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  • Orgy experience. I met my future wife there

    Orgy experience. I met my future wife there

    An orgy is a slightly unusual but extremely hot way to spend time. Not everyone dares to try, but group sex is not for everyone either. Even after participating in orgies, people are not always familiar with all the possibilities of this “format”. However, people who are not ashamed to reveal their sexuality and enjoy sex to the core always find opportunities to diversify it and escape the routine. Those who are interested in orgies or are already guests of such parties will find stories from the mouths of people who have participated in orgies in this series of articles.

    The orgy where I met my future wife

    For a long time I thought I was addicted to sex. I went to stupid anonymous meetings where I learned nothing about myself. I’m not saying it’s going to be the same for everyone, but for me it’s important to find out concrete solutions, and opening up and talking about it is ineffective and unhelpful. At least for me. After these meetings, I would always freak out and “let off steam” with some girl from the bar, “escort girl” or masturbate alone in front of the computer screen. I didn’t like where my life was going. My friends were married or in a happy relationship. I always set high goals for myself, my career was on a pretty good track, but outside of work, nothing made me happy.

    It’s probably worth mentioning here that I ruined almost every relationship I had because of my weak will and addiction to sex. My first serious girlfriend caught me “making out” with someone else in high school. We broke up. A lot of one-night stands followed, but the real meat grinder began in the final year of university.

    Based on how a woman made love to me, I decided if I could spend my free time with her (not the other way around).

    There was a girl in the last year, we didn’t really know each other, but at one party we “hit it off”. We started texting, making love a lot, watching movies, but everything revolved around sex. I don’t know why, but I thought that I want to live with her. I thought I would never get tired of her blowjobs and her special passion in bed. But I was wrong. It turns out that it was too difficult for her to bear my high demands, to take care of me alone and to be a “slave in bed”.

    We had an argument and after that I went to a bar with my friends. We drank, went to the club to “let off steam”. My friends said they understood me and assured me that I needed to relax. However, I started to feel sick and after leaving the club I called my girlfriend, I wanted to apologize. My heart hurt, but I wasn’t angry. I dialed her number, but no one answered. I called back two more times and someone picked up the phone, but didn’t speak. I heard her, her friends and several male voices. There was a conversation and she apparently thought she hung up without answering. Unfortunately, I heard everything – how she talked about me behind my back. When I look back on it, it probably wasn’t that bad, but… you know… I was drunk, I felt hurt. I wanted revenge.

    I started looking at all the women in the club, thinking that I wanted to fuck someone and thus “pay it back”. I met an impressive brunette. Huge breasts, provocative clothing, plump lips, tattoos. She seemed perfect to me. I waved to her and raised my drink, she responded kindly. We danced on different sides of the dance floor but hardly took our eyes off each other. I approached her, we talked, gave her a drink, unexpectedly kissed her and while continuing to dance, told her what I wanted to do with her.

    She said she had a boyfriend… “This is even better” I thought and my inner self just rubbed its hands with happiness.

    I calmed her down by telling her that no one needed to know and we got a taxi. She was crazy about me and I was crazy about her. We went to her place and started fucking. At that time I was very angry with my girlfriend and adrenaline and testosterone were running high. While we were in doggy style, in a vortex of alcohol and uncontrollable male aggression, I grabbed my phone and sent a photo to my then-girlfriend showing what I was doing. You can probably guess what happened next.

    Later, everything got worse because I got involved in prostitution, wasted almost half of my salary. I visited the same girls every time, becoming a “regular”. At least for me, it was also a nice feeling because they listened, didn’t judge and provided emotional support that was probably always needed more than sex. Months passed before I met a guy on a dating site who was hosting a swingers party.

    Of course I had to pay to ‘participate’, which was free for women, but I really don’t regret it. Lots of other horny people who wanted sex as much as I did – I immediately liked the atmosphere.

    Everything happened quickly and naturally, I expanded my circle of acquaintances, I visited maybe 30 different swinger parties during the year. There was no shortage of sex, but I felt lonely when I got home again. I began to understand that no one should be that lonely, I wanted love, intimacy and sex, not a lot of sex without love. I was in a painful dilemma of whether to fall back into the relationship and threaten to hurt others and myself, or to shut it all down and move on. I chose the second option, but fate had its own plans.

