When a relationship just begins, everything seems perfect. But at some point, the man for whom she had already planned to have children and live with her until old age simply disappears without explaining anything. Why?
Luke McCord, a relationship specialist, explains: “Men are animals in a way. Primarily, what they notice in a woman is appearance. If you look beautiful, he will invite you on a date. And for a while, it will be enough. However, because the man knows exactly what he doesn’t like, he will quickly start paying attention to your “inner content”. The spiritual world, the character, the habits – it all matters. And over time, it becomes more important than appearance.
At the beginning of a relationship and maybe even on a first date, there are some important nuances that a woman should pay attention to because some men perceive them as a warning to take their feet over their shoulders. And no, unfortunately, it won’t change if the man gets to know you better.
1. YOU HOPE THAT HE WILL BE “YOUR SAVIOR”
Men don’t like to take emotional responsibility until they feel attached. If a man thinks you just “need” him and not “want” him, an alarm will sound immediately in his head. An emotionally healthy man will not agree to be the filler of the emptiness of your life and soul.
You may have heard the opposite many times, but a man does not dream of saving a woman from her unhappy life. He wants to be with a person who, even without him, can be happy and live to the fullest. It is not infantilism or an immature mind. One is to help someone you are already attached to and with whom you are in a relationship with, but something else is different to experience at the beginning of that relationship. It seems scary to a man.
2. YOU WANT TO FORGET YOUR EX
No man wants to be a substitute. If you are divorced or have a long-term relationship, do not expect a poor person to agree to comfort you. Men are attracted by women whose lives are in order. Even if not to the end, the key to them is successfully coping with different situations. Such women know what they want out of life, are confident, and not afraid to be alone. If you are looking for a man because you are afraid of loneliness, potential fans will “read” it in your eyes and quickly disappear.
3. YOU ARE THE QUEEN OF DRAMA
Men cope with emotions worse. Psychological research has shown that women express their feelings much more strongly. Men hate dramatic emotions because they don’t know what to do with them. When a woman asks, “Where do you think our relationship leads?” the man is overwhelmed by negative emotions that he does not know how to deal with. When a lady raises a deep scene of jealousy or says, “You will pay more attention to her than I do,” he does not know how to react. And it is easier for him to get rid of you than to explain this “drama”.
The beginning of a relationship includes getting to know each other, having fun together, building emotional intimacy. However, if a woman starts to appreciate the potential partner’s contribution to the relationship from day one (week, month), expecting more than the man can offer, it is unlikely that he will stay in such a relationship.
4. YOU ARE NOT CONFIDENT
There is a saying, “If you don’t believe in yourself, why should others do it?” If you do not trust yourself, your actions, no man will fill this gap. Do you constantly need confirmation that you look great, that is, raising children and divinely preparing? The man will be tired that you will want to hear about it all the time. Nothing is as exciting as self-confidence. What can we offer a potential partner if we do not respect ourselves as a person?
Conclusion. Women are wonderful, without them men would not stand. True, without men they can do well. If you don’t have a partner right now, that doesn’t mean you have to find it and turn your quest for the prince into a white horse for the purpose of your life. Life will be much better if it is not overshadowed by the constant race after a man. Women are amazing creatures. Start enjoying life and all men will be at your feet.
What are the main types of sex and who likes it? What are the characteristics of male sexuality, and what are the characteristics of women? These are just some of the questions that can be answered in Arkady Panca and Galina Panca-Zaitseva’s book Conversations on Love. Here are excerpts from the book.
THE THREE MAIN TYPES OF SEX – WHO LIKES?
The first type is a fee for the animal origin of a man, which requires the demonstration of strength and power over the female: came and took, without preludes and sentiments. Women sweetly forget about such sexuality: almost everyone is ready to give up to a strong male. Rough, domineering and dominant sex is characteristic not only of domineering, but also of shy and quiet men. Sometimes the quiet and shy in the bedroom dominates so that the floor shakes – just to compensate for your daily restraint.
