Statistics and various surveys show that most women are masturbating and most do it on a regular basis. So, lets look at some masturbation tips for more enjoyment, or how to turn yourself on.
1. Use a lubricant – the wetter the better.
2. Involve your breasts in the process. Nipple orgasm has been proven, give it a try!
3. Invest money in sex toys – buy different and try tehm.
4. Arrange the room so that it creates better mood. Buy flowers, candles, change bedding and wear something sexy.
7. Focus on your clit, it has a lot of nerves and this is the easiest tool to get to the big O. (Read also: Clit Stimulators For Oral Sex Lovers).
8. But don’t forget about your G-spot, which also has a lot of nerve endings that also like to be a little tickled.
9. Watch a porn movie. Of course, nothing is real there, but it will create a mood in a split-second.
10. If porn movies are not for you, read some spicy literature and create porn in your imagination. (You will find spicy sex stories here).
11. Exercise your buttocks every day with the special Kegel exercises, the instructions of which can be found here.
12. The most important thing, both when having sex with a man and for masturbation, is to use your imagination. During the process, think of something that excites you, but dirty dishes or work. Sexy thoughts have been shown to lead to orgasm much faster.
13. Do not stop at the first orgasm. We women have the advantage of being able to reach many orgasms.
14. Change position as you would with a partner.
15. Try to do it in the bath. Warm water always helps you feel more relaxed.
Long story short – almost everyone masturbates, but very few people talk about it. Here, 24 young women share stories of how they masturbate. Very openly about why they do it and how.
“It may sound strange, but sometimes I replace a man with a pillow. I lie in a missionary position, with one hand touching myself, but with the other I hug the pillow as if to put my nails in his back. It’s like real sex.”
“My vibrator is incredibly powerful. To reduce its vibration, I usually undress, cover with a blanket and place this toy in my crotch above the blanket. Then everything is exactly as it should be.”
“I take some pieces of ice, wrap them in a cloth towel and gently move them against my clit. The combination of soft towel and cold ice hits the right spot.”
“I am living with four girls, and the hardest part is not to pay attention to the surrounding noise – people talking, the rustle of pots and pans in the kitchen. So I put in my earplugs or listen to music on the headphones. It allows me to relax and get in mood.”
“I imagine girls body, although I like guys in general. It really gets me going! ”
“To reach orgasm, I need simultaneous stimulation of my clitoris and vagina, so I use two toys – a vibrator for the clitoris and a smaller thing inside. I have to handle it with both hands, but it’s worth it.”
“While satisfying myself, I am harsh on my nipples at the same time. The pleasure passes from the chest directly to the clitoris.”
“Whenever I’m in the jacuzzi, I lean against the water jet and let the charming warm water do its thing.”
“To get in mood, I read erotic literature online. I like the broad variety and the fact that I can always find something exciting.”
“All it takes is warm water! I put the adjustable shower between my legs and – yeah! I change the modes from slow to fast and move it around my clit. It remindes me of tongue movements. Wonderful! ”
“I prefer quick self-satisfaction in the middle of the day. The light of day gives me the feeling that I may get caught. The higher the stakes, the more enjoyment.”
“It used to take me a long time to reach the climax, but then I tried lubricant, and that’s the key.”
“Three words: The Thomas Crown Affair! There’s something about that seductive 90’s investigator that excites me.”
“First I squeeze my legs very tightly and then I gently caress my clitoris through my panties for a few minutes. When I get hot, I open my legs and gradually let myself go deeper. The end result is worth it. ”
“I dirty talk to myself. Murmuring words like ‘stronger’ and ‘faster’ helps me achieve a stunning O. ”
“Before I bought a vibrator, I used a battery-based facial cleanser. I simply removed the cap, leaving a slippery and smooth surface, and rubbed it along my clitoris. Now I have a real vibrator, but I still use the usual method from time to time.”
“My fantasy is my boyfriend, so when I touch myself, I am thinking of him inside of me. To make it easier to imagine him next to me, I always put on one of “our” songs.”
“Drumming with my fingertips over my clitoris works better for me than rubbing.”
“I put my favorite glass toy in the fridge for an hour and then take it in the hot shower. You can’t get such a fantastic temperature contrast with a real penis! ”
“Immediately after waxing, when I am still very sensitive, I prepare a hot bath, lay in it and touch myself very gently. It helps to achieve that real – soothingly perfect – orgasm. ”
“I roll up a towel or a small blanket, lie on my stomach over it and just work until I’m done. I thought I’m the only one doing it, but my best friend revealed to me that she was doing the same thing. Believe me – it works.”
“I found out that if I moan as if I were with a man, I would get done a lot faster than if I was completely silent.”
“I turne off all electrical appliances – lights, televisions, phone. Disconnecting from the world makes it much easier for me to connect with myself.”
