on how to do it:
- Touch yourself slowly, exploring so you don’t feel discomfort or pain.
- It is advisable to use a lot of lubricant.
- Explore sensations using sex toys around the anus and in the anus itself.
- When you know what you like, it will be easier to show your partner what you like.
What to do if you still can’t reach orgasm?

Maybe you’ve tried all the tips above, but still can’t seem to get an orgasm? It happens that your penis does not always work as you intended. We recommend telling your partner that she turns you on, but you’re just tired tonight and you just want to cuddle.

It is important to understand that there is no need to make a tragedy if sometimes you do not reach orgasm and you do not have to lie. If you have not experienced an orgasm sometimes, do not forget to tell your partner that sex with her is charming and pleasant, even if sometimes it does not end with an orgasm.

5 reasons why you should never fake an orgasm
12.30.2022.
10 tips for women to have an amazing orgasm
Sexologists claim that there are very few “cold” women. The phenomenon when a woman does not feel sexual desire is called frigidity, but it is very rare. Let’s just stick with the fact that women’s orgasms are much more complicated than men’s. But there is another phenomenon that happens much more often – anorgasmia, i.e. when a woman feels sexual desire, but is unable to achieve maximum satisfaction. According to experts, it is possible to change the situation. If you have difficulty reaching it (or have never experienced it), but your really want to have an amazing orgasm, use the recommendations of sexologists.

Fragile sexuality

Female sexuality is both physiologically and psychologically more complex than male sexuality. According to gynecologists, the ability to reach a climax really depends on the reactions of the body, but the emotional state is much more important. And the latter, in turn, is influenced by the events of the previous day, the relationship with the partner, even the phase of the menstrual cycle.

A woman’s satisfaction is determined more not by intercourse itself, but by waiting for the meeting and the outburst of passion.

Meanwhile, satisfaction can be made impossible by all kinds of life situations, starting with a child’s illness, a conflict at work, and even from an insignificant comment from a colleague.

It is impossible to localize a woman’s orgasm in any part of the body or genitals. It is born in her brain and felt in her whole being. The strength of sexual desire is regulated by the limbic brain, which controls emotions and instinctive behavior. At the moment of intimacy, the areas of the brain that control behavior are turned off and sexual desire increases.

There are very rare cases when sexual desire does not exist at all – in these cases, sexologists talk about frigidity. Far more often than not, women feel desire and enjoy sex, but they don’t always or never reach orgasm. This may indicate the previously mentioned anorgasmia.

But if a woman is able to reach orgasm by masturbating, there is no question of anorgasmia. Not having an orgasm from time to time is completely normal.

At the beginning of sexual life, young girls usually rarely experience vaginal orgasm. Orgasm usually is reached after gaining more experience, getting to know oneself better. Anorgasmia can also be caused by problems with a partner, such as partner infidelity. The woman stops trusting them, which means that she cannot open up in moments of physical intimacy.

Psychological problems

Inability to reach orgasm without a clear reason may indicate unresolved internal problems or reflect a woman’s subconscious desires, such as revenge on her husband for cheating, to be a perfect mother, or to maintain childlike loyalty to her father.

Sometimes women, without realizing it, forbid themselves to experience erotic feelings, blame themselves for any manifestation of their sexuality. They are usually women who grew up in religious families. Parents punished them for innocent experiments with their bodies or games during which children get to know each other’s anatomical features. As adults, they really don’t know their bodies, they don’t know how to relax and feel pleasure.

Orgasm can be learned

In most cases, the woman simply lacks sexual experience. Therefore, it is very important to explore your body, for example, when you masturbate. By gaining experience, a woman gradually gets rid of internal inhibitions, the influence of various pre-imposed norms and an exaggerated sense of shame. Orgasm can be learned like singing by training the voice.

Here are 10 tips from sexologists to help you get an amazing orgasm

1. Love yourself

It’s hard to love someone if you don’t love yourself. Low self-esteem, dissatisfaction with your body, too high expectations from sex – all this prevents reaching orgasm, by the way, not only for women, but also for men. Research published in 2016 by O. Kontula and A. Mietinen showed that women with higher self-esteem experience orgasm more often. So small compliments to yourself can improve the quality of your sex life in the long run.