The second type of sex is based on a man’s desire to feel a woman’s power and submit to it. Such desires often arise from a tired mind: one is tired of taking responsibility – for the kingdom, the army, for work, for employees and family. And at least he wants to be in bed and not be responsible for anything. According to German psychologists, a man’s need to submit to sex hits the highest wave during economic crises. It is more difficult for a man to quench such thirst than to satisfy the purely animal instinct of “being on the surface.”
This desire of men drives many women to a standstill: everyone knows how to lie on their backs and give up, but on the surface and domineering – “how is it?”.
After the collapse of the USSR, in the pre-internet age, telephone sex was in vogue with us, and there was a huge demand for employees who knew how to play the role of a tough lady. They received much more money than “innocent virgins” and “sluts.” The desire to surrender to a “tough lady” often torments brutal and high-ranking men who are tired of commanding work.
The same man is savage and power-hungry today, but ready to submit himself tomorrow. If a skilled lover meets both of her husband’s sexual needs, he will be mad without her.
The third type of sex that women call “gentle” – with long caresses, gentle tickling of tickles and nice pranks that are whispered in the headset – is perfect for partners with low potency. Everyone else chooses it for the sake of their girlfriend to express their love for her.
PECULIARITIES OF MALE SEXUALITY AT DIFFERENT AGES
From 20 to 30 years. Sexuality splashes over the edges. He gets excited at the sight of a stranger. Prefers quantity over quality over quality. In sex, think more about yourself than your partner. For the sake of good sex, he is ready to associate with a mole or a fool. In the long run, he doesn’t care if his partner wants sex or not – he will still be in bed with it and will do everything as he wants.
From 30 to 45 years. Appreciates the quality of sex caresses and the variety of poses, is attentive to the loved one. Is picky in women’s selection. He no longer responds to the glare. He finds out that he has married a mole or a fool because of sex, divorces her. And looking outwardly similar to the previous one, only honest and true or smart and tactical. You can make love with a woman who is cool and indifferent to the joys of bed, but sees no need to do so, even if she is fantastically beautiful.
After the age of 45. Despite the generally accepted stereotype, prefers not young people, but skilled and experienced, relaxed lovers. He needs stimulation, he is ignited by touch. Do not understand who has a “piece of ice” in his bed. With a woman who likes sex, retains potency until old age – up to eighty years. The main thing – to avoid interruptions longer than a year.
PECULIARITIES OF FEMALE SEXUALITY AT DIFFERENT AGES
20 – 30 years. “Do I want to and if I want, what?” A woman is clear about how and with what she likes to make love, curiosity is more than passion. To marry or not to marry, to give birth or not to give birth? She suspects that the importance of sex is a bit exaggerated. Think more about yourself than about sex, address the questions “how attractive I am” and “do I like men”.
30 – 40 years. The pinnacle of sensuality. She has given birth, calmed down, been clear. Knows how to orgasm. Has appreciated the importance of sex. She has become demanding of men, looking for diversity in sex. He is often angry about “boring spousal sex”.
40 – 50 years. The pinnacle of passion and uncontrollable sexuality. A woman knows what, how and with whom she wants. The children have grown up, there is more free time, the thought has disappeared “or just I won’t have missed something”. And an extramarital novel doesn’t make you wait long. Married women hide such outbursts of passion better than married men, but they happen quite often, and they choose much younger partners for themselves.
50 years and over. Not afraid of pregnancy and sex absolutely loosened, unless you block yourself psychologically with the thought “I’m too old for love.” Lust persisted, although its intensity diminished. The pleasure of intimacy is unexpectedly bright and pronounced.
About the authors
Arkādijs Pancs – psychoanalyst, psychotherapist and psychiatrist, member of Latvian and international professional associations with long work experience. Arkady Panch has spent a lot of time bringing the ideas of psychoanalysis closer to our daily lives. Galina Panca-Zaitseva has a medical degree, but her vocation is journalism. Since 2014, she has managed the consulting center “Arkadia”, where she continues to promote the ideas of her husband Arkady Panca.
This book is the result of conversations and articles in which Arkady Pancs shares with readers his experiences, observations, thoughts and feelings that have affected him during his thirty-five years of professional activity. These articles were often dictated by the author to his spouse and then discussed together. The book summarizes his ideas, as well as Galina Panca-Zaitseva’s observations and reflections.