“I do not take off my underwear, but what I leave on is very important. The tighter and softer the lingerie, the better. To keep the underwear warm, I sometimes put it in the dryer for a while. ”
Looking back at the pandemic, when social distancing and calls to stay at home prevented many from having sex as well, you may have started masturbating more than ever. Although masturbation has obvious advantages – it is not possible to catch an STD or accidentally fertilize your partner, the question may arise whether you have a habit of masturbating “too much”.
After all, excessive masturbation is not ok. When we think of guys who masturbate every day, we usually imagine adolescent boys hiding in their locked rooms and trying to set a record for the day. Rarely would anyone imagine a successful, adult man in a loving relationship?
However, there is no such thing as excessive masturbation. “Some people masturbate more than others,” says the International Society of Sexual Medicine. There is no such thing as a “normal” frequency. Some do it every day, some every week, but others rarely. Some don’t do it at all. ” Although 27% of men between the ages of 30 and 39 masturbate once a week or even less, the figure varies dramatically with age, according to a 2009 survey of 2,500 American men.
“No matter how often you masturbate, it’s not a problem as long as it doesn’t negatively affect your life,” says Dan Drake, a certified sexual addiction therapist, and clinical consultant.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t have problems, especially if it interferes with your daily life.
So when does a harmless masturbation habit become a problem? Let’s look at the physical and psychological signs that we should slow down a bit.
1) YOU ARE HURTING YOURSELF
Some guys masturbate so often that they actually hurt themselves, says Tobias Koehler, a urologist at the University of Southern Illinois. These injuries may be easy (for example, abrading the skin) or more serious problems such as Peyronie’s disease, or scar tissue build-up end of the penis, which can cause too tight grip use during masturbation.
This may seem obvious, but if you masturbate so often that it causes physical pain, you need to reduce the frequency of this exercise.
2) IT AFFECTS YOUR WORK
If you can’t finish the task at work because you can’t stop thinking about masturbating, then that’s the problem. If you constantly watch porn at work or miss meetings because you are masturbating in the toilet, this is most likely a problem.
3) YOUR FRIENDSHIP IS SUFFERING
Do you cancel meeting friends because you want to stay home and masturbate? Are they getting annoyed by your constant refusals? Then your masturbation habits could be to blame.
Let’s be straight: if you do it before bed, everything is fine. You should be concerned if this has a clear negative effect on the relationship.
4) YOUR SEX LIFE IS SUFFERING
Some guys who masturbate a lot use one type of stimulus, such as certain categories of pornography along with special hand movements. When it comes time to really have sex, they discover that they can’t get the same kind of arousal, explains Dr. Koehler.
Basically, if you watch the same pornography or use the same hand movements every time you masturbate, it teaches your brain and body to have an orgasm just this way. If you have sex with a real partner, it can cause serious problems both in terms of getting and maintaining an erection.
5) YOU ALWAYS THINK ABOUT MASTURBATION
You wake up and want to masturbate. For lunch, your mind dreams of your favorite porn scene. The way home is almost unbearable because you just want to sit on the couch with a beer and PornHub.
If any of this sounds familiar, and you’re often obsessed with when and how you’ll be able to do it, then it’s clearly a problem, the sexual addiction therapist explains.
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WHAT IF YOU REALIZE YOU HAVE MASTURBATION PROBLEMS?
“There is nothing unhealthy or problematic about masturbating,” explains Dr. Drake. “But if it becomes harmful to your life, then you have to treat it just like any other harmful habit.” One of two things should be done: a) stop masturbating completely, at least for a while; or (b) set certain limits, such as masturbating only in the evening before falling asleep.
Given that you would most likely be willing to agree to the second option, set your own specific rules and test your ability to follow them. If you can’t, and you get into bad habits again, consider visiting a therapist, because there may be a deeper psychological problem.
Conclusions? It is good to give in to a little self-love from time to time. Only when masturbation interferes with your physical and mental health, work and relationships does it become a problem. But if it does not interfere negatively, then be complacent to your heart’s content!
The best part of masturbating is that you can have sex with anyone, in any style, and no one will ever know it. This is everyone’s little secret. Of course, this does not apply to the 1,500 people who revealed their deepest and darkest fantasies to many sex researchers. In a 2015 study for a sexual medicine magazine, men rated how often they fantasized about certain sexual scenarios.
Let’s take a look at the data collected by scientists:
10% of men have fantasized about cross-dressing or changing clothes in women’s clothes.
64% of men have fantasized about being met by an acquaintance.
48% of men have imagined touching a complete stranger in a public place, such as a bus.
10% of men have dreamed that their partner is urinating on them.
9% of men have fantasized about urinating on their partner.
16% of men have thought about having sex with two men, although only 12 percent of respondents identified themselves as gay or bisexual.
29% of men fantasize about ejaculating on them.
30% of men imagine being forced to have sex.
52% fantasize about a relationship with a woman with very small breasts.
28% of men have fantasized about having sex with a non-sexual object.