But instead of increasing the feeling of self-love, it is better to focus on self-love as an action: take care of your physical shape, health, appearance and do the things that are important in life. It will improve the psychological state and at the same time sex. You can also learn to accept your flaws. It doesn’t mean loving what you don’t love. This means allowing the body part to remain as it is.

2. Train the pelvic muscles

Kegel exercises, which strengthen the muscles of the pelvic floor, are necessary not only to prevent urinary incontinence, but also to keep the organs in place. These activities greatly help to improve the quality of sexual life – the vaginal muscles are strengthened, blood circulation improves, which helps to release more lubricant and helps to reach orgasm more often.

You can also try vaginal balls to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. There are different sizes and weights, but it all depends on experience: for example, it is recommended to use larger, lighter balls for beginners, and smaller and heavier for experienced ones.

3. Masturbate

Many people have grown up thinking that masturbation is something dirty and wrong, but this is a myth. Masturbation increases self-esteem, reduces stress and improves sleep. This is the best way to understand what you like in sex: where, at what pace and with what intensity you should touch yourself. Knowing yourself will make it easier to explain to your partner what you want from them.

4. Conversations

The more partners trust each other, the easier it is to relax in the bedroom and experience maximum pleasure. It is important to openly share not only your feelings but also your hopes and dreams about your sex life. Do not expect your partner to understand you from half a word. It’s better to tell them directly and involve them in this process. Sometimes even a simple discussion of erotic fantasies and scenarios can light a spark.

5. Try new things

Arousal, but not orgasm, is controlled by the hormone dopamine. In the past, it was thought to form in anticipation of a reward. But now it is known to erupt when something unexpected happens. This is the same “innovation” in relationships that helps you experience a sex marathon while on vacation or reach an orgasm during quickie in a store fitting room.

You can try new positions, fulfill sexual fantasies, have sex in unexpected places (of course, without breaking the law). Such an experience will quickly lead to an orgasm and will definitely be remembered.

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6. Use lubricant

Lubricant helps to slide better, prevent unpleasant friction and improve sensations. There are lubricants that warm, cool, create an additional mood with scents and increase sensitivity. It is better not to put them immediately on the penis or vulva, but on the hands to warm it up a little, and then apply it to the genitals with massaging movements.

The main types of lubricants are: water, silicone-based, anal, oral, heating-cooling.
- Water-based lubricants are the most natural and universal, they work with all sex toys and condoms, they don’t leave stains, they don’t stick.
- Silicone-based – extremely durable, especially slippery. But not suitable for use with silicone sex toys.
- Anal lubricants are extra long-lasting, intensely moisturizing, and may contain ingredients that reduce discomfort.
- Oral lubricants are designed to be tasted on the body. You can choose your favorite flavor: strawberry, vanilla, chocolate and many more.
- Warming – cooling – they will be useful in various love games, giving a pleasant feeling of warmth or cooling.
7. Use sex toys

Toys help to make the orgasm much more intense. They can be used alone or during sex as additional stimulation. You can start with a simple blindfold and try more and more: clitoral or G-spot stimulators, anal plugs, massagers, sexy underwear, BDSM games (handcuffs, whips, role-playing accessories).

8. Do not think about orgasm

You don’t have to focus on the result if you can enjoy the process! Anxiety about possible failure prevents you from relaxing, which means that it will be more difficult to reach orgasm. You don’t have to focus only on genital stimulation. A back massage can be much more enjoyable than trying to force an orgasm out of yourself. In this case, back massage will be more erotic than mechanical stimulation of the genitals.

Allow enough time for the foreplay. Caress each other everywhere: head, ears, neck, hands, knees, feet. Whisper soft words or, on the contrary, naughty ones. Immerse yourself in the process.

9. Take your time

Stop stimulation as soon as you feel an orgasm approaching, take a break and start again. Imagine that an orgasm is like jumping with a parachute: the closer you get to the moment of the jump, the more intense the sensations. Masturbation will help you find this limit, and then you can practice it together with your partner. Repeat this a few times before letting yourself or your partner finish and the sensations will be much stronger than usual.

