How to gain not only physical pleasure but also emotional fulfilment while making love? How to turn moments together into a sensual adventure that strengthens the connection? To make it easier for you to find answers to these questions, we offer professional advice. That will help for improving a couple’s sexual relationship, provided by 100-year-old sex therapist Shirley Zussman.
Find out what you want and don’t be afraid to get it
“If I could turn back time, I would advise every woman to be more aggressive in taking care of her sexual desires,” Zussman said, urging women to explore their bodies, identify sexual desires, and not be afraid to discuss them with a loved one.
Neatliec mīlēšanos uz vēlāku laiku
The rushing, staggering and innumerable duty-filled daily causes us to put aside our desires and needs, resulting in sexual life and partnerships generally suffering first.
“Despite the busy schedule, free up time to make love. You don’t always need hours of foreplay – often ten minutes of quality sex will greatly improve your well-being and mood,” the therapist recommends.
Ievies savu seksa “svētnīcu”
When you have finally managed to set aside time for a love life that may already be covered in dust. It is time to free the bedroom from clear reminders about the work to be done.
“Today’s women’s bedrooms are actually study rooms. A TV, a computer, a phone set to charge and document folders. All that reduce sensuality and the ability to focus solely on one’s own and one’s partner’s well-being.
Free your bedroom from work – related items as much as possible by putting candles and fresh flowers in their place. That will create a romantic and playful mood, “suggests Zussman.
To surprise your partner, you do not always need a significant arsenal with a variety of sex toys. Instead, you can choose underwear that you don’t usually wear and surprise your partner with a much more spicy image.
Also, don’t be afraid to fantasise and indulge in a little daring, if you want to – the most important thing in this situation is not to do anything playful and artificial.
Seksam nav jābūt ekstrēmam
Glowing love can take place both in the stopped elevator and in the old, right marriage bed. Do not try to have sex for all sorts of times in the most extreme moments, hoping to wake up a little passion. The most important thing is to make love when you really want to and to do it according to your wishes, not to chase after generally accepted standards.
Never forget about foreplay
Touches, caresses and kisses bring pleasure to both women and men. Don’t rush to start the act yourself until you have fully enjoyed each other’s intimacy during the foreplay.
Don’t be afraid of the tiredness of love life
Every healthy woman has a desire for physical intimacy. If you feel that you are unable to get excited and enjoyed by making love, talk about it with your partner, rather than accepting the current situation by blaming yourself.
“Often women live a lifetime and don’t even know what good sex is. If you keep quiet about your desires and don’t get pleasure from making love, you will probably stay that way,” the therapist sums up.