    Already at yet another swingers’ party (I only knew one of the other participants there), I felt somehow unusual. In my city and region, I was quite familiar with the organizers, the local “fauna” and the participants. This time everything was different, because everyone had to introduce themselves, I was red and sweaty. One woman immediately caught my eye. Seeing her harsh face shape, the small dimple in her chin and her incredibly beautiful eyes, I immediately knew that I want her. There was usually no time to get to know people at these parties, and I wasn’t particularly keen on it. You are chatting and already undressing, making love. Oddly, many things were different this time. That woman hopelessly ignored me. I offered drinks, snacks, tried naughty offers – nothing. She ignored me and completely “heartlessly” started flirting with other men in front of me. Another extremely beautiful woman cuddled up to me, but I was sad, my body wasn’t sending the necessary signals to my erogenous zones, so I was “ineffective”.

    I didn’t please any woman that night and it made me feel bad, but my thoughts kept going to the same place, the woman who rejected me.

    It was raining after the party, I offered her a ride. She didn’t really want to, but eventually she and two other friends agreed to ride with me. I didn’t really understand her hostility in general, and usually at parties like this everyone is warm and open and nice, but she was different. Looking only at her, I thought that no woman could be more beautiful, sexier and special than her.

    I chatted with her friends, we had a bit of a laugh and I saw a small smile appear on her face as well. When her last friend got out and she was alone with me, I felt like a schoolboy before my first kiss. The pulse was probably around 200, my back was wet, my hands were shaking. I unconsciously started a conversation about the nearby sports center and we started chatting. I only took her home for a few minutes, but I had never felt so engaged in a conversation in my life. Before letting her out, she asked me why I was sweating so much, laughed and gave me her number to call her because I was a good conversationalist.

    I called her right after I got home. I was pretending to check if she gave me her real number. We started talking, laughed a lot and agreed to go on a date the next day.

    We ate at a delicious restaurant and went for a walk in a nearby park. It was dark and she suddenly grabbed my hand and took me into the bushes. It was amazing sex. And there was everything – connection, passion, maybe even love. We went on the next date, followed by another, then a few more, until six months later we were living together. We changed the rings just a week ago and no old problems are bothering me anymore. I’m happy for my unique life path filled with a lot of pointless sex, because along the way I met my now wife, whom I love very much.

    Orgy experience. It was the best sex of my life

  • Women who have tried polygamy share their experience: life will never be the same again

    Women who have tried polygamy share their experience: life will never be the same again

    Everyone has heard the classic phrase that men are polygamous, but women prefer monogamy because it is supposedly determined by nature. A man’s task is to carry his gene pool en masse and provide as many offspring as possible, even if from different partners. But women are not interested in casual relationships at all – they have to take care of babies. However, recent research examining polygamy refutes this theory.

    Women are traditionally considered monogamous guardians of the hearth, since ancient times they simply had to be faithful to their partner, sit by the window and wait for him, no matter what. But are women really monogamous?

    Female monogamy is not determined by nature. It is simply the woman’s own choice, often made voluntarily, but even more often it is a decision based on social pressure and rules.

    The first counterargument of this myth is very simple – if each woman is limited to one man, then where do polygamous men find their partners? Also, not all cultures have female monogamy as the norm.

    The second counter-argument has a scientific explanation: animal observations show that females do not crave fidelity as much. It turns out that even in species that supposedly form stable couples, female infidelity is quite common. Incidentally, the sentimentally sung loyalty of swans is nothing more than a romantic myth. Almost every second chick of these birds is from another male. Another example is a species of seal. They form harems, in which the males go to great lengths to protect their ladies and keep rivals away from them. But this does not help much – in such “families” a little more than 20% of pups are born from the “official” father.

    Of course, people are neither seals nor swans, but psychologists have noticed: if loved ones start to wonder what a newly born child looks like, then for some reason everyone rushes to convince the father that the baby is his copy.

    In addition, relatives on the mother’s side are twice as likely to talk about similarities with the father than with the mother. And the woman herself, as a rule, unconsciously in most cases tries to convince her husband that the baby is his. Meanwhile, in the eyes of a stranger, all newborns look approximately the same – after all, the characteristic facial features are formed later. According to psychologists, this behavior simply connects us with animals – it is important for mothers to prevent the father’s aggression towards the baby. So the head of the family must be absolutely sure that this is his offspring.

    Yes, there have always been women who followed their desires and passions, ignoring societal pressures and many condemnations. But earlier it was more like a rare exception.