10. Don’t focus on porn

Pornography usually features people with perfect bodies who can look attractive at any moment and only make erotic sounds. The sex lasts for a very long time, includes acrobatics worthy of artistic gymnastics and definitely ends with shared orgasmic fireworks. But in reality, everything is not like that, and it is ok. Erotic films are cinema, and as you know, it is not realistic at all. Such films should not be taken as an example. Porn creates unrealistic standards that real sex doesn’t have to aspire to. But pornography can be used as a window into your sexuality. It is worth watching pornography in order to get to know your desires better, what excites you, to enrich your fantasies, to bring something new into sex with your partner. In addition, watching pornography together can improve the quality of a couple’s sex life.
12.05.2022.
What to do with a woman who doesn’t reach orgasm?
In terms of female orgasms, the situation is much worse than that of men, because most of the time there is a gap between couples in the bedroom. A large number of women can’t reach orgasm when making love with their partner. On the other hand, almost all men reach the peak of pleasure. What to do if your woman doesn’t reach orgasm?

No wonder most divorces are initiated by women. Sex therapists most often have to answer the question of how to maintain passion in a relationship. Age and routine are not friends of passion either. In order to maintain the spark, both partners have to make an effort – they have to put in the work, because nothing happens by itself. The good news is that a woman can achieve orgasm in several ways. If your lover does not reach orgasm with you, it is time to change the situation and try new methods in the bedroom.

How does it feel when you reach orgasm, how long does it last?

Orgasm is usually described as a rhythmic contraction of the genitals. Orgasm is the climax of arousal. The woman’s vagina and uterus contract, pulse and blood pressure rise, followed by the greatest mental and physical relaxation. Usually, the orgasm wave lasts from a few seconds to half a minute, but often it can be longer.

What is the difference between female and male orgasms?

A man’s orgasm is also essentially rhythmic muscle contractions, but they last for a shorter time than women’s. Men usually ejaculate when they reach orgasm, although orgasm and ejaculation are not related.

How to satisfy a woman so that she reaches orgasm every time?

Women can experience orgasm in different ways. Bring variety to the bedroom and forget about headaches.

Start with the clitoris

The clitoris is covered with pleasure nerves. For a woman who has never had an orgasm, the journey of pleasure should begin with clitoral stimulation. Some women like to massage their labia, others like their clitoris. Your goal is to find out which point gives the most pleasant sensations. Make sure the lubricant is applied to the clitoris and start massaging in a spiral motion around the clitoris. Be patient, because it takes 20-40 minutes to reach an orgasm from finger or tongue movements. If you don’t have that much time right now, buy a sex toy with a clitoral suction function. It creates air pressure that mimics the sensations a man’s mouth normally provides.

The next stop is the G-spot

Before you approach the G-spot, it’s a good idea to go to the bathroom, as the same muscles that control the bladder are also involved in vaginal orgasm. The G-spot is located in the front wall of a woman’s vagina – no deeper than the length of your index finger. It is important to understand that if the woman is not maximally aroused, this spot can be missed very easily. (Read more about it here – The Mystical G-Spot – What is it and where to find it?).

Find thise pleasure point and stimulate it until the orgasm! Remember that this point should be stimulated lightly. Make circular rhythmic movements back and forth with your fingers. Change the rhythm, speed and pressure until you find what is most pleasing. If your fingers get tired, you can use a G-spot vibrator.

How many orgasms can be achieved in one night? As much as you want!

In the case of a mixed orgasm, one member have to be the clitoris. The other area of stimulation can be, for example, nipples or anus. Simultaneous stimulation of both pleasure nerves will cause a particularly strong orgasm that will take over the whole body in waves. The combination of G-spot and clitoris works 100%. If you don’t see a spark in her eyes, try nibbling the nipples, kissing her breasts, anal plug, stroking the legs while massaging the clitoris.

Secret dream – sex with two men

Fantasies are the vitamin of a woman’s sexual appetite. The most popular fantasy is having sex with two men at the same time. Telling a man about your fantasies is a serious challenge. But maybe it’s worth it! Anal stimulation can cause a climax as strong as a clitoral orgasm.
10.04.2022.
Delayed Ejaculation – Why Does a Man Have Difficulty Reaching Orgasm?
Difficulty reaching orgasm is an unpleasant problem, and men who experience it usually hide it. Delayed ejaculation can occur due to the use of antidepressants. However, this is not the only reason why a man may not experience an orgasm.

Although this problem is not as popular as premature ejaculation, and you might think that men who do not ejaculate for a long time are a real treasure, the truth is that not being able to reach an orgasm causes a lot of stress.

