There is a classic massage that most people find relaxing, and then there is an erotic massage that can change lives. Erotic type massage is similar to the usual, except for the parts of the body on which it is aimed and that its purpose is to reduce tension and stress by increasing or achieving sexual arousal.
Many people would love to receive an erotic massage from their partner, provided it is done well. A poorly performed erotic massage can hurt – literally and figuratively. A partner once gave me a massage on the side of my abdomen, one of the few places where I have no muscles or tendons. However, when he started massaging the parts of my body that could relieve tension and increase arousal, he did not apply any pressure. There was a feeling that he was writing on my back, like on the keyboard.
You’re not that guy.
If you are doing an erotic massage, you should not do it “in half”. Erotic massage has two essential components, and you have to be good at both. The first is the actual part of the massage. This means no “writing on the back” and no “squeezing belly fat”. The second part – it must be done sensually.
Here are six steps you can take to become a master at both points.
1) Creating a mood
This should go without saying, but in any case, I will make it clear: You have to make your partner undress and lie face down on a firm bed. Install intimate lighting. Here you can use some dim lighting or some candles. Play relaxing music – it doesn’t have to be typical spa music or the sound of the rainforest, but it should be something the other finds soothing.
2) Use erotic oils and lotions
In this case, of course, you can use an ordinary body lotion. But ideally, we recommend buying massage oils or ones specifically designed to promote sexual pleasure. Or, if you prefer, try CBD massage oils.
3) Start (and continue) slow movements
For at least the first 20 minutes of an erotic massage, it should look just like any classic massage. You should definitely not go straight to the genitals. Initially, massage is a way to rest and relax, so until you start massaging/playing with your partner’s genitals, the other must be in a state of complete relaxation.
Uses the base of the wrist to make continuous flowing movements along the entire length of a particular muscle. Before moving on to the next one, make sure you devote enough time to the previous one (at least two minutes in each area). If you feel the tension in a place before moving to another part of the body, toss that place in it more thoroughly. (Tip: ask your partner if he/she has any particular pain in a particular area and pay more attention there).
4) After massaging each muscle, start focusing on the private parts
Now that your partner’s body has been massaged, it’s time to move on to the TO site massage. But it is important to have a full body massage beforehand. The back, neck, arms, wrists, fingers, feet, legs, everything must be massaged. Then (and only then!) You can resort to more fun places. And you have to start with “teasing” the intimate parts of the body. Approach to touch them without actually touching them. For example, instead of touching the nipples, massage around the chest. Instead of going straight to the vagina or penis, massage the area where the thigh joins the rest of the body.
5) Start massaging the genitals
After teasing long enough, only then touch the sexy parts. By this time, the partner should be fully aroused, so even a light touch will be enough to make him/her moan in ecstasy. Start with slow circular movements on the partner’s clitoris or start with light arm movements around his penis. After a while, you can do more, whether it’s sex or oral.
6) Allow the partner to finish
If you have done everything right, there is a high probability that your partner will reach orgasm. For God’s sake, don’t stop just before he/she finishes! Do your best to make sure the other one reaches orgasm.