    Now times have changed drastically, the world is changing rapidly. Even in the middle of the last century, the advent of contraception gave every woman freedom from the inevitable consequences of sexual intercourse – pregnancy. Now the woman chooses her own partner. She listens to her feelings.

    However, a very important nuance should be noted. Women choose polygamy usually when they don’t have a permanent partner, for example, when they are young, after a divorce, etc. Such a relationship has its pros and cons. For example, the advantage is that in a free relationship a woman can look at other men, and they can look at other women.

    The plus is that you don’t have to maintain “decent relations” with the man’s loved ones, but the minus is that the woman becomes “dirty” when she appears in public with the first, second, third, fourth…

    Thus, female popligamy in the literal sense of the word usually occurs only at certain periods of a woman’s life and not very often. And here our natural spiritual qualities play a huge role. A woman is characterized by a strong emotional attachment to her sexual partner. And only a small number of women can distinguish bed from emotions, physical satisfaction from moral satisfaction and ‘simply sex’ from ‘sex because they are in love’. You are probably familiar with the situation when women who have argued with their partner refuse to have stormy reconciliation sex, because the resentment has not yet ended and the anger has not yet calmed down.

    Meanwhile, men turn the page and start the evening with a whole new attitude. That’s why men are more likely than women to believe that there is nothing better than sex. And few people are able to completely separate sex and relationships, sex and emotions, sexual satisfaction and emotional satisfaction, so free relationships based on physiological impulses are somewhat rarer for women than for men.

    However, why are more and more women choosing polygamy?

    Lin (45 years old) says that she previously had several sex partners at the same time since the age of 18. At one time she even dated 5 guys. “It used to be easier to get to know each other, but now it seems like there are different apps and it’s hard for people to get to know each other,” says the woman. Lin says that with some men the connection broke off very quickly, with others it turned into affection. When she was 39 years old, she fell in love – completely unexpectedly, unplanned. Since then, Lin has been faithful to her husband.

    But Greta (52 years old) and her husband decided to meet another couple and try to become swingers. However, after the first attempt, she realized that openly having sex with someone else and at the same time seeing her husband making love to someone else “wasn’t the best”. This attempt would have been just an attempt if Greta had not accidentally met a man with whom she was “swinging” two years later. That day they went on a date to have lunch together, and in the evening they were already in the same bed. Since then, Greta has been in a relationship with three men: her official husband, a “swinger” and another man with whom she has had sex for ten years.

    Sandra (32) was at a salsa dance event when she saw her married friend intently talking to a man she didn’t know. “And then they kissed,” recalls Sandra. She knew that her friend’s husband was sitting in front of her and could see everything. Sandra was surprised, but after talking with her friend, she was stunned. Her friend believed that multiple partners were a completely natural thing. That evening, Sandra returned home and told her husband what had happened. “He said it sounds great,” she said. After the two read about polygamy online, the couple realized that many people were in open relationships, so they decided to do the same.

    Shortly after that, Sandra met a slightly younger guy, she is still dating him, and recently she met another young man. Does the husband know about it, history is silent.

  • Foursome: 11 best positions for couple sex

    Foursome: 11 best positions for couple sex

    When it comes to group sex, threesomes usually get all the glory, but why not add a fourth? Yes, we’re talking about foursome, a two-way configuration traditionally reserved for porn, but increasingly common in the bedrooms of ‘ordinary mortals’. The beauty of a foursome is that it leaves a little more room for creativity and opportunities for mutual pleasure than a threesome, but is more intimate than a full-on orgy. With double limbs (and genitals), foursome can be both exciting and terrifying at the same time. Fortunately, there are certain positions specifically designed for the Magic Four.

    We know what you’re thinking. How exactly does the creation of a quad work? There are many different approaches. If you’re in a relationship, you can look for another pair of swingers who are just as eager to experiment. It can also be two single people who want to join. (How to find these people? Very simple – that’s what our dating site is for). And of course, sometimes the foursome is four strangers—like people who meet at a sex party.

    However you build your quartet, experts agree that foursomes require communication and careful thought to ensure a comfortable, safe and positive experience for all involved. We recommend an open discussion in advance about fantasies and boundaries, as well as about what causes concern.

