Sometimes our dreams are very revealing: intimate relationships, naked bodies, the forbidden fruit. And it seems to us that sex in dreams is inevitably related in some way to real sex and our personal life. However, this is not always the case.
Often, during such dreams, our subconscious speaks to us, and the erotic context either symbolizes psychological problems that are not directly related to our libido, or informs us about desires, confidence limits or upcoming events. So what do erotic symbols and images in our dreams really mean? What dreams are actually related to the intimate side of our existence?
Traditional sex
Dreams in which you see a man and a woman making love usually speak about the quality of your communication with others. If you are one of these characters and sexual intercourse brings you pleasure, you probably have no problems communicating with those around you. However, if you have pain or an unpleasant feeling in your dream, it means that you are worried about your relationship with someone. It is possible that you do not manage to establish contact with them or you are constantly in conflict with this person.
If in a dream you constantly play the role of an observer, then in reality you are jealous of a couple (parents, friends or colleagues), and this negatively affects your communication with these people.
Penis
If a lady dreams of a large man’s penis in a state of erection and does not feel negative emotions at that time, such a dream shows that she is ready to obey and is even looking for a man who will dominate her. It may not be related to sex, but to business relationships or simple communication.
If a man dreams of similar things, he probably does not trust his own strength or is jealous of someone who causes him a lot of grief and creates various unpleasant situations. Again, the dream in this case has no direct relation to sex.
Undressing
If you dream that you are naked or undressed, such a dream warns that in the near future you will have to open up to those around you, and the information received from you will be used against you. If such dreams appear regularly, at the subconscious level, they may indicate that you feel anxiety about some of your weaknesses or revealing your secrets to others. This indicates that the dreamer needs to consider whether these secrets are worth keeping and why your weaknesses scare you.
Group sex
Engaging in group sex in a dream means that the dreamer wants to attract the attention of a specific group of people, become part of it and participate in all the events of this group as an equal. True, if in such a dream you play a passive role and are deliberately hurt, it means that you are afraid of becoming an outcast in a particular community or have already become one.
Harem
If you dream that you have your own harem, it usually indicates a desire to occupy a leadership position. True, sometimes such a dream means that you are looking for variety in your intimate life, but at the same time you do not want to be unfaithful to your current partner.
Sex with a person of the same sex
If a heterosexual person dreams that he/she is in love with a person of their own sex, this usually does not indicate their hidden homosexuality. Most often, such a dream is associated with the dreamer’s ability to trust people, especially friends and colleagues. This is important if you know the person who became your partner in the dream. If you dream of a stranger, it is obvious that there is no person near you whom you can fully trust, which makes you sad or even causes problems in some way.
Gender change
Dreams in which we see ourselves in the body of the opposite sex usually indicate identity problems – sometimes of a sexual nature, but more often it is a personal or professional identity. Similar dreams are motivated by an age crisis or the fact that a person is unable to find their true vocation or place in life. However, if such dreams are regular, they may indicate latent homosexuality or the fact that in real life you really feel very uncomfortable in the body in which nature has “put” you in.
Sexual impotence
A dream in which a person cannot satisfy their sexual partner is usually not associated with impotence or frigidity. Most often, such a dream indicates that, in reality, a person is afraid of not living up to someone’s expectations or not fulfilling their obligations.
Incest
Incest in dreams usually speaks of psychological problems, the causes of which can be traced back to childhood or adolescence. If in such a dream you play a passive role or your relative forces you to do something, it means that you were constantly under pressure, you were not allowed to make your own decisions, you were humiliated as a person. Most likely, you were afraid of the person with whom you had sex in a dream, and it deprived you of something important or became the reason for the emergence of a phobia or neurosis.
If you take an active role in a dream, then in real life you are still trying to prove to one of your relatives that you are worth something.
Masturbation
On the one hand, a dream in which a person satisfies themself speaks of completely normal selfishness and the desire to satisfy one of their desires. On the other hand, such a dream may indicate loneliness, which complicates the dreamer’s life. Therefore, a person is ready to accept anything in order not to feel alone. Also, it’s not so much about a sexual partner as it is about a friend.
Oral sex
If you dream that you are given oral sex, but intercourse does not take place, then you are looking for a relationship (business, friendly or romantic) that is not related to emotional intimacy between the two of you. Maybe you don’t want to get close to anyone right now.
If you are the one who gives oral sex, it means that you want to dominate the relationship or dream of demonstrating your authority over your business or sexual partner.
Sex with a stranger
If you dream that you are making love with a stranger, perhaps in the near future you will become the reason for the disappointment of your loved ones, or you have a secret that is very difficult for you to keep, but its disclosure would cause a lot of trouble. By the way, sometimes dreams of a similar nature indicate that you dream of an ideal intimate relationship partner and are unconsciously looking for them among your acquaintances. A stranger in this context is not someone you actually know, but someone whose potential sexual skills are not yet known to you.
Rape
If a woman regularly dreams that she is being sexually abused (even if in reality nothing like this has ever happened), this most likely indicates an unsatisfactory intimate relationship with her current partner. If such dreams are not scary, then the dreamer probably wants her man to be more domineering, strict and sometimes rude. If a dream about rape causes fear and pain, it is likely that in real life the partner will destroy her, ignore her needs and focus only on satisfying his own needs.
If a man often dreams that he is raped by a woman, it means that in real life some woman has excessive power over him. It can be a despotic mother who rules and suppresses his will from childhood, or an authoritarian boss to whom he is forced to obey against his will.
Sex in a narrow place
Dreams in which you have sex in very narrow spaces (car, storage room, elevator, etc.) can be interpreted in two ways. First of all, it can mean that you have been put in a certain frame and you have not had the opportunity to fully express yourself. For example, you are forced to follow instructions where a more creative approach would have yielded better results, or you are forced to do something you are not ready for.
The second interpretation of such a dream is subconscious shame that occurs during sex. There is a very good chance that you were often told as a child that intimacy is a bad and dirty thing, that sex is only permissible after marriage and with one legal partner.
*** As you can see, not all erotic dreams are directly related to sex. To adequately explain them, you must analyze your entire existence, not just yourrelationship with the opposite sex. It is also necessary to pay sufficient attention to those events that happened during childhood or puberty.