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Swinger parties – experience stories

So what does it really mean to attend swingers parties? Does it benefit the relationship? What are the risks of swinging? Reddit swinger readers share their swinging experience. (See also: Swingers clubs – strict rules and clear boundaries).

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“I love to have sex with my husband and watch him make love to others. I adore listening his orgasms. In fact, we had a pretty good sex life before we started having group sex, but now it has reached a whole different level. I am very happy to be with him on this trip. I watch with excitement as we grow, change, discover new things, fall in love with each other over and over again. Just thinking about how make love, or remembering how he does it to others, makes me excited. The smell of his skin, his taste excites me. I think the swinging experience makes me want him even more. ”

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“My husband and I had a monogamous relationship for 15 years. I love my husband very much, but at the time I felt isolated as stuck in the corner. I liked to imagine other people craving me, and when I was 40, all those feelings became even stronger. So instead of cheating on my beloved husband, I decided to talk to him. Despite my fantasies, he was (and is) my dearest and most wonderful man.

Hearing that I was planing to have sex with other people, it was natural that he was confused. But I wanted to feel lust so much, and I wanted to flirt with others. I wanted to forget that I am a wife, a mother, a housewife.

Since my husband was not particularly interested in this idea, we initially decided to include another woman instead of a man. It was hard for my husband to accept that I could be aroused by another man. Since I had discovered bisexuality in myself a long time ago, I immediately agreed.

That’s how we started attending swing parties – on the condition that I only have sex with women. We found a couple with swinging experience online. Because access to this closed community is not so easy, we had to receive an invitation from them.

Everything happened in an extremely luxurious apartment in the city center. With toned windows, good music… Upon entering we saw a lot of half-naked and completely naked people who felt so free in their bodies! It immediately affected me (which I wouldn’t say about my husband). We grabbed one cocktail, then another, a third.

Then the couple came to us, with whom we had talked online. We had a nice chat. A woman who, by the way, was extremely sexy mentioned that she would like to kiss me. We started kissing. It was nice, passionate, and I felt an unexpected excitement. She took off my clothes and caress my body. We stood naked in front of our men and enjoyed each other.

After a while, I noticed that my husband was starting to loosen his pants. I never expected him to do it. He undressed, just came to me from behind and we started making love. My husband was so excited to see me kissing another woman that neither other people nor the environment prevented him from wanting me. I kissed an unbelievably sexy woman and at the same time I had sex with my husband! That was so good! I will remember this first swinging experience forever. ”

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“My husband and I have been having group sex for a long time, but there is one time I will remember all my life. Our friend (an experienced swinger) celebrated his birthday and rented a party bus. Well, you know, that thing with bright lights, leather chairs, a bar and a stripping pole. The plan was to stop at his favorite bars and have a cocktail in each one. A total of 10-12 couples took part in the trip.

When we returned from the third bar, the real party started on the bus! The girls began to dance at the pole. At the flashing lights, their bodies looked extremely sexy. Women were not ashamed to dance seductively (including me), to get naked, to flirt with men, to touch their bodies or to sit on their lap.

At one point, the bus unexpectedly stopped, and the boys, our rescuers, hurried to catch the falling naked girls. Eventually, the guys undressed and everything turned into a wonderful orgy. I’ve never had so many fun moments in one night. And even now, when someone mentions a bus, thoughts immediately turn to that crazy birthday. ”

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“My boyfriend and I occasionally take part in polygamy activities (group sex, threesomes, sex parties). But, yes, our experience has been a real minefield. It took quite a while for us to find reliable, balanced and safe people to have fun with.

As beginners, we saw all the crazy shit, all the drama and tears. Jealousy? Tons of it! It is extremely difficult to find nice, attractive people who are not fucked up. Once you have more than one partner, it’s like an explosion of mental problems and bad relationships that are one step away from disaster! I don’t recommend a polygamous relationship unless you’re determined to weed out the bad ones to find the real gems.”

12.20.2021.
Swinging – popular myths and interesting facts
Swinging is a process surrounded in myths and mysteries, which we often imagine as the plot of an erotic film. But in reality, swingers are much closer to us than you might think – a neighbor, a colleague or a former classmate – any of them can have group sex, and that’s perfectly normal! Since swinging is taboo even today, let’s take a closer look to see if the myths are true. Read also – “Swingers clubs – strict rules and clear boundaries“.

Myth no. 1 – You can’t say “no” to anything

Beginners tend to think that once you come to a swingers party, you have to have sex with whoever asks for it. In fact, there are couples who just like to watch. Group sex can only happen if each and every participant agree. Also in swinging events, it is normal to say that you don’t want to indulge in any activities with certain people or couples – participants accept this as a normal course of action.

Myth no. 2 – “I have to look stunning to get into a swingers club”

Many people think that swingers parties are attended only by handsome, sexy people with excellent skills in bed. Remember, this is not a movie, but a reality with different personalities and different desires. Some want to have sex with an older couple, others like taller people, but for some, appearance doesn’t matter at all.

