A sex party can significantly change your worldview. At least that was the case with Zaharia, the author of an article published on Men’s Health. You will find out what he understood and thought after attending this type of event by reading a story, which he will tell himself later.
“Guys have to be naked – only with butterflies,” a friend told me, stumbling in the car. “We must try to serve all the women there. If she craves wine, it should be poured into a glass. If the chair breaks a leg, we throw on all fours and offer our back as a seat. ”
I first attended a sex party when I was 24 years old. At the time, it was an hour’s drive from my home in Boston. Crossing the threshold of this luxurious house, I felt completely unprepared for what might be waiting for me.
I was hungry for sex. I still crave it now. I like to meet new partners. I like unusual things, I get excited when someone watches me, and I don’t refuse to be a spectator myself. I always try sex toys, join group sex, etc. with the greatest pleasure. Despite all that, at that moment I felt confused – I felt redundant there (apparently, I looked the same way).
Of course, I was warned about what to expect from it. I was best informed by a 31-year-old friend – definitely not a beginner at sex parties. But one way or another I was surprised. Why? To understand this, you just have to experience it on your own skin.
LOOKS LIKE I WAS THE YOUNGEST THERE
The average age of men was about 40 years. By the way, I also had to meet the needs of a 60-year-old woman. I turned to alcohol for one reason only – hoping to calm down and relax a bit. It was only after three undiluted tequilas that I felt freer, so I began to direct my conversations with others. I walked around the hall completely naked and asked the women if they would like to have a drink. When someone said, “Oh, darling, find me later,” I shrugged: words that both excited and frightened me.
After a while, the homeowners invited everyone together in one room and introduced us to some basic rules. “You can have sex anywhere in the house except the kitchen and the children’s room,” the couple explained, leaving the children to their grandparents that evening. “Proximity is only allowed with the explicit consent of the other person,” they said. Another suggestion was made that was not heard at any other sex party or club (later I had to visit dozens of such places!). The hosts suggested telling you in as much detail as possible about your chosen sexual intentions and desires, and finally saying, “If that’s acceptable to you, you’ll find me later.”
Yes, it will be much easier for the invitee to reject the offer without saying anything offensive. “If the interlocutor feels interested, he will definitely find you. And if not, then it was not decided, “explained the party leaders. So – without offending feelings, without uncomfortable moments, and without difficult situations that are difficult to get out of.
THAT NIGHT I DIDN’T FALL IN LOVE THE USUAL WAY
My member was so nervous, demanding so much strength to hold it up. However, I met some women orally. They were almost twice as old as me, but it didn’t matter because what I was experiencing was just fantastic. I saw my partners caress others as they approached ecstasy. It was a real pleasure to watch her.
I obviously can’t even say the name of at least one person I kissed that night. But I swear that this fateful entertainment taught me some things that changed my attitude so far and even changed my thinking.
First, I realized that sex can be playful!
I saw a kneeling man with tightly compressed testicles (it was the job of a dominatrix professional), but the main theme of this scene was still laughter.
Until that night, I had used words like “amazing”, “one-off”, “passionate”, “stormy” or a few similar things to describe my sex life. But I never thought that sex was a fun activity. Instead, I can now say with confidence that I think sex can be not only physical entertainment but also playful. People in love can both smile and laugh. Sex should not be taken seriously.
Now let’s think about what is shown in pornographic films. Sex imitators never laugh: they both work hard. I, too, once wanted all my partners to tell me, “Oh, yes, Zach was colossal. He was so passionate and so tireless. ” It is no more. Sometimes, of course, I still feel like a Terminator, but more and more I prefer sex, which can be described as frivolous, chatty, playful, windy, and (necessarily!) FUN.
The second thing I realized then was that the people who attend sex parties are not special – they are the same as me or you.
I know how banal I am now, but what I am saying is pure truth. Such places are visited by accountants, teachers, doctors, citizens with grandchildren, and countless others who just want to have fun. These people are open-minded, tolerant, perceive sex as a positive phenomenon, and have no prejudice. That’s why many of my friends are exactly the ones I met at sex parties. (No, I did not fall in love with them.) I am attracted to unlimited personalities with whom I am free to discuss cherished values.
There is another thing I realized when attending sex parties. They have changed my attitude towards society and myself. I wondered what the world might be like if people didn’t frown when they heard the word “sex.” After all, these parties, as I said, are attended by ordinary citizens, the same ones we inevitably encounter on the streets. But if so, why not turn to someone you trust and simply ask, “Maybe you want to do this and that? If so, you know where to look for me. ” I don’t want my proposal to sound like some insanely released hippie (although I sometimes think I am), but we could at least try to be fairer, more open, and less critical when it comes to sexual desire.