Is it worth staying in a relationship with someone you don’t want to spend intimate moments with? Because sex is an important part of a relationship, it’s easy to question the future of a relationship if someone in the relationship doesn’t want to have sex.
It is not easy to admit to yourself that your partner is no longer attracting you. It is an experience that almost everyone who has had a long-term relationship faces. Realizing that greater arousal arises from remembering an excerpt from an erotic movie or work colleague rather than your partner, everyone may feel guilty.
Some resolve this inner conflict by accepting that sex will not be as passionate as in fantasies, others are looking for a lover, others are divorcing and looking for happiness elsewhere.
IT IS NORMAL TO NO LONGER FEEL A STRONG PASSION
Studies show that the need for sex in long-term relationships decreases significantly. In the UK, a study was published in 2017 with 15,162 respondents. It found that in relationships lasting more than a year, 23% of men and 27% of women say they are less interested in sex than in the early stages of the relationship.
However, if you are the one who no longer wants sex with your partner, it does not mean that this relationship must end.
WHY IS THERE NO MORE SEX IN A RELATIONSHIP?
Let’s start from the beginning. A strong passion is usually associated with surprises, new experiences, anxiety, sometimes risk. These are the feelings we experience at the beginning of a romantic relationship. And love arises when we feel safe, able to anticipate and (presumably) control our own and others’ actions. So it takes time to build a strong sense of love. It is easy to notice that passion and love arise in completely different situations.
Here’s what it looks like in practice. People get to know each other. An unexpected and strong “chemistry” begins. We feel excited, we think about this person, we want to be with him as often as possible and we try to please him. We are considering how to surprise each other, maybe update our wardrobe. Maybe we are looking for interesting places for an evening together. Maybe we buy a nice gift or make dinner.
Life acquires new colors and brings us into this euphoria. We value every moment and try to create as many such moments as possible. We spend morning, lunch, and evening together calling, correspondence, and trying to ensure that these moments never end.
True, this euphoria begins to subside, fearing fear – and what if the partner finds another? What if he doesn’t like something? So you decide to offer to live together, keep a pet, buy a house and maybe raise children. Thus, for security’s sake, we sacrifice part of our freedom and unpredictability.
We strive to find ways to maintain relationships that we feel secure and able to trust. After all, it is such a relationship that should help to survive all misfortunes and overcome challenges.
But that is not our only need. We also want to face new, unexpected, sometimes risky challenges in life. Therefore, this person must still be loving, passionate, with similar hobbies, able to excite, enterprising, able to listen… This list could go on indefinitely.
In addition, we believe that we need to find this person, and when we find it, we need to live together for life. So divorce or mistrust seems to be the wrong choice.
Therefore, we are looking for a universal person who is able to meet all our possible and even impossible needs, not to develop our ability to love.
Most of us “sacrifice” our passion for the stability of the relationship. And then you end up finding yourself in a relationship where you love and cherish each other, but don’t want to do it at all.
WHY DO THOUGHTS STEAL AT ANOTHER?
Without intimacy, sexual needs do not disappear in a relationship. So we look for intimacy elsewhere, sometimes it’s fervent fantasies, sometimes it’s a new relationship.
The relationship is always accompanied by a third party. This third is a charming salesperson you want to flirt with. The third can also be a muscular porn actor or a flexible stripper. This third is exactly what we fantasize about during sex with a partner. So the third can be not only a lover but also a fantasy about him, which is like a forbidden fruit.
Everyone senses that this third exists. Sometimes we try to push it out, control it and eliminate it with the texts “You spend a long time with the colleague you talked about?”, “You spend a lot of time at the computer, do you work all the time?”, “Did you think of me today? ? ”,“ Did I miss you? ”. These questions arise as if we are caring, when in fact we are afraid of losing control of the relationship and giving in to a third stranger.
Because we are afraid of losing and being left behind, we build a contract of trust in the relationship. We want to know that no matter what happens, we will be indispensable in the lives of at least one person. And if we no longer feel important enough, it’s time to find another person who would make us happy.
