Stagnation can affect all areas, and sex life is no exception. The intimacy of countless couples experiences a routine. Unfortunately, the thought that this is normal is of little comfort when you get into this rut or when the relationship has gone through a so-called dry spell.
“Routine is the deadliest enemy of passion,” says Alison Moon, author of “Girl Sex 101”. “The better we know the other person, the less passion remains in the relationship.”
Here are some tips from healthline.com that are sure to come in handy if you feel like your sex life is cooling off.
Try new ways to release energy
“Go for a run or do yoga,” suggests Moon. “When you strengthen your connection with your body, you will be able to strengthen your connection with your partner’s body as well.”
A survey found that people who are in a relationship but are sexually passive are prone to sadness and consider themselves unattractive. Regain your sexual appetite by finding new ways to move and love your body.
Fill your dopamine with new experiences
“New, engaging activities can enhance feelings of closeness and intimacy. Come up with something unconventional, unusual for you. Activities that are a little scary, such as going to an amusement park or visiting an escape room, could also be suitable, says sexologist Sunny Megatron. “Dopamine will be produced in the body, and you will be surrounded by the same feelings that you experienced during the most passionate phase of the relationship.”
According to experts, dopamine and other brain chemicals are directly related to physical attraction and romantic feelings. Therefore, engaging in a new activity together can reignite a pent-up passion.
Escape to another reality for a while
“Organize role plays. Invent characters for yourself, create stories for them, dress accordingly and get into the roles,” advises S. Megatron. (Want to try role-playing? Tips and ideas)
If you are not attracted to role-playing, a trip together can also give you different feelings. According to data published by the US Travel Association, even couples who simply travel together have richer and more passionate sex lives.
An erotic movie
“Try to understand as much as possible what turns you and your partner on,” advises A. Moon. “Certain pornography even has a very positive effect on couples.” Everything can be found on the Internet.
Pleasure yourself in front of your partner
“Watching you masturbate will allow your partner to see you enjoy yourself, and it’s a very intimate sight,” says Moon.
Letting your partner see what caresses you like will take intimacy to a more exciting level. Masturbation in general improves well-being, elevates mood, helps reduce stress and increases sexual passion.
“Get a remote-controlled vibrator and use it on a date. Give your partner the remote control and start the foreplay early. By the time you get home, your libido will probably be pretty high,” advises Megatron.
Conversations, conversations…
Ineffective communication can also reduce interest in sex. According to The Guardian, even couples who argue often are 10 times happier than those who avoid conflict.
“Don’t be afraid of serious conversations,” urges A. Moon. “Intimate feelings can sometimes be evoked simply by talking about a subject you normally avoid.”
If neither of you is ready to change, think about your own needs
A dry spell often comes from stress and endless worries. Fortunately, there are usually ways to wake up from it.
“Sometimes something very simple can help you get back on track. The problem is that many people do absolutely nothing because of fear or shyness,” says S. Megatron.