Most people choose to be in a romantic relationship during their lifetime. But no one teaches at school what criteria you can use to recognize that this partner is right for you. How to accurately determine whether this is the right person for you, explains psychologist, psychosomatics expert and hypnotherapist Maria Timoshenko.
You should not look for a partner relying only on your mind or only your heart, because there is a very high possibility of experiencing disappointment. You should choose a partner with this unique tandem that will definitely not disappoint!
When we meet someone, we form an opinion about them in the first second. And only then does the mind intervene. If we listen only to our heart, we can miss important things and factors that form the basis of a happy family life. And if we listen only to our mind, we risk creating a family with an unlovable person. That would be really sad.
So how do you know your partner is the one?
If you feel inexplicable anxiety and worry when making a conversation, it is worth thinking about what causes such feelings. This is a signal your body is sending, so it’s wise to listen to it. It’s possible that this person is behaving suspiciously, but you just don’t want to notice it. Or you have created a perfect image of this person in your mind and you do not want to see their true nature.
Your body never lies to you. In no case should you ignore the signals it sends.
There is a misconception that if the looks of your new crush takes your breath away and you start behaving like a fifteen-year-old teenager, then this person is the one for you. To be honest, everything is a little different.
When this condition takes hold, you simply cannot assess the person in front of you with a clear mind. In this case, we tend to ascribe qualities to a person that they don’t have, or we miss warning signs that are really worth paying attention to.
The right partner will not cause you fear, confusion or extreme anxiety. On the contrary: spending time together will be comfortable, pleasant and fun, and you can just be yourself. This will be the person with whom you will want to conquer the world and share the most intimate things.
In a state of peace and relaxation, the mind works at maximum capacity, so nothing prevents you from adequately evaluating your chosen one. You will be able to see their strengths and weaknesses and things that are worth paying attention to. Chances of being disappointed and wasting your precious time on the wrong partner will be greatly reduced!
Opposites attract?
There is such an interesting stereotype that opposites attract. And there is a grain of truth in it. Many people have heard of the concept of yin and yang and the unity of opposites. But the fact is that very different people who have created families together simply cannot live with each other, especially when it comes to household matters.
For example, you are a complete pedant, but your partner does not see the need to collect clothes after themself or wash the dishes after themself. In this case, there are only two options:
- Come to terms with this fact and clean the mess created by your partner,
- Or conflict will arise.
In terms of temperament and personality traits, an active and lively person sometimes needs a calmer and less ambitious partner, but only to a certain extent. Such people will strengthen each other and form a great and strong family team.
How does our body react?
List of body reactions that allow you to check if a partner is right for you:
- You feel comfortable with your partner. Your body is relaxed, you don’t think about how you look every moment.
- You are honest and don’t try to pretend to be better than you really are.
- Your partner is interested in you, you want to touch them.
- You trust your partner and you can talk to them about all sorts of things without feeling uncomfortable.
- You smile and laugh a lot when you are with this person.
- When talking with your partner, neither your thoughts nor your tongue are “tangled”.
- You are not afraid to disappoint your partner.
- Your breathing is calm and even.
- When you are alone together, you can indulge in silly things and not limit yourself.
- Before meeting them, you feel a pleasant excitement and elation.