If you feel like your intimate life has become routine, it can be fixed… just by changing the time you have sex. Even if you both have free time at the moment, sometimes it’s worth switching up your ‘sex schedule’. What is the worst time to have sex? It turns out that this is also the most popular option – right before going to bed.
This is due to several reasons. A popular study found that men and women have completely different arousal times. Women have the highest libido in the morning, while men have it in the evening.
That’s good news for same-sex couples, of course, but it can be trouble for heterosexuals.
The study also found out that couples usually choose a time from 21:00 to midnight. In any case, the best time to have sex is quite flexible, the researchers note.
While we won’t deny that it’s convenient to indulge in intimate pleasures once we’ve ready to go to sleep, there are downsides to this. As “Sleep Doctor” Michael Breus, the author of The Power of When, explains, sex before bedtime isn’t bad; it’s just that most people are exhausted. “When your body is demanding shut-eye, there’s a good chance you won’t have enough energy for awesome sex,” he says.
As sex therapist and relationship expert Lisa Thomas has observed, for some people sex can be invigorating, so sleep will be the last thing they will think about. Maybe this is the reason why your significant other doesn’t want to have sex right before bed – it’s just that it’s hard to fall asleep afterwards. “However, for most people, sex has the exact opposite effect – it reduces tension and relaxes, so it helps to fall asleep faster,” explains the specialist.
The best time to have sex is when you both can enjoy the moment
Both specialists agree that going to bed together after sex – actually going to sleep instead of looking at phones – determines the better quality of sex. When we sleep, hormones do their job, we rest, so we wake up more creative and energetic and ready to enjoy sex again. Of course, morning sex may not be suitable for couples with early or uneven work schedules, so Thomas recommends to look at the time creatively – a lunch break or a moment when you would normally watch Netflix can be the best time to replace with intimacy.
According to experts, couples who use sex to relax and bond, as well as reduce stress and tension, are the ones who experience the most enjoyable intimate moments.