I can already see men cursing me for this, but maybe don’t rush it just yet. I can tell you from experience that most guys are nice. However, both my experience and the experience of many of my friends show that there are some individuals you should not enter into any kind of relationship with unless you want your life to turn into an open battlefield. Who are the scoundrels who deserve such a status from me and for what? Get to know 5 types of men with whom you should not have sex under any circumstances.
A miser
I can already hear loud shouts from afar, but I advise women to avoid stingy men, and I’m not even talking about skimping on finances. No man owes any woman cars and fur coats, unless they agree otherwise. And yet stinginess in a romantic relationship is not just a lack of gifts. Of course, it’s strange when a date asks you to “drop” a couple of dimes for his coffee because he doesn’t have cash with him, promising to give it back tomorrow, but there is another kind of greed.
Dear man, if you are stingy with your time, attention, compliments, last slice of pizza or oral when you have finished first, then the problem in the relationship is you.
And it all comes down to two reasons: either he doesn’t care about you, or he just doesn’t want to do something nice for a girl. But the truth is that women expect from men the same thing that policemen promise for the good of the country – trust, protection and help. So why waste time dating a man who doesn’t even want to do that?
The rude gentleman
One of my biggest fears when going out to dinner with a guy I don’t know yet is that he will be rude to the waiters. Because in such cases, all you want is to hide under the table out of shame.
There are people who feel superior to others – mostly the service staff. And you need to run as far away as possible from those who do. First, don’t expect anything good from a person who thinks he’s superior to others just because he saved money for a meal at a restaurant or a taxi ride.
Secondly, if a person divides those around him into “respectable” or “not so respectable”, true manners are not available to him like the Moon. Thirdly, if he demonstrates his importance like a rooster puffing out his chest, this signals very serious complexes (I can only guess what they are).
And finally, if a guy gallantly opens the door for you and takes your coat, but is shamelessly rude to others, it’s only a matter of time before his yelling and insults turn your way. Who needs that?
Openly hates his exes
I think we all have relationship that we don’t have good memories of. But if he curses all his exes, that should be a red flag. Yes, maybe a girl broke his heart and then put out a cigarette on it, but even in such cases, it is very unmanly to use epithets that start with the letter “b” and end with “h”. After all, there was a good moments in this relationship too, right?
It’s another thing when he spills the beans about every woman who has ever crossed his path. Because then there is a very high possibility that this person is absolutely unable to see his fault in it. And it’s only a matter of time before you become the bastard who ruined his life…
Mr. Good
Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t about really nice guys who appreciate women, but rather those who pretend to be, believing that if they’re nice to you, you inevitably owe them something. Well, mostly sex.
These guys will be the first to offer to help you move into a new apartment, take you to McDonald’s in the middle of the night for ice cream, and shower you with hundreds of compliments. But if you don’t respond to his desire to have sex, the nice guy will instantly turn into a scary maniac. Depending on the seriousness of the matter, there can be obvious “gesturing” and loud wishes (“no one needs a moron like you”), sometimes even threats. Literally a split personality reminiscent of the horror movie “Split”.
So I’ll just remind you: respecting women doesn’t mean respecting only those who are willing to have sex with you.
Manipulator
This is the most difficult to recognize, but probably the most dangerous type of romantic friends, which, by the way, is common among both women and men.
At the beginning of communication, manipulators usually seem attentive, sympathetic and ready to listen. But soon the desires and weaknesses you recklessly shared with them will be used against you.
For someone, it will be a suggestion to lose five kilograms, appealing to your desire to be beautiful and desirable, for another – attempts to drag you into bed, to try something “interesting” so that your life is not so boring, and someone else will switch to general mode and start explaining, with who you can talk to and who you can’t.
Manipulators, as a rule, will not reveal their true colors immediately. Their behavior begins with small things, as if testing the boundaries, and the rest grows in direct proportion to the tolerance of the person being manipulated for such behavior.
Many books have been written about manipulators, and summarizing the most important points in a few paragraphs is simply mission impossible. But I will tell you what I know for sure, no one should make you feel bad out of love or good intentions. And if in his eyes you are not a fully developed personality who can decide what she wants, but like a marionette who satisfies his whims and who only needs to be guided by strings – f**k them!
I hope that after reading about the types of men you shouldn’t sleep with, you didn’t get the impression that I think all men are bad.
There are many truly wonderful men out there, and when the time comes, I believe one of them will definitely come into your life, and maybe mine too. And until that happens, I want to encourage you to be more careful about who you let into your hearts and pants.
And if you’re single, remember: a quality vibrator is a much more fun investment than a lengthy visit to a psychotherapist dealing with the trauma of toxic relationships.