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Threesome – Is It Worth It? Before having sex with several, it is worth asking yourself a few questions. Let’s look at the option when a third is attracted to a couple for their intimate relationship.

Is it necessary and are we ready for it?

This is the most important issue. Threesome sex – this is a triangle in which the interaction takes place between three participants, and it means that one of the couple must be open to bisexual interaction, but the other must accept it. The next question to be answered honestly to yourself is, will the fact that your partner and the third person caress, kiss, or otherwise display their sexual desires and actions not cause strong jealousy, private ownership, or hinder further relationships ? If all is well, such a pleasure in a trio can only be improved and strengthened by bringing new winds, a sense of togetherness, openness and trust.

What are we waiting for?

The answer to this question can be found at the beginning, when we started thinking about threesome sex at all. Motivation and desires can be different. Some will want to try sex with two women or two men, others will try to have intimate intimacy with their sex in the presence of their partner, someone else will want to watch… There is a possibility that after such a sexual experience a couple or one of the partners may feel disappointed yet we. But there will definitely be those who will have a positive experience , enjoyment and satisfaction and will start planning the next adventure.

Who will be third?

If it is decided in favor of adventure, it should be agreed who will be third. It will be a man or a woman, what should be the structure of this person’s body and maybe even the color of her hair. A good candidate from a circle of friends can emerge right away, and then all that remains is to plan how to involve this third party. Another option – the third is found through dating portals. This process is usually not spontaneous, most often pairs with the desired applicant in advance to meet and understand whether it will be appropriate. The appearance, speech type, behavior and other characteristics of the third person will be very important in this situation, which can influence the choice both positively and negatively. Anyway – whoever is looking finds it!

What are our rules?

There is basically no big difference between having sex in twos or threes. In any situation, each participant has the right to give up what is happening or not to do what they do not want to do. Everyone can have their own prejudices and frames that others need to respect. But it would not be wise to make any additional rules at the outset about who can kiss, touch, caress or more. If such rules arise, it is likely that someone is not ready for such an interaction from the very beginning. It is also important to remember to protect against HIV and STDs – if a couple does not usually use condoms during sex, they must use them when the third person comes.

At some point in life, most of us have fantasized about a threesome. A survey of more than 4,000 people found that threesome sex is the most common sexual fantasy. 95% of men and 87% of women found that they had fantasized about having sex with several partners.

Keep in mind that threesome sex can be tricky – after all, six limbs are pretty much. Let’s look at the best sex poses for three people, including bi variants where everyone is in each other and variants where two of the participants do not play with each other.

Double Cowgirl

In this pose, one partner is in the traditional equestrian pose, while the other is sitting on the man’s face. The person sitting on the face may be there facing the other rider or vice versa, but it is usually better if the two people sitting up are facing each other, although they can kiss and touch each other if they wish.

Doggy Train

The back of the train is a man in a classic doggy style. The average woman (or man) meets the bow of a train orally.

Double Oral Pleasure

This position is best when one focuses on the standing testicles and the other on the penis. Depending on whether the man likes it, one partner can work around his back and the other around the front.

Doggy Deluxe

Two of the partners indulge in doggy style, while the third lies on his back and enjoys the oral performance given by the average woman.

Daisy Train (69 Train)

All are lying down and on their side. Here, however, make sure that all partners are about the same height.

Eiffel Tower

The person in the middle is employed from both ends. Those at both ends do not necessarily have to join hands to create a figure similar to the Eiffel Tower.

Classic Double Penetration

The man is lying on his back and the woman is lying on top of him. The other partner enters the woman in a doggy position. Porn stars deserve a boost because they make this pose look particularly simple, when in fact it is quite difficult. But here are some tips that can help: let the person with the largest penis be in the back; both penis owners should not try to move in the same rhythm, otherwise one of you will almost certainly slip out of the woman.

Doggystyle BJ

This is the same doggy deluxe posture, with only two men and one woman.

The Spoon

Everyone lies on their side and gives either anal or vaginal sex to the one in front. It is important here that everyone is very close together.

Human Centipede

This pose is like the 2009 horror film The Human Centipede – except that it gives pleasure, not horror. In this position, all three people are on their knees, meeting the one in front. This is a surprisingly good posture for guys doing ‘analingus’ (rimming). In addition, this is a great pose to start with, as it is easy to switch seamlessly from several of the sex poses listed above, such as ‘Dog Train’ or ‘Dog Deluxe’ poses.

Threesome – many dreams about it, but dare to implement it in life – much less. Gives up prejudice and allows yourself to gain new experiences and feelings. How did you not ruin your first experience if you are in a serious relationship and have decided to involve a third party?

In which cases, the tips below won’t help:

• If you meet by chance one night;
• If you are two men or two women who wanted sharp feelings here and now;
• If you don’t care what happens next, no iteration is planned and no matter if everyone is happy.

Tips to help a resilient couple with long-term relationship experience gain new feelings and not “burn out”

Why do you need to diversify your sex? The passion disappears over time and this is a proven fact. If you’ve been together for more than three years, you probably understand. Threesome sex is one of the ways to diversify that can help someone, but for someone, it will seem to be missed.

The first experience

The first experience of threesome sex is a test for any relationship. It is necessary to treat each other with special care to make it clear that you are here for each other, the highest value – it is your relationship, not the third party. If in the process you see that your partner does not like something, take a break, pull him to the bathroom, and talk about what is happening.

Tell me how much you love each other. Relax, calm down, inspire – you know best what to say. And if the discomfort disappears – continue. If not, it is better to stop altogether. You will still have the opportunity to try.

