To get to know each other better and to shake up the routine, couples tend to include role-playing in sex. There are many such game scenarios, it all depends on your wishes and fantasies. If you’ve decided to spice up your sex life with role-playing, here are some mistakes you should avoid—unfortunately, most beginners make them.
Uncomfortable role-playing clothing
Sometimes fantasy goes too far. If you feel comfortable in a latex suit, nothing will stop you from enjoying role-playing. However, there are situations when the dominant woman’s outfit restricts the movements too much, or it becomes unbearably hot when putting on the Santa outfit. All of this saps the excitement and turns your passion games into disappointments. To prevent this from happening, choose clothes in which you not only feel confident, but also comfortable.
Also, during sex, you should think about how to bring your partner as much pleasure as possible, not how to get out of that unbearably tight corset as soon as possible.
Acting ability
Another important point in role-playing games is that the role should match your temperament. Otherwise, the game will not cause passion, but the desire to laugh. If you find it difficult to portray the ruthless robber or the fearless savior, choose something more calm – for example, a romantic Casanova mask, a doctor’s outfit or simply become a spectator.
Role-playing games should help build self-confidence and get rid of complexes, not the other way around.
Relaxation
One of the faults of role-playing games is the inability to relax. If you feel tense, the game no longer makes sense – you will transfer your mood to your partner in this way. So if you are new to this, talk to your partner about your fears, don’t be shy. Maybe you don’t need to start dressing up right away, maybe it’s enough to insert the words of a specific topic in the introduction, try it a few times until you’re ready for the whole activity? Also, think carefully about your game scenario and choose the role in which it is easiest for you to adapt.
A less experienced partner can remain more passive in the game scenario – until they learn to relax and feel the unlimited possibilities that this kind of sex practice opens up.
Advice
Sometimes it’s easy to confuse advice with reprimand. Role-playing is so delicate that giving advice to the other can end in irritation and arguments.
If you want role-playing to turn into real pleasure and make you want to repeat it again and again, it is better to rely on your partner’s improvisational abilities and not dictate to him/her what would be appropriate in a given situation. You can also carefully discuss the scenario before the game itself. If your partner deviates from the script and starts improvising, respect his/her choice.