She’s on the verge of ecstasy, and then you do something that ruins her pleasure, derails her, and ruins the rest of the night. Some of the maneuvers may seem harmless, but they actually distract her from the ultimate goal: reaching orgasm. We recommend that you avoid these six actions at all costs, or you will not see her orgasm like your own ears.
The start is too intense
Full power early on is a classic rookie mistake that can end her O before it has a chance to arrive. It might seem controversial, but if you’re fingering her clit right from the start or applying too much pressure on it before she’s properly warmed up, I swear she won’t orgasm.
In other words, make sure you tease her a little before you hit her hot spot, and when you do, start slowly: work slowly and gently around her clit first, then gradually increase the pace.
Investing a little time in foreplay will make her orgasm even better at the end.
Want to kill her orgasm? Constantly ask: “Are you close?”
If she’s close, trust me, you’ll know – so keep quiet and let her get to that magical moment.
While you might want to encourage her by asking if she’s getting close to her destination yet, this can make her feel rushed.
In short, trying too hard to have an orgasm can kill you. Instead, focus on signs that she’s almost there, such as rapid breathing and moaning, and let her go at her own pace.
Change of speed
When a woman is close to orgasm, she needs the pressure and rhythm to remain constant for a while.
If you suddenly decide to increase the intensity or increase the speed, it can reduce the momentum she has been building to reach her orgasm. And when she says, “Right there! Don’t stop!” then really – DON’T CHANGE ANYTHING and for God’s sake, DON’T STOP! If you decide to be extra creative at this point, she will most likely not reach orgasm.
Don’t make it a show
Of course, she likes to see you get sexy undressed, and she appreciates that you took all our sex tips into consideration. But don’t get too carried away with making a show.
Sometimes men take cues from porn about what sex should be like, how long it should last, how many orgasms a woman should have, etc. You should take your cues from your partner, not from what you saw in some 20-minute video.
Want to kill her orgasm? Keep the TV on
Getting an orgasm can take some focus, so don’t spoil her chances with distractions. This means turning off the TV and making sure you’re in an intimate and private setting, but it can also mean letting her focus on her orgasm without worrying about yours.
I honestly don’t understand how anyone manages to cum in the 69 position. It seems more engaging to divide attention so that everyone can focus on their own pleasure.
If you finish well before her, let her know that the next round is all about her, and don’t put any pressure on both of you to orgasm at the same time.
Lots of sweet compliments
Women can be subject to the phenomenon of “watching from the outside” – basically, it’s like an out-of-body experience where she thinks about what your sex looks like from the side. (It’s something she uses to orgasm faster). And even something as innocent as a compliment can take her out of the present moment.
Many women admit that men are too complimentary. Even a seemingly innocuous comment can make her think about what her ass looks like at that particular moment, and it can go off the rails. But that doesn’t mean you should be completely silent during sex.