First sex with a new partner is always a leap into the unknown. The chances that your new partner immediately will know how to make you orgasm are extremely slim. That’s why our new partners often lose to our former lovers who have learned to please us during our past relationship. Should the new partner need to know that your ex was better in bed?
“My ex was so much better in bed,” – no man would want to hear such a thing after the first sex with a girl. It seems obvious that it is rude to compare your partners so openly. But it also happens in life, which was also confirmed by our 19-year-old hero of the story.
The young man anonymously shared an incident from his life that turned out to be far from pleasant. The guy dated his lover for about a month, but after the first sex, they broke up. The thing is that after the sex, the girl remembered her ex-boyfriend and compared their skills – and needless to say, not in favor of our hero.
Of course, the young man was embarrassed by such a remark, especially because at first the girl assured him that this sex was one of the best in her life because she had three orgasms. But then the girl stressed that he was not standing close to her ex. Despite this tactless remark, the guy tried to excuse himself and promised to work even harder in the future. He explained to her that it was strange to expect something unbelievable from the first time in bed – after all, they still didn’t know each other’s tastes. However, the girl just smiled and said, “Well, of course.”
“Overall, I think she likes the sex with me, but she doesn’t believe I’ll ever be as good as her ex,” the author said.
Be that as it may, the girl’s remark put an end to their future relationship – the author decided to end this relationship. He turned to internet users for advice to make sure he wasn’t the only one who agreed – it was unacceptable to compare him to her ex.
The users sympathized with the young man and came to the unanimous conclusion that she should’nt do that under any circumstances. “Even if it’s true, never say it to each other’s face”; “She may still be attached to her ex if she remembers him at such a completely inopportune moment,” they commented.
Most likely, the girl had only recently gotten out of a long relationship, and so the memories of her former lover prevented her from building new ones. This accidentally discarded phrase, with which she may not even want to offend her partner, deprived her of her potential new relationship.
Of course, the previous partner had an advantage: he was more experienced with her. At the same time, first intimacy with a new partner also has its advantages – such as passion and new impressions. In addition, the couple should have talked about what they like or dislike in bed. Maybe it would take away some of the spontaneity, but the partners would know in advance how to please each other better and faster.