Sex can provide so many wonderful opportunities to discover what brings you joy, satisfaction, and intimate connection. It can relieve stress and bring you closer, whether you’re just kissing, exploring each other’s bodies, or trying brand new things together.
Oral sex can be a particularly intimate way of pleasuring the other person, both alternately and simultaneously. However, if you don’t feel confident about your oral sex technique or just don’t know how to do it, it can seem a bit intimidating, especially if your partner doesn’t give you any guidance on what he likes. If you want to explore different oral sex techniques, here are five tricks for women on how to give your lover a fantastic oral sex experience.
Find out what he wants
There are people who enjoy oral sex, and there are those who enjoy neither giving nor receiving it. Talking is the best way to find out and understand both of your preferences and see if oral sex is something you both enjoy.
By asking questions, find out what gives him pleasure – what kind of stimulation and sensations he likes. Does he prefer fast or slow movements? Should you focus on the head of his penis or other areas? By learning about your partner’s body and what they prefer, it will be much easier to give him a nice blowjob that will really turn him on and turn you on. If you are new to blowjobs, take a look here.
The importance of foreplay
Foreplay can provide a more intimate and emotional connection between you and warm you up before even more pleasure. Foreplay sets the mood and usually begins with intimate activities such as kissing, caressing, and touching that build arousal and may progress to oral or other forms of sex.
Foreplay stimulates not only the body, but also the mind. Sexual pleasure often begins in the mind, in our desires, in our fantasies and through connection – and begins to manifest itself through the actions that both partners take to show that they want to please each other. This is a time when you can explore your inner erotic desires and express them verbally or through your actions.
Maintain your hygiene and follow it
Whether you are engaging in oral sex or any kind of intimate activity, hygiene is one of the most important aspects to follow when you are in an intimate relationship with your partner. Prioritize and maintain good hygiene to increase your arousal and feel good from head to toe. You might even want to take a shower or bath together as part of the foreplay! Avoid overly scented soaps, as they can affect your pH balance and cause bacterial vaginosis or yeast infections.
Tease him and get ready for oral sex as well
Teasing your partner will cheer both you and him up. You can tease him by slowly stroking his cock, even if his clothes are still on. You can also touch, kiss and lick the entire surrounding area before reaching the most sensitive point, or tease the tip of your partner’s penis with your tongue before continuing your journey.
Oral sex can be very pleasant not only to receive, but also to give! If you’re going to perform using your mouth, setting the mood starts with you. Find out what kind of movements turn him on and enjoy hearing or feeling your partner’s reactions, moans and body movements as you bring him pleasure. Do you want oral sex to give you pleasure too? Position yourself so that he can please you at the same time – or use your hands or a sex toy!
Experiment with new methods
In addition to movements with your tongue or using your hands, you can also involve something else – give his penis barely noticeable touches with your nails, use your saliva for better lubrication or perform a “deep throat”. There are so many options to explore! People love to search for new fantasies and get inspired by watching others online, and this can be a place to learn new techniques and explore what excites you both. Watch something together, then try to act it out! Prioritizing your pleasure and incorporating new ideas and techniques will make your sex life exciting.