    Maybe one likes receiving oral pleasure but hates giving it? Does one couple feel comfortable touching and kissing other people involved, but don’t want to have sex with someone outside of their relationship? Is anal sex taboo for anyone involved? How do each of you feel about using lube or sex toys? These are the things you’ll want to deal with before you start stripping. Also, implement a afe-word that anyone can use if they need to take a break.

    If your sexual philosophy is “the more the merrier,” explore these positions that will make your next foursome unforgettable.

    1.

    Foursome sex position

    This position is great for everyone to work at the same time—and doesn’t require special acrobatics.

    How to try it: Person 1 lies on their back and Person 2 sits on top of them in a cowgirl position. Person 3 gets on all fours over Person 1 to receive oral pleasure. Meanwhile, the 4th person is standing in front of the 3rd person, who is giving them oral sex.

    2.

    Foursome sex position

    This one involves double penetration, so make sure at least one of your foursome wants it.

    How to try it: Person 1 lies on their back while Person 2 sits on top of them while receiving vaginal sex. Person 3 has anal sex with Person 2. 4th person can sit nearby and masturbate while enjoying the show. At some point, the partners can switch so that a 4th person can get in on the action.

    3.

    Foursome sex position

    This position is ideal because everyone gets pleasure at the same time and can keep working with hands and mouth to make the process more interesting. Plus, doggy style is perfect for deep penetration and G-spot stimulation.

    How to try it: Person 1 lies on the bed with their head hanging over the edge. Person 2 stands at the edge of the bed while Person 1 uses their hands and mouth to pleasure them orally. Person 2 can lean forward to play with Person 1’s nipples. Meanwhile, 3 kneels over 1st at the other end of the bed, giving them oral pleasure. The fourth stands behind the third, entering them doggy style.

    4.

    Foursome sex position

    A position in which four partners give and receive pleasure at the same time is difficult, but not impossible. Why not make the climax a fun game? The first to orgasm has to pay for dinner or clean up after sex!

    How to try it: All four people sit in a tight circle. Each person smears their hands with lubricant and touches, caresses, massages the genitals of the person sitting on the left. Feel free to integrate vibrators and other toys and indulge in passionate kisses with the person to your left and right.

    5.

    What makes this position special is that the 2nd, 3rd and 4th person can kiss and caress each other and they all have access to the 1st person’s genitals.

    How to try it: Person 1 lies on their back. Person 2 then kneels over their face so Person 1 can use their hands or mouth to pleasure them. The 3rd and 4th person sit at the 1st persons feet and “grind” their leg.

    6.

    This position allows for a lot of intimacy and eye contact between partners, as well as the opportunity to create multiple points of contact and stimulation.

    How to try it: Person 1 and 2 lie on their backs, feet against each other, legs spread wide, forming a diamond shape. Person 3 and 4 are in between them, back to back, each working around their partner. Persons 3 and 4 can turn to each other for a passionate kiss at any time.

    7.

    The only downside to the doggy style position is that you miss out on sexy eye contact. This foursome sex position combines both this popular position and the intimacy that can be achieved by looking into your partner’s eyes.

    How to try it: 1st and 2nd person kneel one to the other. They can hold hands, or if that is too difficult, they can rest their hands on the bed. 3rd and 4th person enters them from behind.

    8.

    This position offers many opportunities for stimulation and visual pleasure. Use pillows to adjust participant heights for optimal comfort, and experiment with different penetration angles and depths to find the perfect combination.

    How to try it: Person 1 lies on their back while Person 2 lies in a reverse cowgirl position on top of Person 1 and receives vaginal or anal pleasure. Person 3 is on top of Person 1’s face to receive oral sex. Person 4 can stand in front of Person 3 or Person 2 to receive oral stimulation.

    9.

    This sexy position is very versatile and can be adjusted according to individual preferences.

    How to try it: 1st and 2nd person lie on their sides facing each other, and 3rd and 4th person lie behind their backs in spooning position. While persons 3 and 4 penetrate persons 1 and 2 from behind, persons 1 and 2 may kiss and use their hands to explore each other’s bodies.

    10.

    This is one of the most popular foursome sex positions for a very good reason: it allows each person to give and receive some stimulation at the same time.

    How to try it: Person 1 lies on their back. Person 2 is on Person 1’s face, and Person 3 is sitting on them in an inverted cowgirl position. Person 4 kneels between Person 1’s legs – from there they can play with Person 3 however they like.

    11.