WHY IS IT SO EASY TO ESTABLISH INTIMACY WITH ANOTHER?
The favorite is dangerous making, which creates risk, uncertainty, and anxiety. In this relationship, there is no need to think about whether this person will please your friends, family, consider household issues and take care of anything other than the relationship itself.
In addition, this relationship needs to find time between all other commitments and worries and ensure that no one notices you. All these efforts only show how much you are willing to sacrifice for each other because of this secret relationship.
It is a mystery, a risk, a fit of jealousy and it causes a strong excitement in this relationship. Can it all have to do with love? Probably not.
HOW TO RESTORE INTIMACY IN A LASTING RELATIONSHIP?
Change your regular sex. This is one of the reasons why in a long-term relationship you don’t want to make love at all and sex starts to be associated with boring activities that are done by duty.
In addition, we are deeply convinced that only spontaneous sex can save a relationship. After all, it was a strong passion at the beginning of the relationship. Why then aren’t they now?
Since we cannot remember all the details, we firmly believe that passion comes “by itself”, “spontaneously.” True, it is just a beautiful mirage in the desert. Any “spontaneous” sex takes hours, sometimes several days, to prepare. After all, when going on the first dates, we think about how to dress, maybe even go to the hairdresser, we thought about where it would be better to spend the evening together, where it will be more cozy, clean the house, buy candles.
There is no spontaneity in this to-do list, it is planning for a few days. And this planning in itself stimulates the fantasy of a passionate joint evening that creates spontaneous sex.
What can we learn from this experience? We can also plan dates in a long-term relationship, and it is useful to prepare for them.
LEGALIZES SEXUAL FANTASIES
If a partner thinks of another, he/she may also love the other, and that is no longer acceptable, right?
The fact that your partner’s sexual fantasies don’t always involve you alone can be annoying, but it might be worthwhile to look into those fantasies. No one would want to experience each other’s distrust, but the awareness that it can happen encourages passion in the relationship. By allowing conversations about sexual fantasies, we can safely meet the “third” participant who worries us. That way, there are no more ominous secrets in the relationship.
HOW TO IMPLEMENT IT?
Maybe your partner likes girls with blonde hair, and he could get it if you put on a light wig for one night. Maybe you like men who wear torn jeans and a leather jacket, and your partner would agree to be this hero for one night. Or maybe your girlfriend likes sex during which she could have less control over the situation, and that’s why it’s worth trying an eye bandage or handcuffs. It is important that this game does not become an attempt to change each other, because we cannot force each other to be who he is not or does not want to be.
SEE YOUR PARTNER WITH NEW EYES
In order for a long-term relationship to show a new passion that has disappeared between everyday work, it is necessary to introduce news and surprises into it. Sometimes we forget that the person we are in a relationship with is not only stubborn, hard to accept, annoying, and has unpleasant habits, but he is also cheerful, he has a good sense of humor, he is able to build great relationships with other people and he/she is what you want.
To see again the qualities that once helped build a relationship, it’s worth meeting other people together and spending time watching how others look at your partner, how others interact with him or her. If you saw your loved one for the first time, would you start a conversation with him?
Building intimacy in a long-term relationship is a task that is no less important and perhaps more important than planning a vacation, everyday shopping, and a movie night. Therefore, there is no single simple recipe for correcting a relationship, it is a constant process of communication and cognition that requires self-reflection and love for each other.
When divorced, some couples decide to have sex on farewell. Psychologists and sexologists are convinced that no matter how bold, hot, playful, lustful the sex will be after divorce, the situation will not be corrected, the relationship will end anyway. Interestingly, the partner who suffers from unrequited love is usually the one who shows initiative. In this way, he puts an end to the old relationship. There are situations when the loving partner is completely disappointed, realizes that the old feelings are no longer recovered, calms down, and lives on, but the other who decided to divorce suffers.
What is sex after divorce? Is that necessary at all? What are the intentions of partners to stand out?
