Use these pleasurable, research-based strategies to get a mind-boggling orgasm.
1. Tune your mind to your body
Intrusive thoughts are the first reason why women have difficulty reaching orgasm. Today’s women perform so many tasks that it is difficult to be full at the time during sex. And nothing kills an orgasm faster than the thought of a big meeting at work or a recent argument.
It is therefore logical that women who are better able to eliminate distractions are able to experience orgasm and enjoy sex more than those who do not, according to research by the journal Sexual and Relationship Therapy.
To make it easier to engage the mind, experts recommend focusing on one specific part of the body that feels great, such as the neck or chest when they kiss.
This will immediately shift thoughts back to the ongoing process, thus making it easier to intensify the arousal. This technique can be used every time you catch your thoughts flowing away from the process.
And, of course, practice is central to this process. Attention during sex can also be trained by practicing deliberate masturbation. It can also help you learn and understand what you like better so you can recommend it to your partner later.
2. Proper breathing
This is not a joke: breathing as if you are aroused can help you feel a better orgasm. This is because inhaling and exhaling can affect emotions; just like deep, slow breathing can soothe you when you are tense. Experts recommend experimenting with different types of breathing.
For example: shortly before reaching orgasm, try short, fast breaths for a few minutes. It can increase your heart rate and increase your senses. You can also switch to deeper breath trains, which will help you relax and tune in to the moment.
3. Use your imagination a little (or a lot)
If meeting an orgasm is difficult, one option is to imagine your favorite sex fantasy or think about the hottest sex ever. Anxiety about whether it will succeed at all suppresses desire and suppresses the body’s reaction, which makes it difficult to reach orgasm. The use of imagination has been shown to make a person’s skin more sensitive by helping to orgasm.
The most important thing: get rid of unnecessary stress!
And what if orgasm just doesn’t happen? Don’t worry – sex still provides significant benefits, even if you don’t have an orgasm. Relax, enjoy, and don’t worry too much about it. (This freedom can also help you get orgasm after all!)