    This position, which is full of penetration, offers an amazing view for almost everyone involved. We recommend changing roles at some point, so that the person in front has the opportunity to be the giver, and the person behind has the opportunity to receive.

    How to try it: All four partners kneel in front of each other to penetrate each other from behind. From here, they can take turns caressing and kissing the person, both in front and behind.

  • Sex Party: How to Organize, Who to Invite, How to Behave?

    Sex Party: How to Organize, Who to Invite, How to Behave?

    Orgies and sex party. How hot must it be to have sex with one partner, if you know that there are four other people here who are getting mad from loneliness and lust?

    If you believe in myths, legends and historical books, orgies, such as the art of love so popular in ancient times, seem to be a thing of the past. And the virus has contributed here with all the bans on mass events. Are we really going to let this all-encompassingly hot, pleasant and beautiful custom sink into oblivion? The question is, of course, rhetorical, so let’s look at four rules that need to be considered when organizing an orgy party so that everyone involved in the process is pleasantly satisfied.

    Sex Party: Invitation List

    With men, things are very simple: send them invitations with the short keyword “Sex.” Women need a tactical attitude. Experts believe that the most important thing for women is a guarantee of complete confidentiality. That is, there must be no video camera in the field of view. In addition, there is no need to give different hints and kill romance with vulgar terms. Say there will be erotic role-playing games and you can also take your girl friend (or two) with you.

    Location

    If the apartment is full of dirty dishes, discarded clothes and a sofa, and your dog is still sleeping in the corner, then there will be no orgies. A sex party requires space, comfort and clean bedding. A decent-looking guest house with a bathroom, jacuzzi and luxury furniture is best suited for this. It is desirable to have several large beds, sofas or mattresses in the house.

    Warming up

    If you have managed to organize a party, famous porn actor Randy West recommends to turn on pornography in the background. This will ease and relax the atmosphere. Guests will start joking and their thoughts will move to desired destination. The party room should have drinks, erotic music, condoms and sex toys. There should also be food, and most importantly – dimmed lighting. Let your guests enjoy the jacuzzi. And the organizer must always make sure that guests do not feel excluded or unnecessary.

    The morning after

    The sun is already high in the sky, but the guests are still sleeping? You will have to prepare breakfast for them. But if someone wants to go home earlier, it is best to support and respect their decision. The charm of orgy is a delicate matter, so it would not be worth throwing offensive jokes on the subject of yesterday’s events. Say goodbye and go home – in the future you will have a secret. If you later meet any of the guests by accident or otherwise, a small nod will be enough to confirm your participation in the hot and passionate adult games.

  • Swinger parties – experience stories

    Swinger parties – experience stories

    So what does it really mean to attend swingers parties? Does it benefit the relationship? What are the risks of swinging? Reddit swinger readers share their swinging experience. (See also: Swingers clubs – strict rules and clear boundaries).

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    “I love to have sex with my husband and watch him make love to others. I adore listening his orgasms. In fact, we had a pretty good sex life before we started having group sex, but now it has reached a whole different level. I am very happy to be with him on this trip. I watch with excitement as we grow, change, discover new things, fall in love with each other over and over again. Just thinking about how make love, or remembering how he does it to others, makes me excited. The smell of his skin, his taste excites me. I think the swinging experience makes me want him even more. ”

    ***

    “My husband and I had a monogamous relationship for 15 years. I love my husband very much, but at the time I felt isolated as stuck in the corner. I liked to imagine other people craving me, and when I was 40, all those feelings became even stronger. So instead of cheating on my beloved husband, I decided to talk to him. Despite my fantasies, he was (and is) my dearest and most wonderful man.

    Hearing that I was planing to have sex with other people, it was natural that he was confused. But I wanted to feel lust so much, and I wanted to flirt with others. I wanted to forget that I am a wife, a mother, a housewife.

    Since my husband was not particularly interested in this idea, we initially decided to include another woman instead of a man. It was hard for my husband to accept that I could be aroused by another man. Since I had discovered bisexuality in myself a long time ago, I immediately agreed.

    That’s how we started attending swing parties – on the condition that I only have sex with women. We found a couple with swinging experience online. Because access to this closed community is not so easy, we had to receive an invitation from them.

    Everything happened in an extremely luxurious apartment in the city center. With toned windows, good music… Upon entering we saw a lot of half-naked and completely naked people who felt so free in their bodies! It immediately affected me (which I wouldn’t say about my husband). We grabbed one cocktail, then another, a third.