When a relationship ends, people go through a lot. Probably not because you love each other, but just get used to each other’s habits, body, touch. Some love the one who leaves them so much that they experience the pain of the soul, unable to control themselves.
Remember! If a person has decided to leave you, it is not worth trying to keep him, especially with sex. Let him go his own way and start a new life. Never humble yourself and run after each other for love. It will only lose the dignity in his eyes. Maintain self-esteem.
Many women and men make the mistake of trying to get their partner back with farewell sex. It just humiliates itself! Sex for a short time relieves the pain of divorce, but the emotional state can worsen.
Are you determined to divorce your partner? Is he asking you for sex? Do not take this step, sexual act always gives hope for the continuation of the relationship, especially because many people are unable to separate emotions from sex.
Farewell sex harm
Relationship is over, be completely free, independent. You can calmly dismiss a person, forgive and live on to the fullest. If you agree to sex, you will automatically lose your freedom.
Valuable advice! You can’t stick to the past, you should always move on. Sex will never rebuild a family. It can only help if the partners really love each other and have decided to divorce only for a moment. Sometimes it just seems like strong lovers, and when it really hurts, you realize: in fact, there is no love, it was a fictional image, an illusion.
Sex after divorce – what is its purpose?
Consolation
Many men say they have shared a bed with a woman on the verge of divorce to comfort her. In such a situation, their selfishness manifests itself without thinking about a woman’s feelings. It may be difficult for her to divorce, but sex is a step backwards.
Weak women also make mistakes: they humble themselves, cry, appeal to pity. There are women who hope to conceive a child during farewell sex, specially count the days and then seduce the partner. This is a huge mistake! Children are a serious turning point in life. Under no circumstances should you give birth to attract a man who does not love you.
An act of mercy
Farewell sex is used as a refusal to continue a relationship and even as a thank you. If the love was one-sided, the sex partner thanks for the good attitude. But he who wants to divorce loves to say goodbye sooner: “Let us agree that I will pay attention to you and give you this night, but then you will forget about me.” It is a kind of act of mercy, a small gift to the worshiper. But everyone decides for themselves, humble themselves and accept such a “gift” or send a partner somewhere far away.
Psychologists recommend remembering that you are human, no one has the right to control your life and feelings. You were told “no”. Everything! Calm down, accept it. Sex can no longer solve anything, even if it will be the most shocking in your life.
Cruel revenge
Disgusting and immoral motive is sex in revenge. It is often used by women when a man falls in love with another and decides to leave him. A woman gets a loved one in bed and specially bites, scratches, leaves bruises on the neck. Maybe they secretly film a sexual intercourse, take photos and send them to the new crush. On the other hand, if a man really decides to leave a woman, he is 100% sure that he will be better with the other, he will never dare to sleep with the former.
Sexologists’ recommendations
Think well, why do you need unnecessary emotions, anxiety, especially if love is one-sided?
Don’t try to analyze sex. It happened, yes, then and then? Better to throw away what happened.
You will not return anyone with sex. A man perceives sexual intercourse much more easily than a woman. Don’t think that if you are particularly good in bed, he will decide to return.
There is no need to repeat farewell sex, thus filling the void in the soul. Completely breaks ties with the former, begins to live again. Believe that there will be someone with whom you will feel loved.
Do not expect sex to continue. Note that it was an emotional discharge, an erotic adventure, but nothing more.
Be smarter and more cunning! It is not worth spending your life on someone who causes tears, unpleasant emotions, scandals. Find someone you will feel easy and relaxed with. If you believe it, everything will come true! Good luck!
Many women who have a regular sex life often ask themselves, why can’t they fully enjoy making love, have real pleasure, or become a partner for the best woman in their life? Let’s look at what are the key mistakes in sex , which allows women, and which, when repeated over and over again, can disrupt even the happiest relationships.
Turning sex into a part of everyday life
Couples who have been together for a long time, the romantic feelings of sex that were in the beginning, gradually disappear. And it’s not just because partners are tired of each other or oversaturated, more often the main reason is the perception of sex as a part of everyday life. “Dinner, shower, sex” is a part of the schedule, but making love is a sensual and deeply emotional process.
