It’s not easy to have pleasant oral sex with someone who has a vagina – sometimes it is even scary. Every woman’s body is different, and what suits one, another may not like.
But women all over the world seem to think about how they feel about cunnilingus. So hearing them saying “This just doesn’t make me happy”, or “I can’t get orgasm this way”, I wonder if they’ve tried a little trick known as the Kivin method.
It turns out that there is an effective oral sex method that Reddit users have started discussing in the virtual environment. One user writes: I’ve always enjoyed performing oral sex on my partners, often with “good results” but with my wife my usual techniques almost never bring her completely to orgasm. She gets very close, but I could barely ever get her there. It’s good foreplay, but sometimes I just want to focus on her and give her an orgasm that’s all about her.”
What is the Kivin Method?
“The Kivin method is a great way to give oral sex,” says Night. “I’ve heard good reviews – an orgasm can be reached in three minutes and it’s more intense.”
“The first rule is that the male partner should not be between her legs, but on her side. The index finger and thumb should be placed on both sides of the clitoris to “lift” and hold it in place. The tongue should then be moved from top to bottom to stimulate the wider area around the clitoris.”
“And it is recommended to lick not just the clitoris, but a little above it – the part that supposedly covers it,” she teaches.
The placement of your partner’s body and fingers is very important. It is best to be above, not below the thighs. If the clitoris is exposed with one hand, the index finger of the other hand should be placed in the area between the vagina and anus to feel muscle contractions. As your partner approaches orgasm, you can begin to touch her clitoris with your tongue.
As with any oral sex technique, it is important to maintain a steady pace and pressure.
Does it really guarantee orgasm?
Girls, nothing guarantees an orgasm. Not even the Kivin method. No two vulva owners have the same vulva, hot spots and sex cravings.
BUT Kivin method has a high success rate.
This method gives priority to clitoral stimulation. More than a third of vulva owners consider this to be the undisputed remedy for orgasm, and another third says that it greatly enhances their climax.
Is there anything you can do to help maximize your efforts?
- Give her compliments!
- Tell your partner how well they taste and smell, this can alleviate any lingering worries that prevent her from enjoying it.
Try:
- “I’ve been thinking all day about how you taste.”
- “I could lie here and enjoy you forever.”
- “I like your juice flowing in my mouth.”
Oh, and be an enthusiast! Most vulva owners are also socialized to put their pleasure, needs and desires in the second place, which can make them feel guilty about being the center of attention during sex.