According to experts, if a man cannot achieve orgasm or it takes a very long time, he should see a doctor. Likewise, when a partner fails to ejaculate, a woman often feels guilty that she is doing something wrong. But this is not true. Many factors can affect a man’s orgasm. Some of the causes can be prevented, others cannot.

What is delayed ejaculation?

It is a situation where it is difficult to achieve orgasm during sex. Even if it seems like a bonus at first, over time the man becomes tense and sex becomes less enjoyable. Let’s look at the most common causes of delayed orgasm and suggestions on how to solve them.

6 reasons why a man may have difficulty achieving orgasm

Psychotropic drugs

Antidepressants or sleeping pills can delay orgasm in both men and women. In fact, more than half of people who take antidepressants have problems with their sex lives. Today, this problem is gaining popularity very rapidly, so it is becoming the main pathological cause of the disorder. Most are advised to replace their current antidepressants with others that are less libido-suppressing.

Narrow foreskin or phimosis

Phimosis is one of the medical conditions that not only complicates a man’s sex life and interferes with urination, but also causes delayed ejaculation. The foreskin usually covers the head of the penis, and during erection it moves back. If a man cannot retract the foreskin, he has phimosis. In this case, it is difficult for him to complete the act, he feels physical and emotional discomfort.

Often this problem is discovered only when a man starts having sex. In that case, you should consult a doctor, who usually decides in favor of circumcision. It is not a complicated operation, and after it is performed, the disorder disappears quickly.

Low testosterone level

Testosterone is often called the male hormone. Its reduced amount often causes problems such as lack of erection and difficulty experiencing orgasm. Testosterone levels are usually checked with a blood test. If your testosterone level is too low, your doctor may recommend certain medications that increase the level of this hormone.

Psychological problems

Even without medication, psychological difficulties such as anxiety or depression can cause a delayed orgasm. When you’re depressed, it’s hard to even brush your teeth, let alone climb mountains or have sex. A man who suffers from a delayed orgasm often needs psychological help – either a psychologist or mood stabilizers.

Various injuries

Back pain, hernias, various infectious diseases can affect orgasm. Encourage your partner not to be shy and to discuss these concerns with their doctor. It’s hard for men to talk about these things, but doctors are here to make your life better.

Masturbation

If a man has been used to masturbating every day for 10 years, it may be difficult for him to experience an orgasm during normal sexual intercourse. A woman’s vagina is firm, but it cannot mimic the strength or speed of a masturbating man’s hand. Thus, the habit of masturbating is one of the causes of delayed ejaculation.

The math is simple – the more often a man makes love or masturbates, the slower he finishes the act or doesn’t finish at all. Masturbation can be used to prevent premature ejaculation, but it can further delay a delayed orgasm.
06.30.2022.
How To Last Longer In Bed: For Him And For Her
The numbers don’t lie. Most couples take 5-10 minutes to reach orgasm. How to last longer in bed? Read these five effective tricks.

Control your breathing

Premature ejaculation depends very much on how you and your partner breathe. Accelerated breathing is one of the signs that an orgasm is coming. If you control the frequency of your breathing and exhaling, and breathe slower and deeper at the right time, you will almost certainly prolong the desired effect.

How to last longer? Use your tongue

A smart way to last longer is to use your tongue. No, it’s not about oral sex or chatter. Do you feel that the peak of sexual pleasure is coming? Place your tongue on your palate behind your teeth. This trick will almost certainly stop the orgasm for a while and you will be able to enjoy the process a little bit longer.

Do exercises

Another reliable way for a woman to prolong sexual intercourse is to train her pelvic floor muscles with Kegel exercises. Classic version: quickly compress and relax your vaginal muscles for 10 seconds, then relax for the same amount of time. Perform these exercises 3 or more times a day. (Read more here.) Such intimate vaginal training is not only useful for prolonging sexual intercourse, but also helps a woman prepare for childbirth and regenerates tissues after childbirth. In addition, these exercises, especially in combination with the use of vaginal balls, reduce the development of many inflammatory processes in the genital area.