Sexual blackmail
Women often use sex for mercantile purposes, including as a means of blackmail. “If you don’t come back from the party in time / don’t put on the shelf / don’t buy new boots – there will be no sex” – such arguments can often be heard from women’s lips. But sooner or later similar statements lead to an undesirable result and the bed remains empty and cold.
Separation from other relationships
Sex is not just a physical process. It is part of the whole spectrum of relationships – friendship, love, understanding, interests and so on. It is a common mistake of women to separate intimate intimacy with a loved one from this relationship.
Complex “I’m terrible”
Of course, we are not perfect, everyone has flaws in appearance. But when you constantly emphasize during love that something is wrong with you, you spoil the atmosphere and you cannot relax enough to receive and give pleasure.
Complex “I’m a good girl”
Intimate life is therefore already intimate, that it should not be discussed and, even more so, condemned. Only you and your partner, when you are alone, can determine what is allowed and its limits. However, women often believe that some activities in bed are signs of depravity and are unique to ladies of a certain reputation. The thought that “it’s not appropriate” completely ruins your two sex lives.
Rejection of partner’s wishes and proposals
Often during sex, a man gives a hint or openly tells about his wishes in sex, but receives a strict rejection from the woman. Even if you find something disgusting and you don’t want to do certain things, try to choose the right words or offer a compromise. For example, “Beloved, I don’t want to do this, but we can try.” However, such findings can negatively affect sexual life in general.
Silence, not showing emotions
Don’t shut up! And it’s not just about loud moaning like in adult movies. It is important for a man to hear and understand your condition, feel emotions, see the reaction to his movements and actions. The same goes for not having to endure if you are uncomfortable, painful, discomfort. The task of sex is pleasure!
An untidy woman
It is unlikely that a woman who has forgotten to take care of herself will be able to enjoy sex. After all, to enjoy the process, you should enjoy both the partner and yourself. In addition, it’s always nice to hear compliments, and if you’ve forgotten to shave your armpits, haven’t washed your hair for a long time, or walked in stretched training pants, the number of nice words will drop rapidly.
“To be like everyone else”
Quite often women have sex in spite of desire and common sense just because “everyone does.” Of course, there are statistics and girlfriends’ stories about their “achievements”, but it is so generalized or, on the contrary, subjective, because each case is individual. Feeling in bed with each because of what “it does” – a very serious mistake.
Past mistakes
The sexual experience is not always positive. Sometimes you don’t even want to remember a few moments – complete frustration. When building an intimate relationship with a new partner, there is no point in thinking immediately about your past failures and resentments. That’s what was – to stay behind, and now you should enjoy something new and beautiful.
Comparison
“It’s been better!” – such thoughts are visited by women after not the most successful nights. But to compare different men – an absolutely pointless occupation: someone better in one thing, someone in another. “Bring it to bed,” all the relationships of the past, even if some of them have only fond memories, are not worth it.
Excessive chatter
Don’t talk too much. Yes, expressing your wishes and emotions is very important and necessary, but there is no point in having an extensive dialogue during sex. Hardly a man is ready to discuss your new dress, problems at work, and a girlfriend’s husband when it comes to a completely different aspect of life. Also, you shouldn’t over-comment on what’s going on or play pleasure if you don’t really feel that way.
Wrong choice
Many women who think in stereotypes are convinced that, for example, if a man is older, he is more likely to be more experienced. Or, on the contrary, if he is young, he is more energetic than older men. Therefore, the wrong choice is made, followed by disappointment: when imagining an ideal scene, you end up facing a completely different reality that is far from your fantasies.
Acting against your wishes, beliefs
In order not to feel shame, regret and discomfort after sex, do not obey your partner, do not tolerate what you do not like, do not do what you do not want. Be faithful to your desires, principles, and emotions, because a man will most likely not want to do something that doesn’t give you pleasure.
Too early – too late
According to statistics, women start having sex at the age of about 17. But there are exceptions, and some do it much earlier, and some do so much later. In any case, it should be a voluntary will and decision. However, many women who tried to divorce more quickly at a young age suffer from the problem “too late” at a mature age, thus giving up many things. For example, they decide that in 35 years it is absolutely unacceptable to try something new because “it is too late”.
