So how exactly is a perfect blowjob performed? And what is a bad blowjob? What methods to use and in what positions to do it? Today advice can be found on almost anything, such as how to imitate a “deepthroat” if a woman is not really ready to “swallow” a penis as deeply as he would most likely want to. Everything has its basic principles, which are often forgotten – and as a result, the partner receives much less pleasure or does not receive it at all.
You focus only on the head of the penis
The head of the penis is very sensitive. But if you work around it for too long, it loses its sensitivity and the senses become dull. Therefore, it is useful to focus on something else too. The penis itself is also sensitive, especially the upper third. And despite the fact that the sensitivity of the rest of it is not too high, most men appreciate it if a woman can perform deep oral sex by taking the whole penis in her mouth. But even if you do not intend to do so, it is useful to pay attention to all of his thing, licking it from the bottom up and vice versa.
You are not paying attention to his balls
They have many sensitive areas. Not all men know this, because they usually don’t touch their balls during masturbation. The scrotum can be caressed both by hand and by mouth. It is important to moisten it thoroughly with saliva, as moisture will quickly turn into a dryness – and this can be unpleasant.
You do it too fast
It is believed that a man is always ready for sex. But is he really? They also need adjustment – both psychological and physiological – and time to prepare. Therefore, oral sex should not start too soon and end too suddenly. A separate question is whether to let the man finish in your mouth. Not all women like this. If you are not ready to complete this process, it is a good idea to notify your partner in advance and offer him other options.
Bad blowjob is too intense
If you want to lead a man to orgasm as soon as possible, it won’t end well. Blowjob will be mechanical and will not be much different from his own masturbation. Your man will start to think that the process is unpleasant for you and that you just want it to end sooner. He may also feel that you are not enjoying it, but simply doing your job. If you ask – what’s wrong that? Well, men also want not only to be satisfied, but also to feel like objects of lust. Therefore, it is important for a man to receive various assurances that a woman wants him and that she is aroused too.
Too repetitious
Sex involves not only our physiology, but also attention and imagination. If the same thing happens all the time, the ability to concentrate is lost and the senses become dull (according to the natural laws of the nervous system). Simple back and forth movements are not enough – after all, a man can provide them for himself with his hand. Therefore, it is important to switch, involving different erogenous zones, varying and inventing new techniques. Balance is important: the movements must be changed, but not too often, so that the received impulses have enough time to add up.
You are too tense
Any pleasure, even an oral one, is not an exam. When a woman is tense, both she and her partner feel that she is going to do something complicated, difficult or even unpleasant. (The gag reflex is sometimes caused by insufficient relaxation.) So, first of all, relax the muscles of your body, face and neck. First of all create a comfortable environment and a pleasant mood for yourself.
Hiding your fafacial expressions
There is a popular saying – “Women love with their ears and men with their eyes.” Indeed, many men get a significant portion of their enjoyment not only from the feelings but also from the view that opens up to them. Therefore, it is useful to let him see what your face looks like during oral sex.
You are too quiet
The fact that men are visual does not mean that they are indifferent to sounds. Moand, sighs and admiration are what make them realize: you like what you do. He does not want to think that you are forcing yourself to do it just for his pleasure.
Not enjoying the process
Sex is a mutual pleasure. And if one of the partners does it without joy, the other will definitely notice it. Mutual enjoyment is especially important in long-term relationship. What to do? One option is to pretend you enjoy it, but it’s much better to learn to really enjoy it.
You can learn to show and feel pleasure. Can you imagine something that you didn’t like at first, but when you got to know the nuances, you liked it? For example, the taste of wine, jazz music or the Renaissance painting? In the same way you can dig into the complexity of the male genitals. You can fall in love with everything – start admiring it, how harmoniously everything is arranged down there, how exactly its shape corresponds to the intended purpose, how sensitive a man reacts to your interest and touches.
Improve your technique. Your growing skills and the responsiveness of your partner will give you more and more satisfaction.
While pleasing your partner, please yourself with a vibrator or your fingers (men like to watch a woman satisfy themselves), or choose the possition where your clitoris can rub against his leg, or allow your partner to please you.