Swingers are considered a form of community, and despite the fact that many people participate with the goal of diversifying their sex lives, swinging is not just about that. When defining a swinging community, it should be noted that they are usually carefully selected people, often in good positions and with a high level of education. Therefore, all participants are considered to be people and not sex objects, which means that there is no need to worry about various appearance imperfections.

Some interesting facts about group sex
- In the Western world, 13-15% of people admit to having tried group sex at least once in their lives.
- 18% of men living in the United States say they have had a threesome at least once in their lives. Only 8-12% of women said the same.
- Women often see group sex in their fantasies with many participants. Men are more interested in threesome.
- Nearly 30% of American adults fantasize about group sex.
- A partner who has tried group sex in their lifetime is likely to be unfaithful later in the relationship.
- Only up to 3% of people swing more often than once a year.
- Group sex is most common in threesomes with two men and one woman.
- Homosexual partners are much less likely to have threesomes or group sex than heterosexual people.
- Women would normally agree to having sex with both two men and two women.
- According to historical data, group sex was popular in Europe as early as the 16th century and the 18th century – swinging and group sex were almost a ritual.
12.17.2021.
Swingers clubs – strict rules and clear boundaries

Swingers’ clubs are places surrounded by myths and secrets, which we often imagine as the plot of an erotic film – young, sexy people dressed in latex, who cheat on their spouses in unimaginable ways. But in reality, swingers are much closer to us than you might think – a neighbor with a weird hairstyle, a company accountant or a former classmate – any of them can have group sex, and that’s perfectly normal!

However, this topic is taboo in society and is even condemned – it is all a consequence of existing myths, so in this article we will try to introduce you to this type of sex.

What are swingers?

Mentioning the concept of swingers often leads to a wide variety of negative associations. One of the myths that has taken root in society is that swingers are old perverted sexually explicit people. But that is not true at all! A 2016 US study found that the average age of people having group sex is 41 years.

According to various sources, swinging is often performed by married couples. Swingers are usually described as couples who have sex with another partner or couple. Basically, swinging can be described as exchanging sexual partners. Swingers are both heterosexual and homosexual, often gathering in communities, attending special swinger clubs and parties.

There are several types of swinging:

“Peaceful swinging.” This is the type of swinging usually beginners or couples who are in a long-term relationship do. They usually just want to get used to the new, inexperienced world of swingers. During the foreplay, participants exchange partners for oral sex or other games, but penetrating sex happens only with their other half. For the first time, others simply choose to watch what is happening and not participate.

“Closed Swinging“. Closed swinging usually takes place in one house/apartment with several rooms. Participants each choose their own partner and go to separate rooms to indulge in the joys of love.

“Open Swinging“. To make it easier to understand open swinging, imagine one big room where you choose your favorite partner and have sex right next to others.

Strict rules and clear boundaries

2016 United States and Finland study swingers says that this type of sex is like a game in which pre-determined boundaries are very important. Why? Because it creates physical and emotional security, conflicts and other problems can be avoided in this way.

So it is not correct to think that there are uncontrolled orgies in swing parties. The concepts of swingers and orgies are different. Swingers usually organize parties in which partners exchange in pairs. People set boundaries, some participate as observers. Swinging or group sex is considered to be an intimate activity involving three or more people.

Orgies involve a larger number of people, at least five, but there can be twenty or more. Orgy participants usually have no borders or taboos. Sex does not necessarily take place between couples, but simply between participants. The exchange of partners is accidental and all fantasies are fulfilled.

Is swinging cheating? It’s up to you!

Let’s look at this process primitively – having sex with someone other than your partner is cheating. However, everything is not so simple in swinging. As we have already mentioned, strict rules are important in swinging. The same goes for communicating with your significant other.

Swinging differs from the usual polygamy because swingers only want to engage in this process if their loved one is also involved.

To avoid conflicts, we recommend that you talk to your partner very openly before swinging, as well as set appropriate boundaries and expectations. Agree on specific signs that will make the other person know that you want to leave. However, it is natural that swinging is not suitable for everyone, so it is completely normal if one of the partners does not want to repeat this type of experience. You have to respect their decision.

Important rule: do not drink too much alcohol!

To feel more confident, many people consume large amounts of alcohol or other intoxicants before their first group sex experience. Of course, you can drink, but if you drink too much, you can lose control, not remember what happened, or offend other participants or even your loved one. Various intoxicants can negatively affect men’s (and women’s!) sexual abilities, which will negatively affect your group sex experience. Read more about the effects of alcohol in this article.

Take your time

Various movies and stories rarely reflect what actually happens at swinger parties. They rarely take place in any secret place, behind a door locked with five keys. In Latvia, such parties take place in saunas, private bars, homes and other traditional rooms and are more reminiscent of gatherings of friends than the orgies seen in films.

However, no article will tell you exactly how your first party will go. There is little information on the subject, as participants in such parties cannot and probably do not want to share such confidential information. Therefore, one of the important tips for a first timer would be to simply watch the process. Don’t go into the adventure right away, stay with your partner, watch the evening, discuss what you have seen. This first experience will help you assess the situation, define your rules for the next time and not set your expectations too high.

12.16.2021.