Over the past decade, anal sex – or at least talking about it – has become much less taboo, perhaps because women’s buttocks have taken on a whole new status (thank you, social media!)… Or perhaps because society is more positive about sex in general. But still, anal sex among women is quite controversial, no matter how often it is discussed.
Due to a lack of information, there is still a tendency to stigmatize activities that some people might consider “unconventional”. But the thing is, anal sex can often become the preferred method for women who, for some reason, are unable to have vaginal sex.
For some women, it’s like a “string” on top of the usual sexual intercourse. But others look at the act more like this: an intriguing process, worth a try, but will probably never want to do it again.
If you haven’t added anal sex to your list yet, but want to know how to enjoy it, it’s worth reading these articles:
Here are some interesting experience stories from people who have tried anal sex. Read on and let their experiences guide you.
“IT WAS THE MOST INTIMATE NIGHT OF MY LIFE”
“My ex and I were together for about three years before we decided to try anal sex. We did this not because we were bored with our current sex life, but because none of us had ever done so, and we wanted each other to be “first” in this experience. He had slept with many women as teenagers, so I liked the idea of doing something with him that he had never done before.
We talked about it for months before we finally experienced it. It wasn’t planned, but one night after we both had a few drinks, we started playing in my bedroom and he asked me, “Should we try it?” I nodded in agreement. We armed ourselves with a lubricant – I had always heard that during anal sex it should be used more than you think – then I would squat in a doggy position and make him enter me VERY slowly, centimeter by centimeter. In about five minutes, he was quite deep, and the feeling was something I had never experienced before — a perfection that made me feel as if I had never had sex before.
What made everything much better was that he kept asking if I was okay, and his face looked sincere and full of real pleasure, as if it were a transcendental experience for him as well. We made a lot of eye contact – I enjoyed turning my head and watching his enjoyable face – and we kissed a lot as he approached the end. Despite the nervousness, I also got an orgasm (I massaged my clit to get more free). It was the most intimate night of my life. We did it a few more times later on “special occasions” (I’m afraid the place will stretch, ha), and all the times were amazing, but no one can compare it to this first-time feeling. “
“MY FIRST EXPERIENCE WAS CASUAL ANAL SEX”
“I was drunk, and it came as a surprise because there was not enough communication during sex. Fortunately, I enjoyed it and overall it was a positive experience for me. I began to realize that I liked this feeling and enjoyed it. Now, in my current long-term relationship, it is one of the activities we enjoy quite often.
The most important thing is to warm up properly. It is easier and more pleasant when the anal hole is prepared for this process. Proper foreplay is important – use the lubricant, fingers, mouth, toys you want. This could take longer than vaginal sex. I think of anal sex as a second degree, the better if you are already aroused and feel great. My advice is to trust your body, and if you feel you want it, then move on! “
“WE PROBABLY SHOULD HAVE USED A LUBRICANT”
“I tried anal sex with my ex for the first time. I was incredibly comfortable with him, but using a lubricant would have made it a more enjoyable experience for both of us, as there is no natural lubricant in this opening. I would recommend doing this with someone you feel comfortable with because it’s definitely a more intimate area. ”
“ANAL SEX WAS JUST SOMETHING WE TRIED A FEW TIMES OUT OF CURIOSITY”
“We tried it for the first time when we were together for a year and a half. In the relationship, we were in a phase where we were comfortable with each other and really wanted to explore more, so one day we tried it out of curiosity. I read a little about this topic before to make sure that what we were going to do would be safe and comfortable. The first time we did this, we used a rich amount of lubricant and made sure we were prepared for it first. It was definitely interesting for both of us and something that neither of us had done before.
After that, we only tried it one more time, and in the end, we decided it wasn’t something we wanted to keep doing. The feeling was more special when I did it with my partner, not with an accidental partner because I felt safe and comfortable. ”
“THE FEELING CAN BE INDESCRIBABLE – IF YOU USE THE TOILET FIRST”
“If you’re overweight or on an empty stomach, it’s uncomfortable. The feeling is as if you should go to the toilet.
