Everything has its time and its place. The bedroom also has its own rules, which can violate intimate life. Even a trifle like a switched-on mobile phone can drastically change the mood of both of you. Let’s take a look at the laws of the bedroom that will enhance your intimate life.
Do not turn the bedroom into a gloomy and negative place
Before falling asleep, many couples share their daily experience, which is not always the best. In this way, the place for enjoyment and relaxation turns into something gloomy and unpleasant. Move problems and issues to another location. Try not to make unpleasant associations with your bedroom, as this may be reflected in your intimate life.
It should also not be forgotten that the bed is not a place to criticize your partner, especially when reproaches and criticisms are heard when the partner is not only emotionally vulnerable, but also physically naked.
Remember that when talking about intimate problems outside the bed, it is worth being very tactful and delicate, so that the words spoken do not undermine your partner’s self-esteem.
Feel free to share your fantasies and desires
Many women and men in the bedroom do not get what they really want. The partner is the same person as you, he cannot read your thoughts and will hardly imagine your fantasies unless you tell about them yourself. Feel free to remember that speaking is the only way to express your wishes. Tell your desires constructively, focusing on what you want, what drives and excites you – such a conversation can be the beginning of truly passionate intimacy.
Remember, if your partner loves you, he will listen to your wishes, but no one has to do what he does not want. New activities and fantasies should be enjoyable, attractive, and safe for both of you.
Do not exaggerate the meaning of orgasm
Yes, orgasm is very important, but it is not the only thing to focus on during sex. Sometimes sex doesn’t even end with an orgasm, such as when you’re with a new partner and you don’t know each other. Excessive concentration on orgasm may prevent you from achieving it. Hurry and the question “Are you done yet?” also doesn’t help much. Be clear – don’t pretend you feel better than you really are.
If you imagine an orgasm in order to finish something faster that does not bring you any joy, then this situation will not improve in the future.
Do not hide your feelings, let your partner understand that not everything is the way you would like. Together you will be able to find a solution. Tell others what you like and don’t like. Remember that it is perfectly normal if a woman is not always able to reach orgasm.
Do not give in to the rules imposed by society
It is generally accepted in society that happy couples have sex several times a week, and couples who are less sexually active are less happy. Sex once a week can really strengthen ties and relationships, but more frequent sex will not strengthen them if you engage in it just to meet some imaginary criteria.
None of the partners should have sex just because it is “accepted”. You can also express your connection and closeness in other ways, such as kissing, giving each other a back massage, or taking a shared shower. Physical intimacy does not always have to end with sex.
Do not pull into bed, your work and social life
Whatever the cause of your stress – a hard day at work or a tense relationship with a friend or loved one – it’s best to leave it all behind the bedroom door.
In order to be aroused, a person must “turn off the brain”. This is especially true for women.
It is important to relax, and if you work in bed, it will be very difficult to do so.
The phone can also be disturbed with the sound on. New messages or emails can spoil both of you at once. Your partner may think that intimacy is less important to you at this point, and you may begin to judge who might be the sender of the message.
Do not suffer from discomfort
Some people think that it is normal to experience mild (or severe) pain during sex. But this is not the case – intimate intimacy must not cause discomfort and pain, it must be pleasant and satisfying for both. If one of the partners hurts, there is no need to remain silent – it is necessary to talk about it and make a decision.
Discomfort, pain and discomfort can seriously impair libido, as a person will not want to experience it again and again.
If a woman is in pain during sex, it may indicate that she is not aroused enough and needs longer foreplay or other methods. Discomfort may also be associated with hormonal changes in the premenopausal period, lack of communication, or inappropriate sex posture.
If you feel uncomfortable, tell your partner and feel free to use a lubricant. If the pain persists, consult a doctor – it may be for medical reasons.
Don’t worry if something fails
Romantic love, during which everything happens as in the script, is only in the cinema. You and your partner may have different problems, but that doesn’t mean there’s no chemistry in bed between you.
For example, erection problems can occur at any age and for any man.
The causes can be various: circulatory disorders, excessive alcohol consumption, fatigue, stress. This does not mean that a man is unable to have sex or that a woman is unattractive.
In such moments, the woman needs to show maximum understanding and tact, because men are especially vulnerable in these moments, and any careless word can cause a pile of emotional difficulties that will hinder your emotional intimacy in the future.