There are people for whom an open relationship seems to be the most appropriate solution for forming a relationship with another person. It often seems that if both agree on such a model of relationship, no problems should arise, but it is naive to think so. Numerous misunderstandings and disagreements can arise over time, so consider this move before engaging in an open relationship, because the fact that your partner might “bring home” an unpleasant illness is not the only thing to worry about.
Here are five things to consider before starting an open relationship:
Healthy communication – essential in all relationship models
Your ability to communicate with your partner is essential in any relationship. It is clear that an polyamory can lead to a lot of misunderstanding, confusion and emotional experience. If you or your partner are unable to express your emotions in a constructive and calm style, but tend to argue loudly, and show emotions very vividly, an open relationship may not be right for you. If you already have communication problems, a decision in favor of an open union will certainly not be the answer. Think about exactly why you want an open relationship and whether you need it.
There must be certain rules
Do you have things that you would never want to allow in a relationship, such as having sex without emotions is acceptable, but you do not want your partner to have a romantic and emotional connection with someone else. Maybe you can accept small flings when you don’t meet each other for a long time. You should express all the rules and wishes before starting an open relationship. Otherwise, conflicts and misunderstandings are guaranteed.
Remember, in reality it will be harder
Even if you think that your partner’s sexual relationship with others will not affect you much, in reality it can be much, much harder to accept this situation. Even if you have explained everything in great detail, you must accept that you will be disturbed by something that seemed insignificant before. You may have thought that you want to know about all your partner’s connections, but later find yourself feeling better if you didn’t talk about them. If you feel that something isn’t working – talk to your partner.
You will need confidence
If you know that your partner has other connections, even if they are only physical, you may be wondering if these other people are not more important to him/her and if any of them are in any way better than you. Be prepared to be overwhelmed by thoughts about what your partner is looking for in other people and why he or she finds them attractive. You can’t do this without giant confidence.
Keep in mind that an open relationship is a temporary relationship model
Almost nothing in our lives is static, but keep in mind that this pattern of relationships may not be long-lasting. Don’t be surprised that one day your partner says – it is enough for him/her. Also, feel free to talk about it if any of the original rules don’t satisfy you no longer.