Change the position

Properly chosen sex pose can also prolong pleasure. Remember these three positions:
- Man on top: partner should limit amplitude, slow down, breathe deeply and tighten abdominal muscles;
- Woman on top: this is an easy way to prolong sexual intercourse without additional stress, especially if the man is not lying down but in a partially sitting position;
- On one side: This position requires the least amount of physical effort from both partners, with only a small amount of body movement.
Don’t forget the foreplay

The gentlest extension of erotic games is foreplay. Many partners are too excited during sex and want to take advantage of the situation as soon as possible. In this case, it particularly affects men. They become nervous and restless because they do not want to lose the magic and passion of the moment. And now try to imagine that making love is not a sprint, but a moment of relaxation and enjoyment. Give each other a romantic foreplay. Flirt with your partner, tease him/her and make this an exciting game where you both enjoy the distance you walk rather than the finish line. Then the question of how to last longer will disappear by itself.
06.15.2022.
How to Turn Yourself On: Masturbation Tips
Statistics and various surveys show that most women are masturbating and most do it on a regular basis. So, lets look at some masturbation tips for more enjoyment, or how to turn yourself on.

1. Use a lubricant – the wetter the better.

2. Involve your breasts in the process. Nipple orgasm has been proven, give it a try!

3. Invest money in sex toys – buy different and try tehm.

4. Arrange the room so that it creates better mood. Buy flowers, candles, change bedding and wear something sexy.

5. Do everything slowly. The moment you feel like you’re going to come, slow down a bit and start all over again, so you’ll have a super orgasm. (Also read: What is Edging and How to Learn to Control Your Orgasm?)

6. Involve the whole body – your vagina is not the only erogenous zone.

7. Focus on your clit, it has a lot of nerves and this is the easiest tool to get to the big O. (Read also: Clit Stimulators For Oral Sex Lovers).

8. But don’t forget about your G-spot, which also has a lot of nerve endings that also like to be a little tickled.

9. Watch a porn movie. Of course, nothing is real there, but it will create a mood in a split-second.

10. If porn movies are not for you, read some spicy literature and create porn in your imagination. (You will find spicy sex stories here).

11. Exercise your buttocks every day with the special Kegel exercises, the instructions of which can be found here.

12. The most important thing, both when having sex with a man and for masturbation, is to use your imagination. During the process, think of something that excites you, but dirty dishes or work. Sexy thoughts have been shown to lead to orgasm much faster.

13. Do not stop at the first orgasm. We women have the advantage of being able to reach many orgasms.

14. Change position as you would with a partner.

15. Try to do it in the bath. Warm water always helps you feel more relaxed.

16. Take a shower. Massage yourself with it.
05.30.2022.
Breast and nipple orgasm
It turns out that the pinnacle of pleasure can be achieved without taking off your pants. Mass culture and a distorted understanding of how women’s sexuality works have created this misconception that breasts are only an object of pleasure for men. In fact, it is a strong erogenous zone and properly stimulatation can lead a woman to orgasm. A nipple orgasm will, of course, be different from a classic vaginal or clitoral orgasm, but it won’t make it any less enjoyable.

Women who experience orgasm from breast stimulation describe it as a wave of pleasurable sensations that emerge from nowhere and disappear into nowhere, expanding throughout the body.

In fact nipples are much more sensitive than other parts of the skin. And at the beginning of the menstrual cycle – so much that even touch of clothes can be unpleasant.

Using a special device, the researchers found that stimulation of the nipples activates the same areas of the brain that function during stimulation of the clitoris. The effect tends to be much weaker, but still. There is a theory that a man can also be lead to an orgasm in this way. Well, you can check it out.

How is a nipple orgasm achieved?

Take care of the erotic atmosphere and mood. It would be foolish to think that a nipple orgasm can be reached quickly. Rather, it is part of an erotic game that requires preparation. So look each other in the eye, light the candles and start working.

Relaxation is very important to achieve breast orgasm. Make sure you feel comfortable. Start slowly. Don’t start right away with your fingers or teeth. Gently stroke her belly, slowly moving to her chest, pulling your fingertips around her chest. It is ideal to use erotic massage oils with aphrodisiacs. Feelings should accumulate gradually. And only then your fingers can touch her areoles and nipples.

Do not hurry

Vaginal, clitoral, anal or nipple orgasm occurs only after adequate sexual arousal and accumulation of sexual energy. When trying different stimulation methods, you and your partner should first enjoy each other to increase their sense of pleasure and well-being. And it all takes time.

