We are all looking for pleasure that will diversify our lives. Some find it in food, others travel, and some like to try new things in the bedroom. If you want to diversify your bedroom play, why not try fisting? Of course, for beginners, fisting may sound like an extreme event, but in reality, this sexual activity can provide unique pleasure. You don’t have to start with a whole fist in a woman’s vagina, in fact just two or three fingers can be a great start.
However, before you start “fisting”, it is worth knowing how to prepare for it and what techniques to use, so we will introduce you to everything you need to know.
What is a fisting?
There is no need to search for information on pornography pages to find out what fistings are. In most cases, this process does not seem very attractive, it can even be scary, but in real life it is much more innocent and pleasant.
Fisting is a sexual activity in which the whole arm enters the vagina. And although fisting is usually associated with vaginal pleasure, it is often performed anal, although it requires even more careful preparation and even more lubricant.
Where is the fun?
Properly done, it provides great enjoyment. First of all, there is a unique feeling of fullness. When the whole arm is inside the vagina or anus, many more erogenous points are stimulated. Second, many people enjoy the very psychological experience of “stretching.” Third, fisting can be incredibly intimate for both partners: seeing the whole fist inside the partner and feeling the warmth and strength of the body from the inside can be pleasing to both partners.
Fisting is a workout
Unfortunately, many believe that after the vagina is stretched, it does not return to normal and remains stretched. The good news is that this is complete nonsense: vaginal tissue is naturally designed to stretch and then return to its original state, as is the case with childbirth. So, if you want to try fisting, the most important thing is to properly prepare and use a sufficient amount of lubricant, and you do not have to worry about vaginal “stretching”.
It is also not true that using a large vibrator or inserting your palm into the vagina will stretch it. Every woman knows that there are Kegel exercises and other techniques that allow you to train your intimate muscles effectively and regular contractions restore vaginal tone.
Any workout for this part of the body is valuable. Because, firstly, it increases blood flow to the genitals, and secondly, it allows you to maximize the limits of sensitivity. The most important thing is not to cause injuries during fisting – to do it safely and wisely.
Others fear certain social standards. Remember, you should enjoy what makes you happy, not listen to what others are doing or not doing and what they think about it.
How to prepare for fisting?
The most important thing is security. As your vagina experiences a serious stimulating fullness during it, we recommend that you use A LOT of lubricant. The optimal choice is a water-based lubricant. You will have to take a lot of it because water-based lubricant evaporates quickly. But it also leaves no stains on the bed linen. Oily lubricants will also work, but they can leave stains both on bedding and underwear.
Another important aspect is hygiene. To prevent injuries or bacteria from entering a woman’s organs, make sure your partner’s hands are clean and his/her nails are short. It is also possible to wear latex gloves. They act as a barrier and can make entry more easy.
Foreplay
Getting your hand into the vagina is not an easy task. The whole key is sexual mood and arousal. The more aroused and relaxed your partner will be, the more pleasant senses will take over your body and the easier it will be to penetrate. So, start slowly, kiss, caress, massage and stimulate various erogenous zones.
How to perform a fisting correctly?
It usually starts with two fingers inserted into the vagina. It is important that the partner feels comfortable and completely relaxed. When the time comes, you can insert your third finger, but it is very important not to rush.
After inserting the three fingers, they should be placed in the ‘beak shape’. During this time, the clitoris can be stimulated with a thumb.
For most couples, three fingers are enough, but if you feel good, allow your partner to insert a fourth finger, just remember to use more lubricant. He/she can then slowly, gradually move deeper, inserting his/her fist and eventually wrist.
The hottest feeling is when a whole fist is inserted into the vagina. However, it will take longer to master. Regular Kegel exercises, alternating with fisting, trains the vaginal muscles, making them more sensitive and flexible.
When your partner’s hand is inside you, he or she can use a variety of stimulation techniques, such as stretching their fingers to stimulate the G-spot or rotating hand. But if your goal is orgasm, you usually need to pay attention to the clitoris as well. Clitoral stimulation will be a particularly strong stimulus to achieve orgasm, along with fisting, of course. You can use sex toys, other hand or even a tongue.
Use of sex toys
Fisting is not always done by hand. Special sex toys are also available. Extra large phallus simulators are usually used for this purpose. For beginners, they often seem “enormous”, but after training, anything is possible.
There are also inflatable toys specifically designed for this purpose: they are first inserted into the vagina and then inflated to the required size. Such toys do not grow in length, but expand in width, so the feelings are really special. The main thing – do not rush. The process should be a pleasure, not a pain. And don’t forget about the lubricant!