    Then the couple came to us, with whom we had talked online. We had a nice chat. A woman who, by the way, was extremely sexy mentioned that she would like to kiss me. We started kissing. It was nice, passionate, and I felt an unexpected excitement. She took off my clothes and caress my body. We stood naked in front of our men and enjoyed each other.

    After a while, I noticed that my husband was starting to loosen his pants. I never expected him to do it. He undressed, just came to me from behind and we started making love. My husband was so excited to see me kissing another woman that neither other people nor the environment prevented him from wanting me. I kissed an unbelievably sexy woman and at the same time I had sex with my husband! That was so good! I will remember this first swinging experience forever. ”

    Swinger party experience

    ***

    “My husband and I have been having group sex for a long time, but there is one time I will remember all my life. Our friend (an experienced swinger) celebrated his birthday and rented a party bus. Well, you know, that thing with bright lights, leather chairs, a bar and a stripping pole. The plan was to stop at his favorite bars and have a cocktail in each one. A total of 10-12 couples took part in the trip.

    When we returned from the third bar, the real party started on the bus! The girls began to dance at the pole. At the flashing lights, their bodies looked extremely sexy. Women were not ashamed to dance seductively (including me), to get naked, to flirt with men, to touch their bodies or to sit on their lap.

    At one point, the bus unexpectedly stopped, and the boys, our rescuers, hurried to catch the falling naked girls. Eventually, the guys undressed and everything turned into a wonderful orgy. I’ve never had so many fun moments in one night. And even now, when someone mentions a bus, thoughts immediately turn to that crazy birthday. ”

    ***

    “My boyfriend and I occasionally take part in polygamy activities (group sex, threesomes, sex parties). But, yes, our experience has been a real minefield. It took quite a while for us to find reliable, balanced and safe people to have fun with.

    As beginners, we saw all the crazy shit, all the drama and tears. Jealousy? Tons of it! It is extremely difficult to find nice, attractive people who are not fucked up. Once you have more than one partner, it’s like an explosion of mental problems and bad relationships that are one step away from disaster! I don’t recommend a polygamous relationship unless you’re determined to weed out the bad ones to find the real gems.”

  • Swinging – popular myths and interesting facts

    Swinging – popular myths and interesting facts

    Swinging is a process surrounded in myths and mysteries, which we often imagine as the plot of an erotic film. But in reality, swingers are much closer to us than you might think – a neighbor, a colleague or a former classmate – any of them can have group sex, and that’s perfectly normal! Since swinging is taboo even today, let’s take a closer look to see if the myths are true. Read also – “Swingers clubs – strict rules and clear boundaries“.

    Myth no. 1 – You can’t say “no” to anything

    Beginners tend to think that once you come to a swingers party, you have to have sex with whoever asks for it. In fact, there are couples who just like to watch. Group sex can only happen if each and every participant agree. Also in swinging events, it is normal to say that you don’t want to indulge in any activities with certain people or couples – participants accept this as a normal course of action.

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    Myth no. 2 – “I have to look stunning to get into a swingers club”

    Many people think that swingers parties are attended only by handsome, sexy people with excellent skills in bed. Remember, this is not a movie, but a reality with different personalities and different desires. Some want to have sex with an older couple, others like taller people, but for some, appearance doesn’t matter at all.

    Swingers are considered a form of community, and despite the fact that many people participate with the goal of diversifying their sex lives, swinging is not just about that. When defining a swinging community, it should be noted that they are usually carefully selected people, often in good positions and with a high level of education. Therefore, all participants are considered to be people and not sex objects, which means that there is no need to worry about various appearance imperfections.

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    Some interesting facts about group sex

    • In the Western world, 13-15% of people admit to having tried group sex at least once in their lives.
    • 18% of men living in the United States say they have had a threesome at least once in their lives. Only 8-12% of women said the same.
    • Women often see group sex in their fantasies with many participants. Men are more interested in threesome.
    • Nearly 30% of American adults fantasize about group sex.
    • A partner who has tried group sex in their lifetime is likely to be unfaithful later in the relationship.
    • Only up to 3% of people swing more often than once a year.
    • Group sex is most common in threesomes with two men and one woman.
    • Homosexual partners are much less likely to have threesomes or group sex than heterosexual people.
    • Women would normally agree to having sex with both two men and two women.
    • According to historical data, group sex was popular in Europe as early as the 16th century and the 18th century – swinging and group sex were almost a ritual.