Change the intensity of the caress

Start with light touches with your fingers and palms. Uses erotic massage oils and lotions, massage candles, which are intended for use on skin. You can gradually increase the intensity of your touches: from gentle to harder touches or even squeezing with special clamps. Do not forget to stimulate other erogenous zones. For example, one of your hands is on her chest, while the other walks around her body, moving evenly from the neck to waist, buttocks and the inside of her thighs.

Use various stimulation methods

Hot breath, light kisses, biting and even sucking. Warming lotions, ice cubes, melting wax, a soft sponge with fragrant foam (if you suddenly move to the bath) and other things will give the game emotions and excitement.

As you can see, nipple orgasm exists and can be experienced. Even if you don’t believe in it, it’s a great way to diversify your intimate life and explore your and your partner’s body in a new way.
05.04.2022.
Psychological factors that prevent sexual fulfillment
What blocks orgasm and causes sexual dissatisfaction? Lack of self-confidence, lack of foreplay, lack of tenderness, performance errors… Discover what psychological factors can affect your sexual fulfillment.
- Lack of tenderness, dignity and listening: There is a lot of talk about how important communication really is in sexual relationship. It only seems logical that we want to find someone with whom we have rich and fluid conversations, not someone with whom we have difficulty understanding. Good communication and simple well-being with someone is one of the factors that gets you to orgasm. So be nice, understand and listen to your partner – that’s the basis!
- Sexual education; traumatic, complex sexual experiences, agitation or violent fantasies: Any moral judgment and/or psychological disorder will affect the ability to reach orgasm. For example, if you think that your partner’s private body parts are dirty and smell bad, you will have a hard time reaching the climax. Also, if there is a lack of sexual education, fear or if there has been a traumatic sexual experience. All of this damages your relationship with sexuality. You need to be aware of these problems and work with them before you can get to the seventh heaven.
- Lack of self-esteem: The feelings or resentments you have towards yourself or your partner have a huge impact on your enjoyment. For example, if you are depressed, have a low self-esteem, or are very tired, you may have difficulty reaching orgasm.
- Will this or that be okay? Any such pressure will inevitably block the orgasm. You have to make love to get pleasure, not to go from point A to point B. To reach orgasm, you have to go the path of pleasure, not the other way around.
- Too much control; “spectator” effect: This is a logical continuation of the previous advice. To enjoy, you have to be able to indulge in the senses. This is what the American sexologists William Masters and Virginia Johnson, who did the first research on orgasm, call the phenomenon of “spectator”: during sex, we focus too much and judge the situation “from the side.” However, if you feel good with each other, if you feel respected and cared for, it will be easier to indulge in pleasure. So be sure to follow advice #1!
- Do you really need a foreplay? We know that the complete absence of foreplay can lead to an inability to enjoy orgasm, as it prevents the mind from relaxing and enjoying itself. But it is also the other way around: in the case of endless foreplay, the resources of arousal are exhausted and seemingly dispels the enjoyment. So, as always, a balance must be found!
- Rough, fast and/or uncoordinated actions of a partner: Nothing is worse than mechanical love! Sensuality goes through gentle, intimate caresses. So avoid too sharp and inappropriate gestures.
These small frustrations can lead to various types of compensatory behaviors in the long run, such as hypersexuality, nymphomania, exhibitionist and sadomasochistic problems, or even general resistance to any intimate relationship.
04.22.2022.
Tips that will help you reach orgasm faster
In the previous article, we looked at different types of orgasms, but just knowing about them is not enough. Often, theory becomes as important as practice to achieve this dreamy pleasure.

Say out loud what you want to feel

Almost everyone has different sexual fantasies, but they are rarely talked about out loud. However, if you have difficulty experiencing orgasm, first of all, we recommend normalizing your conversations about sex with your partner. When you start talking (even a little bit) about what you like and what you both want to get during sex, you will get to know each other better. It is also important to speak during sex: express your feelings and pleasure in words and sounds. This will give you and your partner a clear idea of what is pleasant and less pleasant.

Erogenous zone “combo”

As already mentioned, there are several types of orgasm, which means that a woman’s body often has more than one erogenous zone. Stimulation of several erogenous zones simultaneously increases the possibility of great enjoyment. You can ask your partner to touch your clitoris and vagina at the same time, or kiss your neck and stimulate your nipples. You can also do this during sex.

