Fulfilling erotic fantasies, diversifying sex life – there are several reasons why we sometimes end up in the hands of a passionate stranger. Most importantly, this one night stand story has to have a happy ending.
To prevent this spicy adventure from becoming a lifelong nightmare, you should know that men and women sometimes imagine the term “one night stand” differently. Many men then feel a special intrigue and are happy to tell their friends about it. Women, on the contrary, somethimes feel used. These one night stand rules will help alleviate that unpleasant feeling.
Rule No. 1. Natural Selection
Don’t play with fire – protect your health, nerves and money, and don’t be afraid to sound stupid by forcing your partner to use a condom. Men are often very “creative” in trying to warn women in advance why they “must not” use a condom, for example:
- “I won’t feel anything!”
Of course, there are differences between sex with and without a condom, but everyone feels pleasure.
- “It won’t get hard!”
In this case, it is better to say goodbye to such an individual as soon as possible. You don’t have to solve his sexual problems.
- “I can’t have children anyway.”
This is not an excuse. First, you don’t know if he’s telling the truth. And in order to clarify this, he would have to show the documents proving it. Second, if he really can’t have children, you also run the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases, which are numerous and often difficult to identify.
A short but very useful phrase – “Either we use a condom – or there is no sex” – will help to avoid unpleasant situations in the future.
Rule No. 2. Without excessive cuteness
If you’re looking for a one-night stand, this is not the place for feelings. Save your sweet words, tender hugs and “spooning” to your one and only. Otherwise, you run the risk of scaring away a man who signed up for a one-night stand. Don’t be surprised if after such “bursts of tenderness” he moves away from you and suddenly remembers that he has missed a lot of urgent work.
Rule No. 3. Without emotional outbursts
Many women are often tempted to lean on someone else’s shoulder – to complain about a sad life, cheating ex, problems at work, etc. But such problems are best left to a psychotherapist. Avoid asking personal questions yourself – you don’t need this information at all.
Rule No. 4. Playing by the rules
Don’t want the beautiful moments of the night to fade away? Keep these tips in mind:
- Don’t stay until dawn, you can sleep at home. If you like, think of yourself as Cinderella who has to return by midnight or just before dawn – it doesn’t matter, the main thing is not to stay overnight.
- Don’t forget your keys, contact lenses, cell phone, earrings or wallet so you won’t be tempted to go back for them.
- Do not give your phone number! If you think this “relationship” has a future, leave your email address.
- Don’t get your hopes up for promises like, “I’ll call you,” “I’ll text you,” or “I’ll see you soon.”
Rule No. 5. Never fall in love
This is the shortest and most complex rule. A man who has fallen asleep after a passionate night looks so innocent, so helpless at the first moment… No matter how hard it is, you will have to “turn on” your brain and separate the storm of hormones from your feelings. In addition, if you follow rule no. 4, it will be a little easier.
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