  • Swingers clubs – strict rules and clear boundaries

    Swingers clubs – strict rules and clear boundaries

    Swingers’ clubs are places surrounded by myths and secrets, which we often imagine as the plot of an erotic film – young, sexy people dressed in latex, who cheat on their spouses in unimaginable ways. But in reality, swingers are much closer to us than you might think – a neighbor with a weird hairstyle, a company accountant or a former classmate – any of them can have group sex, and that’s perfectly normal!

    However, this topic is taboo in society and is even condemned – it is all a consequence of existing myths, so in this article we will try to introduce you to this type of sex.

    What are swingers?

    Mentioning the concept of swingers often leads to a wide variety of negative associations. One of the myths that has taken root in society is that swingers are old perverted sexually explicit people. But that is not true at all! A 2016 US study found that the average age of people having group sex is 41 years.

    According to various sources, swinging is often performed by married couples. Swingers are usually described as couples who have sex with another partner or couple. Basically, swinging can be described as exchanging sexual partners. Swingers are both heterosexual and homosexual, often gathering in communities, attending special swinger clubs and parties.

    There are several types of swinging:

    “Peaceful swinging.” This is the type of swinging usually beginners or couples who are in a long-term relationship do. They usually just want to get used to the new, inexperienced world of swingers. During the foreplay, participants exchange partners for oral sex or other games, but penetrating sex happens only with their other half. For the first time, others simply choose to watch what is happening and not participate.

    Swingers clubs - strict rules and clear boundaries

    “Closed Swinging“. Closed swinging usually takes place in one house/apartment with several rooms. Participants each choose their own partner and go to separate rooms to indulge in the joys of love.

    “Open Swinging“. To make it easier to understand open swinging, imagine one big room where you choose your favorite partner and have sex right next to others.

    Strict rules and clear boundaries

    2016 United States and Finland study swingers says that this type of sex is like a game in which pre-determined boundaries are very important. Why? Because it creates physical and emotional security, conflicts and other problems can be avoided in this way.

    Swingers clubs - strict rules and clear boundaries

    So it is not correct to think that there are uncontrolled orgies in swing parties. The concepts of swingers and orgies are different. Swingers usually organize parties in which partners exchange in pairs. People set boundaries, some participate as observers. Swinging or group sex is considered to be an intimate activity involving three or more people.

    Orgies involve a larger number of people, at least five, but there can be twenty or more. Orgy participants usually have no borders or taboos. Sex does not necessarily take place between couples, but simply between participants. The exchange of partners is accidental and all fantasies are fulfilled.

    Is swinging cheating? It’s up to you!

    Let’s look at this process primitively – having sex with someone other than your partner is cheating. However, everything is not so simple in swinging. As we have already mentioned, strict rules are important in swinging. The same goes for communicating with your significant other.

    Swinging differs from the usual polygamy because swingers only want to engage in this process if their loved one is also involved.

    To avoid conflicts, we recommend that you talk to your partner very openly before swinging, as well as set appropriate boundaries and expectations. Agree on specific signs that will make the other person know that you want to leave. However, it is natural that swinging is not suitable for everyone, so it is completely normal if one of the partners does not want to repeat this type of experience. You have to respect their decision.

    Important rule: do not drink too much alcohol!

    To feel more confident, many people consume large amounts of alcohol or other intoxicants before their first group sex experience. Of course, you can drink, but if you drink too much, you can lose control, not remember what happened, or offend other participants or even your loved one. Various intoxicants can negatively affect men’s (and women’s!) sexual abilities, which will negatively affect your group sex experience. Read more about the effects of alcohol in this article.

    Take your time

    Various movies and stories rarely reflect what actually happens at swinger parties. They rarely take place in any secret place, behind a door locked with five keys. In Latvia, such parties take place in saunas, private bars, homes and other traditional rooms and are more reminiscent of gatherings of friends than the orgies seen in films.

    However, no article will tell you exactly how your first party will go. There is little information on the subject, as participants in such parties cannot and probably do not want to share such confidential information. Therefore, one of the important tips for a first timer would be to simply watch the process. Don’t go into the adventure right away, stay with your partner, watch the evening, discuss what you have seen. This first experience will help you assess the situation, define your rules for the next time and not set your expectations too high.