Don’t try to control everything

Psychologists agree: orgasm begins in the mind. It is difficult to enjoy it when the mind is busy with unnecessary problems. It happens that women who want to control all aspects of life become nervous during sex and are unable to reach orgasm. Therefore, before sex, it is recommended to exercise, meditate, listen to your favorite music and engage in other activities that relax you.

Ask for oral sex

Statistics show that women who have oral sex with their partner are 23% more likely to reach orgasm. So if you’ve never tried oral sex, maybe it’s time to immerse yourself in that experience? Read more about this topic in the article on giving oral sex to a woman.

Try some light form of BDSM

You don’t have to dive into the realm of whips and handcuffs right away, but keep in mind that many women like the fact that their men are strong and a little dominant, so if you’re one of them, it’s worth talking to your partner about a new experience in the bedroom. Maybe your sex life could be enriched by some dirty talk from your partner during sex? For a large number of couples, a variety of role-play games are also good, which will help you forget about everyday worries, relax and possibly enjoy an orgasm.

Dive into solo games

An article published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy (2020) states that women who often masturbate experience more pleasure. Knowing your body, complete relaxation and exploration of your erogenous zones will definitely help you to understand exactly what you like and help you reach orgasm. You can masturbate with your fingers or with various sex toys.
03.25.2022.
7 Types of Orgasms: Where to Look for Them?
Women rarely dare to say out loud that they are unable to experience an orgasm. Women often feel ashamed because of an over-inflated orgasm bubble, especially in the porn industry. Statistics show that only 65% of heterosexual women experience orgasm during sex. Meanwhile, lesbians are more likely to have this pleasure: 86% of homosexual women claim to have an orgasm during sex.
- First of all, to reach orgasm, you need to understand how it works.
- Secondly, it is necessary to get to know your body, for example, through masturbation.
- Finally, it is helpful to know that there are several types of orgasms, and there are various simple tricks that will help you achieve it faster.
7 types of orgasm

Women often have the idea that they can reach orgasm only in one way – the famous “O!” experienced during vaginal sex. However, a woman’s physiology is amazing and she can experience a wide variety of orgasms. Therefore, if you have never experienced a clitoral or vaginal orgasm, don’t be sad, because there are countless other ways to look for it.

Clitoral orgasm. It is clear to everyone that pleasure can be gained by stimulating the clitoris. During this orgasm, the muscles around the clitoris contract. Usually it’s a local orgasm that a woman feels most intensely in her genitals.

Vaginal orgasm. Woman can reach this pleasure during sexual intercourse. Some time ago it was discovered that vaginal orgasm is also associated with the clitoris. There are not many nerve endings in the walls of the vagina, so the pleasure experienced during sexual intercourse can be felt if the clitoris or G-spot is stimulated at the same time.

Anal orgasm. Women recognize that anal orgasm can be more pleasurable than other types of orgasm. This is because stimulating the G-spot during anal sex is much easier than during vaginal sex, making anal sex more intense. For more information, read this article about anal sex.

Orgasm during sleep. 37% of women have experienced an orgasm during sleep. This is a unique phenomenon that scientists have not yet thoroughly studied. How to recognize that you have experienced an orgasm while sleeping? Most often, women wake up from a pleasantly tingling sensation that radiates throughout the body and she vividly remembers sexual episodes from this dream.

Multiple orgasms at once. This type of orgasm can be experienced by women who have several particularly sensitive erogenous zones. What does it mean? The fact is that you will experience a double orgasm by stimulating several areas at once (such as the clitoris and nipples).

“Wet orgasm”. This is another mysterious and little studied type of orgasm. This orgasm is unique in that it releases a lot of fluid, which is not considered urine. True, it is not known exactly where this fluid comes from, it is only clear that this is done by stimulating the G-spot.

Orgasm from nipple stimulation. This is another extremely pleasurable type of orgasm. As the nipples are one of the main erogenous zones of women, with sensitive nerve endings and extremely delicate and thin skin, appropriate touches and kisses can create incredible pleasure.

Note that these are not the only types of orgasm. There are many more ways to get unforgettable pleasure – and that’s fantastic! Don’t put yourself in a certain frame – discover and experience your best orgasms!
03.24.2022.