But if you do it at the right time, calmly and slowly, it’s euphoric. This is different from the ordinary sex because he seems to go much deeper. However, anal sex does not help me to reach orgasm more easily. ”
“THE KEY IS TO RELAX”
“I was always afraid it would hurt, but anal sex isn’t really as painful as it is uncomfortable. But! For some people, the discomfort is so great that they can barely do it – for example, my best friend, who has tried it a few times, barely got it inside, no matter how much lubricant she uses. The main thing, obviously, is to relax, which will actually be difficult for you – knowing that it will happen, you will strain more than usual – unless you happen to like it.
I do not like it, but it is very addressed by my friend, and he is very respectful and nice about it and does not force me to do so. We do it maybe every few months. He is usually very prepared for this, forcing me to use the anal plug beforehand to “relax everything”.
“I DON’T SEE ANYTHING FUN IN IT”
“It’s not the worst I’ve ever experienced. I just don’t see anything funny in it. It’s not that painful, it’s just a little uncomfortable and it’s really not my favorite. ”
“IT DIDN’T FEEL GOOD”
“I have tried it once. The guy I was with wanted to do it, and I was against it, but in the end, I gave up. He tried to insert it, but it just hurt too much. I don’t think he used a lubricant, and the place is just too tight. Maybe I would do it again with the right person if I trusted him very much. In any case, it’s not something at the top of my list. “
“IT WAS INCREDIBLY EROTIC”
“It’s amusing that my first sex took place through the anus. My high school friend was raised in the strong Catholic faith and “TO” saved for marriage. I, on the other hand, was not interested in this waiting time, and he explained to me that anal sex “does not matter” to him because, in theory, it cannot lead to human reproduction.
He was extremely well developed down there, so the logical choice was a very slow injection of the penis and a lot of lubricants. The strangest thing I noticed was that inserting a cock into my anus created a kind of tight feeling in my throat, similar to what you would feel after a big frustration. But it was an exciting feeling that wasn’t scary at all. It’s a slow but indescribably pleasant feeling when you feel the tap glide gently in and out. It was definitely extremely erotic, and I recognized my whole body as an erogenous zone. I found that I could also have an orgasm during anal sex, and I enjoy anal play to this day. “
“ANAL SEX IS THE PERFECT BALANCE BETWEEN DANGEROUS AND SEXY”
“I used to be obsessed with anal sex. At one point in high school, I had more anal than regular sex. When done right – and by ‘right’ I mean when a guy doesn’t insert his dick into you like a drill – anal can be on such a dangerous line between pleasure and pain. It makes him feel bigger than ever. ”
“IT REALLY STRENGTHENS THE BOND BETWEEN YOU”
“The key to good anal sex – yes, that’s the thing – is a partner you trust completely and who will do it right. This means a lot of lubricants, starting with the little finger just like Fifty Shades, then moving on to a variety of small toys and stoppers. After that, anal sex can be amazing! It is very intense, and your loved one must be very delicate and attentive, as well as a good listener and very patient – and you, as the ‘recipient’, must have full confidence in your partner.
The anus is, after all, an exit, not an entrance, and so it could really hurt a lot. This is not an action that should ever be done by a random guy or at a random moment; you both need it, and you both need to be ready. It takes so much time, trust, and communication that it only strengthens the relationship because you are so connected to your partner. “
“WHEN I HAVE ANAL SEX, I FEEL A STRONGER ORGASM”
“For me, the anal act usually causes a little pain at first (the first few minutes). Lots of lubricant, slow, gentle movements, and patience quickly move it to the next phase, which is an exciting, enjoyable process. I have found that I may have stronger orgasms during anal sex, but these are clitoral or vaginal orgasms rather than anal orgasms – they are quite rare. I need extra clitoral stimulation, intimacy, and emotional intensity to make the orgasm stronger.
But if you have the wrong angle during anal sex, with too much up or down angle, it can lead to sharp and unpleasant pain. It’s important for me to have the right entry angle. “