What if tomorrow’s shopping list is more important to you than an hour of sex? It seems absurd, but… it happens sometimes. Let’s look at the reasons why woman doesn’t want sex.
You are not so wet
When the vagina is as dry as the Sahara, sex is not the most pleasant thing to do. Some women still believe that using lubricant is not sexy at all. But this is not true. The lack of moisture can be related to several reasons not related to sex – overwork, hormonal fluctuations in the body, use of certain medications. And too little moisture combined with too much stimulation usually results in pain. Is it really necessary to suffer just because of a strange principle?
Do you masturbate?
Masturbation is one of the best ways to get to know your body so that you can later tell your partner what you want. Masturbation is an even more intimate activity than sex. When you don’t know your body, it’s harder to discover what gives you the most pleasure during sex.
You think about HOW you feel, not WHAT you feel
Excessive critical attitude towards your appearance takes away the best moments of sex and prevents you from relaxing. If you find it difficult to relax, create an environment that is open to the senses, but not to self-observation: dim lighting, closed eyes, etc. Focus on the feelings. You can also blindfold your partner.
You don’t want to try anything new
If the same scenario repeats itself every time, it’s no wonder you’re tired of sex. Imagine how quickly you would get tired of your favorite dessert if you had to eat it every day. Allow yourself to at least try. Surprises are sexy!
You don’t reveal your desires
If you’re too shy to say what you want, sex will never be a never-ending journey. Dare to say or show what you like, what you dream about. If necessary, try it alone before, in front of a mirror – then it will be easier to do it when you are together.
Are you good in bed?
Stop comparing yourself to your girlfriends, ex-partners or even porn actresses. The best scenario for your love games will be the one in which you feel comfortable and which brings you joy. If you don’t know if your partner likes what you’re doing, just ask him: would you like it if we did it faster? slower? softer? deeper?
Think about the benefits of sex
Why have sex if you have to get up early for work tomorrow/ the children may wake up/ today was a bad day/ you want to rest… Before you start another train of thought, think about how intimate activities will benefit you. During intercourse, hormones are released in the body, which allow you to relax and feel better. By the way, it is also an excellent remedy for insomnia. So don’t forget that sex with your loved one is always good!
You have had a negative experience
A sexual experience that left extremely negative impressions can become a serious obstacle to building a successful personal life. In some cases, even professional help is needed. Although often it is enough to simply be loved, loving and understanding. If you have already met someone – don’t be afraid to collect future impressions, this time – only with positive experiences.
You take medicine
Medicine against insomnia, antidepressants, some hormonal preparations can significantly reduce libido. If this happens – be sure to consult a doctor: maybe it is possible to replace the used drugs with others or adjust their dosage?
You want to control everything
Sex is a dance between two people. One must be able to both lead and be led. If you’re desperate to control everything that happens, you won’t be able to relax and enjoy the sensations of the moment. If you learn to obey your partner part of the time, you will discover new, unprecedented feelings.
You don’t trust your partner
The best sex is when you and your partner are completely open to each other, trust each other, and have your communication needs met. If at least one of you doesn’t trust the other, a wall grows between you that can completely stifle your desire for sex.
You are exhausted
If you’ve had a hard day, you’re unlikely to want to have sex. And yet, sex is a very important part of a healthy relationship. Therefore, even if you do not have time for long love games, don’t give up kisses and caresses.
He wants sex all the time
And it doesn’t leave time for you to realize that you want it too. If the sexual appetite of the partners does not coincide, sex becomes another obligation. Talk about it openly, express your thoughts. Ask him to give you time to feel the passion.
You don’t know what an orgasm is
Knowing about the big O only in theory is certainly not the most pleasant feeling. But that shouldn’t stop you, but encourage you to search. First, find out how to make yourself happy. This will help you both choose the right course of action later.
You feel the pressure
If you feel constant pressure that sex has to end with an orgasm, it becomes less fun and more like work. So don’t forget to enjoy the process and remind your partner that your goal is to experience pleasure, not orgasm.