If you’re interested in anal sex, you’re not the only one. According to a survey published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, one in three women between the ages of 19 and 44 have tried anal sex. And this is not at all surprising, because there are many nerve endings in the anus that can be stimulated. For some people, anal sex is even more pleasurable than other types of sex. Here are 8 tips to prepare for anal sex, especially if it’s your first time.
What exactly are you interested in?
Anal sex usually means penetrating sex, i.e. penetration of the penis into the anus. But the choice of anal pleasures is really very wide. If you know in advance what exactly interests you, it will be easier to prepare accordingly. There are several types of anal sex that you should known:
• Using the penis: This is what many people think of when it comes to anal sex.
• Using a sex toy: The range of anal sex toys is very large. There are anal vibrators that can be used much like penises, but your options don’t end there. There are also anal plugs that are smaller and designed to be inserted and left in. When using anal beads, the pleasure is experienced both when inserting and removing them. Prostate toys are uniquely shaped devices designed to massage the prostate, much like the anal equivalent of a G-spot vibrator.
• Using fingers: This is a great exploration of anal play, especially for beginners. If you are going to explore anal sex with a penis or toy, you may need to start with your fingers, “working in” the area. However, it is always necessary to make sure of the hygiene of hands and nails: hands should be clean and smooth, nails – without sharp edges and relatively short.
• Oral stimulation: This is oral sex in the anus, known as anilingus.
Discuss everything with your partner
You MUST talk about it before having anal sex. Consent is the most important thing in all erotic games. You should never surprise your partner by trying a new sexual act.
Discuss and determine your comfort level together. Take it step-by-step. To respect both parties and get maximum pleasure, make sure that nothing is forced on you or your partner. If you know what to expect and feel prepared, you will feel more comfortable and satisfied. This is the only way to have an anal orgasm.
Taking care of hygiene
Many people worry about the possible uncleanliness associated with anal sex. Before having anal sex, it is preferable to take a bath, but it is worth remembering that anal sex is likely to involve some unpleasant element. The more accepting you are of the idea, the less shocked you will feel if it happens. Talking about these fears with your partner (you can laugh about them together) will help dispel the shame that others experience when thinking about dirtiness and anal sex.
An enema is not necessary, but if you decide to do it, do the procedure 1-2 hours before. While it’s generally safe, it’s best to do it in moderation. Doing it too often can cause electrolyte imbalances, bloating or even diarrhea.
We recommend keeping a towel handy. Sex tends to be messy, too, and anal play can get especially messy. If you have a towel at hand, it will be faster and easier.
Relax your mind and body
The last thing you want to experience during anal sex is tension. If you are trying anal sex for the first time, take some time to relax – take a hot bath, ask your partner to perform a sensual massage.
To prepare for anal sex, you can also focus on relaxing the anal sphincter muscles. Tighten and release the gluteal muscles similar to Kegel exercises.
Take your time – start slowly
If anal sex is new to you, start with small steps to ease the process. For example, you can use a butt plug to reduce the chance of tear as you transition to the penis. If the penetration is too aggressive, you risk tearing the muscles of the anal sphincter.
Fingers and anal balls are also reliable ways to initiate anal play. You can also try an anal training kit. Start with the smallest toy and only move up to the next size after you can put it in and take it out effortlessly.
Warm sex toys and lubricant
The warming lubricant increases the pleasure and provides even more comfort. Heat promotes blood flow and stimulates nerve endings in the rectum and anus.
Also consider trying a heated sex toy that heats right up to your body temperature. Much like a lubricant, it will help relax your muscles and get your blood flowing in preparation for what’s to come.
Use condoms
Condoms will protect you and your partner during anal sex. You can use both male and female condoms, which are inserted into the anus before intercourse. Some people feel safer using extra thick condoms for anal sex.
Although pregnancy is not possible, the risk of sexually transmitted infections increases. Small skin lesions in and around the anus increase the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections and bacteria, including:
• chlamydia;
• gonorrhea;
• HIV;
• human papilloma virus (HPV);
• A, B and C hepatitis;
• parasites such as giardia;
• intestinal amoebae.
Condoms should also be placed on all the sex toys you use. Don’t forget to change condoms between partners or stimulation methods.
Don’t skimp on lubricant
The anus, unlike the vagina, does not get wet during preparation. Lubricant is not only safe and pleasant, but also a must for anal play. This facilitates penetration and reduces the risk of tears, which in turn reduces the risk of infection.
When choosing a product for anal sex, use silicone lubricant with a thicker consistency. However, water-based lubricants or a mixture of both are also suitable. Both of these products are safe to use with condoms. Although oil-based lubricants are great for anal sex, they are not suitable for use with condoms.