Monogamy is a commonly known term that, unlike polygamy, refers to sexual and emotional attachment to only one partner. For modern people, a monogamous relationship is more binding than a polygamous one – it is a tradition made up of several aspects: the legal system, religion, and so on. But what is a successful monogamous relationship and how to achieve it? What is the role of sex and eroticism in such relationships? What if a couple wants to diversify their experience and one partner is not enough?
How is monogamy different from polygamy and open relationships?
The word “polygamy” translated from the Greek means “multi-marriage” – a close relationship with more than one partner. Meanwhile, monogamy determines the relationship with only one partner. Monogamy is prevalent in developed countries. Polygamy, on the other hand, shouldn’t be confused with the term ‘open relationship‘.
Erotic fantasies and monogamy – are they compatible?
It’s no secret that many of us have a lot of different erotic fantasies in our minds, and that’s perfectly normal. True, there are times when we unconsciously start fantasizing about sex with other partners, so the question naturally arises, is such fantasies not considered a violation of a monogamous relationship?
Fantasizing about having sex with other partners is a fairly popular phenomenon and cannot really be considered a cheating.
When it comes to monogamous relationships, it is worth remembering that erotic fantasies are a very personal thing, and everyone has the right to their own privacy, as long as the other one is not hurt. However, partners need to talk to each other and share their sexual fantasies, which can not only bring them closer, but also inspire passion in the relationship.
Does monogamy ensure a successful relationship?
Everyone wants to know the recipe for a successful relationship, but it’s not that simple. A happy marriage and partnership depends on many aspects.
If the partners feel safe, open to each other, if they try not to “fall” into the routine, are interested in each other’s emotional well-being, if they solve difficulties and are clearly aware that “long and happy relationship” requires both partners, the relationship tends to be long.
On the other hand, a polygamy or open relationship is the choice of partners and will work as long as both of them are into it for 100%. Such couples are not characterized by outbursts of jealousy, misappropriation of a partner, and both partners also feel secure in such a commitment.
However, neither monogamy nor polygamy alone ensures a 100% successful relationship – communication, openness, security, novelty and listening to each other’s needs are important.
What if you want to try a polygamous relationship?
One must first be open to oneself. You should first understand your desires: maybe what you want is something new, an adventure, an experience. Or maybe you are running away from some kind of problem in the relationship or in yourself.
Is cheating in a monogamous relationship the end of it?
We often hear people say that they would never forgive distrust – and it is everyone’s choice. However, in a monogamous relationship, cheating often does not arise “out of nowhere,” so you should always be clear about your relationship. You need to improve it, analyze it, and talk about it with your partner.
Before deciding to take a side step, the couple often don’t see and more often don’t want to see signs that something is wrong. A successful relationship also depends on the sexual life the couple lives.
At other times, it seems that if you are already in a relationship, it will continue “forever and happily,” but resentments, outbursts of anger, lack of interest in each other, and suppressed passion can lead to cheating.
However, if this has already happened, you should not go into the details of what happened, but focus more on the question “why did it happen to us?” If this question is difficult to answer, seek the help of professionals who can help you rediscover each other, get rid of resentment, and build an even stronger relationship.
Mistrust can lead to the end of a relationship or, on the contrary, to the beginning of a new, stronger, closer relationship.
Sex in a monogamous relationship: what can be done to make intimate life even more enjoyable?
We have already mentioned that the main components of a successful relationship are a sense of security and novelty (risk taking, passion). But what can be done so that routine does not steal into the relationship and intimate life delights even couples who have been together for many years?
On the one hand, we all need security in our relationship, but on the other hand, we want secrecy, risk, something unusual and new. In order for passion not to fade, it must be maintained at all times.
Invite your loved one on a date! Longing, anticipation and desire are also important aspects that are constantly needed in a relationship so that passion and eroticism do not disappear. Don’t forget the playfulness as it delights and surprises.
What should I know before starting a polygamous relationship?
First, talk to each other! An open conversation is the key here, because there is no “one-size-fits-all” answer. Openness is a prerequisite for conversation.
If you want a monogamy, a long-term polygamous or open relationship may not work. On the contrary, there will be more and more resentment and jealousy, and this will certainly not lead to a stronger relationship, but rather to a breakup.
However, if a couple chooses to be in an open relationship, it is necessary to discuss the boundaries. Understand what works for both partners and what doesn’t. Do your best to make both of you feel confident in your choices.