This probably won’t be a conversation to have in a group of friends (although it depends on who your friends are). It probably started as a small seed that was planted in your head, perhaps by watching a movie of someone having a passionate sex party. An attractive scene where people in masks simply have sex. It feels so liberating, sensual and completely unrestricted.
But maybe your partner mentioned it? It can be shocking at first and can even end up in a major argument. But now you think about it. Maybe you are not interested in it. But maybe just the opposite? Anyway, it doesn’t really matter; the point is that it has all culminated to the point where you ask yourself, should you go to a sex party?
Are you going alone
A sex party can be a fun event for singles and couples alike. At most parties, single women are preferred, but men are mostly sorted (for obvious reasons – rarely will anyone want a party with a bunch of men and, say, two women).
Going alone can be different – the experience can be fantastic or the opposite – even scary. If you feel like a fish in water in a group of strangers, and you are not afraid to share your most hidden fantasies, the experience will most likely be positive. If not, it can be disappointing. If you are in a relationship, everything is much simpler – go to a sex party with your partner!
What will this sex party be like?
It is very important to evaluate your first sex party with a critical eye. If you “blindly” go where the sign “sex” is posted, don’t be surprised if you end up at a BDSM party with whips and fisting! Are you planning to go to a regular sex party, fetish party, swinger party? If you go with your partner, you should try a swinger party.
Personally, I would choose a more exclusive party for my first time, because there is usually a selection of people who are allowed to attend. Going to a private house where chairs are arranged in a circle in the middle of the room and a bunch of naked men are sitting in them… Probably not for me.
These days, parties tend to be very sophisticated, with some organizers taking over entire hotels and ships to host a big, week-long sex extravaganza! People are excited about it! These are expensive and intensive events, so I would definitely start with a smaller party.
Maybe go to a sex club?
Sometimes the easiest solution might be to go to a sex or swing club. It could be less stressful – it’s like going to a regular club, except you can have sex in the back of the club (instead of the toilet).
Is it necessary to have sex?
Of course NOT! I know you probably will do it, but it’s not necessary. Not everyone who comes to these parties is experienced in this field. Some, like you, are newbies. Good parties tend to have some pretty strict rules – you always need to get the other person’s permission before doing anything – so it’s important that you go to a party with good organizers who know what to do so that everyone has fun and no one feels offended.
Coming back to sex, some places don’t allow you to just stand there and watch others fuck. Some places allow voyeurism. But whatever party you’re at, don’t feel pressured to have sex unless you really want to. It is also perfectly acceptable to come with your partner and have sex only with them. Basically what I’m trying to say is that the rules are what you make them. If you want sex, do it. No one will judge. But if you feel you don’t want to, don’t worry about it. Drink and relax!
Make some rules!
If you go with your partner, it’s better to discuss the rules beforehand! This is non-negotiable! It is very important that you both know what is going on. Will you fully commit to other partners, or only partially (for example, girls play with each other, but she can’t touch your partner)? Will the two of you do it in separate rooms, or maybe all in one? Whatever it is, talk it out beforehand to avoid silly misunderstandings.
A sex party will change your life!
There is nothing more satisfying than walking into a room full of sexually open women who are completely comfortable with their bodies and aren’t ashamed to show it off. Everyone is naked and vulnerable and it’s wonderful! And if you find a sexy person/couple that matches you, your experience will be wonderful!
It’s important to remember that you don’t have to do what you don’t want to do – this is a place where you can let loose and have fun. So the answer is yes. Yes, you should go to a sex party!