Your relationship has not become serious, but it can definitely be defined as more than a series of random dates. You meet often, but you usually spend the weekends alone. In the evenings, you make passionate love, not meet each other’s friends, and he is not afraid to learn more about you, despite regular expressions of attention. As a result, you will probably feel confused not being able to understand the real intentions of the new hook and whether the air castles you have built will soon begin to collapse. To prevent this from happening, get acquainted with the characteristics of men’s health, which are characteristic of men who are only interested in sex – they are not interested in building a serious relationship and they prefer only passionate, but short-term sexual intercourse.
He is not interested in foreplay
Although you like to spend time caressing and kissing, thus taking care of his pleasure, your partner usually tries to “do everything to the end” as soon as possible, without thinking about more sophisticated touches and more thoughtful love instead of ordinary sex.
He does not introduce you to his friends
If he perceived you as a potential long-term relationship partner, you would be introduced to his friends and individual relatives, as well as colleagues and members of the sports club who happened to meet on the street.
He does not ask about your job, family, friends or hobbies
Men who are bound by a woman only as a sexual partner are not interested in her life outside of this relationship, in order to prevent themselves from being involved in solving the woman’s various problems and in life in general.
He doesn’t have time for dates you won’t fall in love with
Picnic on the weekend, going to the cinema or theater, shopping together… He does not have time for activities that do not involve making love and they seem uninteresting, despite your repeated suggestions to go somewhere together.
He calls to invite you over
You often receive his calls, but most of them are expected in the evening, while he is having fun with friends and wants a continuation of the evening, which is expected to arrive at his home at the end of the evening, at a time convenient for him.
He despises friends’ partners
If he regularly criticizes his friends’ beloved women, emphasizing that they have started behaving like a married couple, you know that your partner is definitely not interested in building a serious relationship.
Your belongings must not remain with him
No matter how distracted in other areas, a man who is only interested in sex will always make sure that your things do not stay in his dwelling, because every time you meet may be the last – if you destroy him or have a new object of lust? An unnecessary visit, returning after forgotten things, would be inconvenient for both of you.
He never stays for breakfast
Breakfast after a night together is intimate and creates a feeling of closeness. If you only dream of a shared breakfast, you know that it will stay that way.
He sexualizes everything
You tell him about the presentation led at work and he makes assumptions about how sexy you looked in a business suit and glasses? You find that you fixed the faucet yourself, but he starts fantasizing about you in the bathroom? If anything that happens in your daily life is sexualized, you know that this is how he perceives you – as a time-consuming object of sex.
Studies show that the breakdown of many marriages is due to unsatisfactory sex life or lack thereof. Partners move away and become lovers from lovers. Regular sex can help in such situations.
Family psychologists often claim that sex makes you blind. And the truth alone is – how can you be angry at a person who gives you pleasure in bed and makes you happy? Intimacy, along with the release of happiness and pleasure hormones, makes you forget for a moment about your partner’s shortcomings. Therefore, couples who experience relationship problems should have regular sex .
Sex helps partners change attitudes towards each other and get closer. Often people do not want to talk about problems in a relationship and hide their pain better than talk about it. Without taking the time to find a common solution to the problem, they argue and blame each other. It only makes the situation worse and ultimately destroys the relationship. When a couple has sex, they get really close and can share any secrets.
Physical contact helps partners not to cool off against each other. A happy marriage is always a place to communicate, and this statement also applies to sex life. Focus on your partner during sex, talk about what you like and what you would like. Also take an interest in each other’s needs.
It has been proven that a couple who often makes love is more likely to have a strong and lasting relationship. They get to a deeper level. This helps them solve problems and find a compromise quickly.
Examining the causes of mistrust, the researchers concluded that people who forbid their partners from having sex literally push them into adultery. Regular love creates satisfaction and thus deters you from wanting to be with other people.
In addition, regular sex with your partner will help you be more open and not shy about your body. When you feel sexually attractive, it increases your confidence, which has a positive effect on all aspects of your life.