  • The sexiest countries in the world – Greek libido and Norwegian orgasms

    The sexiest countries in the world – Greek libido and Norwegian orgasms

    Greek men were recently recognized as the best in bed – thanks to a healthy Mediterranean diet and grilled fish, olive oil, and feta cheese. From foot fetishes in Manchester to specific poses in Poland – here we find out which are the sexiest countries in the world and whether other countries can keep up with the Greeks.

    Japan – unwillingness to have sex

    ONLY 34% of Japanese people have sex every week, making them the most sexually dissatisfied in the world, according to a Durex survey. Long working hours are associated with a lack of physical contact between spouses.

    France – fast sex

    French people are much more likely to choose short sex classes, according to a survey. Slightly more than half of the men can prolong sexual intercourse by delaying ejaculation, and only 6% are able to stay for 13 minutes.

    Greece – the most to have sex

    According to Durex, 87% of adults in Greece have sex at least once a week, more than in any other country. They were at the forefront of a survey of 30,000 people from 26 countries.

    Norway – the most orgasms

    Norwegians are accustomed to cold weather, but it seems to be the capital of the world’s orgasms, says the sex toy company Lelo – 35% of the population say that they experience orgasms every day.

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    Great Britain – feet and foreplay

    It turns out that 1.5 million people in the UK have a foot fetish, with Manchester in the lead, followed by Leeds and Sheffield. The people who live here are also world leaders in the art of foreplay.

    Belgium – the cowgirl pose

    The “cowgirl” pose, in which a woman is on top of a man’s face, is the most popular sex pose in the land of beer lovers in Belgium, according to Dr. Ed.

    Poland – “spooning” or the spoon pose

    The spoon posture, in which a couple lies on their side with a man behind a woman, is the favorite Polish sex posture.

    Russia – the day of childbirth

    The Russian government has declared September 12 a “day of childbearing”, urging couples to stay home and have sex. Couples who give birth just nine months after this date are awarded.

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    USA – threesomes

    The US is the place to go for those who want threesome sex. This type of sex is especially popular in New York, Los Angeles, and Chicago, according to the dating app 3somer.

    One in nine Americans has been in a polygamous relationship. And one in six Americans would like to try it, according to the academic journal Frontiers in Psychology.

    In addition, 46% of American women prefer to sleep rather than sex, while 34% of men choose to masturbate before going to bed, according to a survey of sexual therapy Myhixel.

    Romania – public toilets and STD’s

    About 40% of Romanians believe that sexually transmitted diseases can be transmitted from person to person if a public toilet is used, according to the Global Sex Survey. It is very unlikely that an STD can be obtained in this way.

    Brazil – endurance

    Brazilians, who have sex for about 30 minutes on average, are the gold medalists of the world’s sexual endurance. But 44% of Brazilian women admit to falsifying orgasms, according to the book Human Sexual Behavior.

    Germany – nudists, swingers and armpits

    One-third of Germans like to bathe naked on the beach, and this nation has more swing clubs than any other European country. In addition, 23% of Germans will get excited by smelling armpits.

    New Zealand – self-confident women

    Passionate New Zealand women enjoy rich and varied sex and have an average of 20 sexual partners in their lifetime. This is the largest number in the world, shows Condoms.uk .

    Austria – number of sex partners

    Studies have shown that Austrian men have the highest number of sexual partners in their lifetime in the world, averaging 29.

    Thailand – cheating

    More than half of the Thai population admits to being unfaithful. The existence of a lover has been a part of Thai culture for centuries.

    Kenya – confidence

    By contrast, according to a global report by The State Of The World’s Fathers, men in Africa are likely to have children with two or more women compared to the rest of the world, although Kenyan men were on the continent’s list of most trusted people.

    Italy – oral sex and food

    According to a 2019 survey, more than 80% of Italian adults enjoy oral sex. A quarter of Italian couples watch porn together, and 24% use objects or food to arouse them. Almost half of the couples have sex two to three times a week.

    India – dislike condoms

    A Durex survey found that 95% of Indians do not use condoms, resulting in a Twitter chat under the snapshot of #HateCondoms asking why. Respondents said that it reduces intimacy and is a “lack of feeling”.

    China – the least orgasms

    It turns out that the Chinese have the fewest orgasms in the world, according to a Durex survey in which about 76% of people found that they could not reach a climax every time they had sex.