Erotic massage is a great way to strengthen the relationship between a couple. There can be stages in a relationship when you can’t find time to talk to your partner, let alone just be together. Massage is ideal for this purpose. You just need to prepare for it: the right atmosphere, smells, sounds… Don’t make the mistake of playing with your partner for a few minutes, thinking that the massage is already finished and you can get to the “dessert”. We’ve put together some tips and massage techniques that will come in handy when you give your significant other an erotic massage for the first time.
Let’s start with an erotic massage for a man:
Creates an appropriate mood
Ask your partner to undress and lie face down on the bed. If it’s cold, you can half cover him with a sheet. Dim the lights, light some candles and play some relaxing music – it doesn’t have to be typical spa music or rainforest sounds, but it should be something that your partner finds relaxing. If you want to make the moment especially relaxing, use an essential oil diffuser to release soothing scents into the air.
Awaken the senses
Before digging into your partner’s tight shoulder knots, help them feel grounded with light touch or sensory toys. Uses sensory toys such as feathers, fur, silk scarves, etc.
Use real massage oil
Once the introduction is complete, proceed to the massage. Use oils to create an authentic massage experience. Organic coconut oil will be suitable in summer, almond oil in winter. Be sure to check beforehand whether your partner has an allergic skin reaction to any of the oils.
Start (and continue) slow
At least the first 20 minutes of an erotic massage should be like a normal massage. Do not go directly to your partner’s erogenous zones. First, you should help him relax and only then slowly move towards sensitive areas. Use the part of the hand closest to your wrist to massage all the muscles in a circular motion. Take your time and focus on each muscle group (at least two minutes in each area) before moving on to the next point.
After massaging the muscles, start teasing
If you’ve already dealt with the neck and back, it’s time for the most sensitive areas. Access his erogenous zones without touching them. For example, instead of going directly to the penis, massage the area where your partner’s thighs meet abdomen.
Start massaging the intimate areas
Once you’ve teased your partner long enough, you can touch their sexy body parts. He should feel sexually aroused at this point, so even the lightest touch will make him moan. Start with a light penis massage: touch the area around the penis with circular movements. After some time, go to the next level (hard masturbation with hands, oral sex, etc.).
Let him finish
If you did everything right, there is a good chance that your partner will experience an orgasm, after which he will feel very relaxed. Ideally, let him fall asleep. Make erotic massage a ritual.
How to perform an erotic massage for a woman:
First, take care of the lighting
Lighting is important because it helps set the mood. You cannot do a massage with the lights fully on. If you can dim the lights in the room, that would be ideal. If you can find some scented candles along the way and light them, great. It’s the perfect way to start something sensual and sexy.
Music
An erotic massage is definitely not a good time to play heavy rock or punk metal. Turn on whatever makes her feel better. Try something like Bonobo or Portishead.
Aromatherapy
You definitely don’t want the room to smell like dirty socks or curry chicken. Scented candles are one solution. You can place them anywhere to light up the room you are in. You can also use a diffuser.
Oils
Invest a few euros in essential massage oils. You can also massage your partner with baby oil, but essential oils help to relax the body even more, and the aroma is soothing. If you want, you can add essential oils to the coconut oil. This is the best combination. You can also try lavender, tangerine, eucalyptus, vanilla essence and jasmine oils. Be sure to check beforehand whether your partner has an allergic skin reaction to any of the oils.
Do not start immediately with erogenous zones
Yes, it’s tempting to go straight to the goal, but patience! Her body has to be ready for it. Start with her neck, upper back, arms and mid back and then slowly explore other areas! But make sure your hands are warm! Before you start massaging, take oil in your hands and rub them together to warm them up.
Massage techniques that will help make this experience unforgettable
Shiatsu technique
If you have no massage experience, this is the easiest way to massage someone. This technique is based on one rule – rule of thumb. The main culprit of the process is the thumb: knead the body and make circular movements with it. The pressure should be gentle. You can apply this technique to the whole body.
Kneading technique
Have you ever kneaded dough? This technique is usually used to massage the deeper tissues and is suitable for tighter areas of the body such as the bottom and thighs. You can use your hands for this massage and move from top to bottom.
Nuru massage technique
This is another exotic massage technique that requires you and your partner to be naked and fully lubricated. It’s a contact massage technique where you rub your body against your partner’s body, massaging it while you’re both covered in oil. This is a great massage technique to bond with your partner. Many Nuru massage videos can be found online to help you understand the basics.
Genital massage technique
This should be the last step to focus on. When massaging your partner’s body, regardless of the technique you choose, make sure he/she is in a comfortable position and go over all erogenous zones (eg breasts, nipples and buttocks) until you reach the focal point. Slide your hands down your body and gently run over your genitals. When your partner’s arousal reaches its climax, start gently massaging the genitals.
Whichever technique you choose, listen to each other and believe me, you will want to repeat this massage again and again.