If you have not had such an experience, it is better not to invite a good friend as a third party. If something goes wrong, you risk permanently damaging the relationship with the third party.

THREESOME – DECIDE WHAT THE FORMAT WILL BE

Man-woman-man

Pluses

• Two men can meet a woman much better than one. Four hands, two mouths, two limbs. Double entry. Double enjoyment. One of the most common women’s fantasies – she and two macho (or more). The lady feels like a queen, is the focus of two men at once.
• This format requires very little preparation. The woman just needs to be trusted, then everything will happen. Two men will always find what to do with a woman.

• Everyone has heard of multiple orgasms in women. The male body is decorated differently. They need time to regain strength after ejaculation. While one is active, the other is resting and vice versa.
• There is no danger of transmitting microflora. If the guest has condoms, then no one will get new germs and fungi. Unlike the woman-man-woman format, you need to follow it much more carefully.

Minuses

• A woman must rightly trust at least one of the men. It is necessary for someone to be able to hear: “Stop, I do not want to”.

Passion surges four strong hands greatly reduces a woman’s degree of freedom and it is easy not to notice that something is causing discomfort.

For example, that something in this position is painful. Pain and pleasure are difficult to distinguish, especially if you are not familiar. There must be someone who will be able to stop the woman’s unpleasant behavior, change the posture or amplitude.

Or, for example, she wasn’t going to have anal sex. Games in the heat of two men are easy to insist on their own. It’s not forced, no. After another orgasm, she may not have the time or opportunity to object. But later she will say, “No, I didn’t want that, it just happened. I was against it, I don’t like it. ” And the impression is damaged, resentment remains. To avoid this, a special word “stop” needs to be agreed upon.

• The man must be aware that he will be in the same bed with another naked guy with a horny member. And there is no way to prevent accidental contact at all. If you do not like this thought, it is better to refrain from such adventures. The psyche is more expensive.

Woman-man-woman

If a threesome is between two women and one man, then everything is much more complicated. There is a widespread legend among men that having sex with two women is just wow! A charming picture in front of your eyes: two women are dancing, kissing passionately, caressing each other, sometimes looking at a man. Excited throws on top of a man and… Nonsense! In nine out of ten cases, one or both women remain frustrated with what they say.

Causes:
• the man paid less attention to her than she would have liked;
• the man had been dealing with the other woman for too long and she was already “cool”;
• the man was too agitated and stopped quickly;
• one of the women was jealous;
• Women began to compare themselves and suffered from imaginary physical disabilities, etc.

But the main reason is that a man does not have enough energy and attention for both!

Pluses

• It is very beautiful. Two naked women in bed – a delightful view. Men, (with a few exceptions) find lesbian erotica exciting. No wonder it is one of the most popular scenes in the porn industry. Most women like it too.

• Lets open up female sexuality and find out about it. Maybe she’s bisexual – a great and safe way to explore this aspect of her sexuality.

Minuses

• The man will have to work hard to satisfy both. It is really difficult and there is a risk that all three will be dissatisfied. In addition, women are more sensitive than men and will notice and react to all the nuances of the trio’s mood. Bad joke – and the temperature of arousal drops. Or, for example, a woman would usually drink sweet champagne, but you’ve bought Brut. And yet – women are more ashamed of each other than men – “oh no, she will see my excess weight on my hips, horror, turn off the light faster!”
• You have to prepare for the meeting. The ladies should get acquainted. Find out who likes it. Make sure the invited girl is not afraid and trusts you. Once again, tell your wife how much you love her. Make sure your woman doesn’t see a stranger as a threat to your relationship.
• Increased safety measures must be observed. The vaginal microflora can be transferred from one woman to another not only with a member, but also with fingers, lips and other parts of the body.
• There are women who have completely unacceptable sex or even just erotic games with a member of their gender.

For the game to be successful, there must be cooperation, a team game in which two partners deal with the third. Start with the invited girl. Together with your regular partner, pay full attention to her. Then, after the climax and rest, change roles.

What if your partner is strictly heterosexual? No need to portray lesbian porn, do dicking, or squeeze breasts. Even kissing is not obligatory. It is enough to caress the back, abdomen, legs. Kiss your neck, shoulders, and ears. Caress your head and hair. Even just hug, look into your eyes and smile encouragingly while the man is working with him.

General practical advice

1. Most importantly, all three must have mutual sympathy. If at least one participant has a dislike for another, sex will only increase. Look for another partner.
2. Arrange a stop word with your regular partner, which should be stopped immediately.
3. Some sexologists recommend abstaining from sex a few days before the meeting, as well as including aphrodisiacs in your diet .
4. Better to meet in a neutral area. The invited participant will feel uncomfortable in the owner’s apartment in any case. In a neutral place, everyone is equal and it is easier to relax. If there is a sauna, then it is always possible to fill an awkward break with the words “Let’s go to the pool!” In the worst case – a hotel. Not everyone will like the threesome to go to the number in front of the administrator. If possible, make sure the rooms are clean in advance. Dirty floors and dust on furniture – a safe way to a damaged evening.
5. Provide a romantic atmosphere. Appropriate music, candles, flowers, chocolate, twilight. This is important for two, but even more for three. If you are not sure that all participants like scented candles, take the usual ones.
6. If you wish, you can start the evening together by watching porn.
7. Fruit, water and light snacks. Some snacks are half a banana, others half a grilled chicken. Everything is relative, so you should know in advance which types of snacks and what alcohol would be recommended. Food and alcohol better less and lighter. Strong drinks should not be taken. There must always be water!
8. Provide adequate lubricant and contraception.

PS The author of the article is a man with a long-term relationship experience.

Source:  lifehacker.ru